My daughters father hasn’t seen her since January we broke up in March a have been off and on we’re in two different state he went off to play basketball claiming he was doing so to put our little family in a better position basketball didn’t work out due to him getting injured…. now he’s in ATL still promising to make things good for us only for me to find out he’s partying living the life chasing females I think he’s in a new relationship due to a picture I saw…any way he has not sent money or anything else for our daughter all he does is FaceTime her…now he only FaceTimes her while he’s at work in the am I guess he’s tryna hide the communication from the chick he’s dealing with…. at this point I feel like I should cut off communication our daughter is 8months she deserves better…what do you all think?
It’s just FaceTime, not like he’s breaking promises or anything she’ll really remember right now. I know part of you is trying to protect her but I think a bigger part is some resentment towards him on your end.
He’s out partying, dating, etc while you’re being the real parent and all he gets to do is FaceTime then disappear. I’d be pissed too. I won’t lie, it sounds like he’s being pretty shitty rn, but what you don’t wanna do is something you’ll regret. As someone who grew up with a single mom and a pretty shitty dad, I can say that I’m glad my mom gave him a choice and he chose not to take it.
If we had FaceTime back then, that’s one thing she wouldn’t rob me of.
She didn’t intervene with any of his efforts, the only thing she didn’t do was force me upon him. He had to come to us, and if he didn’t then that’s for him to live with, not her. On top of that, once I got to a certain age I was able to see the truth for myself. If it ever came to that with your daughter then she will learn as well. But for now, consider it like coparenting, since it’s about her mostly.
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This depends on how old your daughter is. If she is physically FaceTiming him, herself then I think it would be rather a horrible move to not allow her to do so, as she doesn’t understand any of those issues you have explained and you would only be convincing her to hate her father for adult based reasons.
As a kid whose mom used me as a pawn in a divorce I'll answer you that yes you should allow her to talk to her dad if she wants to.
Be the bigger person about this.
I think your daughter is entitled to a relationship with her father.
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Seems like your arguments is coming from a place of you being hurt by him, not what’s best for your daughter. What he deserves or not is irrelevant, it’s what’s in the best interest of your daughter that matters. And it is best for her to keep in contact with him. If he’s calling her every morning then that’s good. She sees him everyday and gets to know him. Value every contact she has with him, unless he’s a danger to her then it’s beneficial for her to have a relationship with him no matter what you may think of him. And make sure you do not speak badly of him to her.
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