I’ve been going out with this girl for 2 months. She’s suddenly became too “busy” with school over the past couple weeks (ignoring my texts, not being available) She’s taking a lot of advanced classes, so I know she has a lot of homework and study to do, but I feel like her interest is slippy away. She used to have super high interest (she would drive 2 hours to my place every weekend)
Did I handle this well? Do you think she’ll be back eventually?
Girl too busy means she is busy with some other dude 😅.
No, you did not handle it well. You kept begging her for a date, even after she told you she was busy. When a girl says she is busy, she is not interested.
If a girl is busy, but still interested, she will find time for you and counter offer with some other day and time.
Next time same stuff happens, just text them back that you are too busy as well, because you have 3 dates in the following week and is too confused which one to pick.
No, it's a complete fail. You simply cannot forge a relationship with someone by texting them. I'd say you're acting more like a complete moron. You bring no value to her, you're like a petulant child. My guess is she's got someone else. And I'd also guess it's over. You can't negotiate attraction and desire - it's either there or it's not. If she's not gaga over you now, she never will be - I guarantee it.
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I say yes because she doesn’t seem so interested so it’s best to just cut ties and move on. You were direct and you weren’t mean so I say yes you handled it well.
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Also if she realllllly wanted you, after seeing that last text (if it were me) I’d fight for the guy and offer something. Your texts weren’t saying “hey f you never talk to me again!” They we’re just like, hey I’m serious about you but you have your priorities so hmu if you’re interested” and so if she was interested she’d hit you up.
I don’t understand why you’re acting like them when you just said you know she’s been busy with school the last few weeks…you’re taking it way too personal.
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If you want to make time for someone, you will. Plus all the ghosting she’s been doing, I feel like she’s full of shit
That’s not necessarily true, I’m taking 4 college classes and I’m swamped with hw and tests and studying plus I work a job too! My boyfriend and I haven’t been able to talk very much almost like 1x every few days because he has 2 college classes and does hockey and tennis. We just try to understand and talk it out. We still love each other very much but we understand that things are just busy rn. I think you were personally being a little too harsh. She’s probably stressed and has other things going on. A better way to have worded it may have been something like “I’m interested in getting to know you, and I know your busy but I would like to spend time with you.” So it’s putting the ball in her court, but at the same time showing your sensitive and care and understand. Without being needy.
@piper_jackson what I meant by “we’re not doing this” is how she ghosted me all of last week, waited 24 hours to respond to my invite, and then didn’t even offer to reschedule
Almost nailed it. The "on second thought" thing was a weak move. Also, I think would have been better had you just responded to her last message with "oh man--that sounds brutal! Good luck!" And then deleted (not blocked) her number and texts knowing that she's fully out.
It sounds like she's getting her priorities straight. Driving two hours one easy to see you every other weekend is not compatible with college attendance. Are you also in school?
Wow, that was harsh. You absolutely did NOT handle it like a "champ." Maybe she really is busy with school and homework. You took this way too personally.
