Did I deserve it? How to make it better?

[Anonymous]

Today we (Me Male and my girlfriend) were at a friends house to watch the world cup. We were 10-15 or so and we were gonna sit on a mattress and then my girlfriend made a remark about the mattress being saggy. This random dude whos a distant friend then said:"Not as saggy as your boobs", and he started laughing. I also cracked a laugh, I wasn't taking it seriously.

My girlfriend got angry, and wanted me to beat up the guy. When I laughed and said she needed to relax, she called me a wimp then kneed me in the balls very hard. She then said something like the world cup is the perfect chance to kick balls and hopefully my saggy sack will enjoy the pain.

Then she just left, I was really hurting and she left with the car so I had to walk like 5 miles to get home cuz my other friends were drunk. That shit hurt as hell, I had the icepack on during the whole walk home.

I don't know why she was so serious, she's made me sleep on the couch now in our apartment and she said I should never let any man disrespect her body. I thought it was a joke he was making nothing more...

Help me, was I wrong and how to make it better? I tried to go talking to her but she was still angry and had her foot ready to swing at me so I didn't bother.

[Anonymous]

You deserved what you got. If you were a man, you would understand that you don't let another guy talk about your girl's boobs, especially in a derogatory way. You should have demanded that he apologize. Since you don't understand this, expect your girlfriend to start looking for a man instead of a boy.

[dustybiker]

Yeah. Bad choice. Damage is done now though.

Most woman do not joke around like guys. That was harmless between you, I get it.

Guys show their love for each other through insulting humor. My guess is she probably wasn’t raised around boys, so she took it to heart.

You’ll have to wait until she comes around.

[anonanonanonomys]

She shouldn't have gotten violent. But it's borderline emasculating for you to not have defended her

[sirderpsalot123]

You should have demanded an apology from your friend. That doesn't give her the right to assault you though. The same way it wouldn't be ok for you to hit her just because she did something you didn't like.

You shouldn't want to be with someone like that. Find someone who is better at problem-solving.

[dustybiker]

They were all as bad as one another really.

[sirderpsalot123]

Disagree. When someone does something kind of bad, and then you go and do something worse (like assaulting someone) the other person gets a pass.

I don't care how angry she is, the relationship ends the first time she hits me.

I have had negative experiences with women. I didn't beat them. You can control how you react to things.

[sirderpsalot123]

If a guy hit a woman out of anger, nobody would care about what his reason was for being angry.

[dustybiker]

I get what you mean. I wasn’t diminishing anything either. He didn’t defend her though. That’s a violation too.

[sirderpsalot123]

I agree with you on that. He should have defended her. A full on knee to the balls was overkill though.

[dustybiker]

Agreed. Completely.

[sirderpsalot123]

You changed your picture 😁

[dustybiker]

Yeah. It started bugging me because it bugged you. Thanks for that seed of annoyance. 😏

[sirderpsalot123]

Funny because I started to like the other one because you liked it 😂

[dustybiker]

*snort-* 🙄

[dustybiker]

I still wore it best.

[sirderpsalot123]

I still prefer your current one! Don't worry. It wasn't for nothing.

Agreed, lol.

[dustybiker]

lol 😎

[RavVid]

You want to stay with a girl kneed you? You should have her charged.

[TroyDT2]

So you laughed at a bad joke and she got violent and kneed you in the groin? I'd dump her immediately.

[tfan1]

Bad move - You laughed at the bad joke about her.

[Anonymous]

Okay, just to help set the stage a bit what size are your girlfriend's boobs and when she's topless what direction do her nipples point?