Ok, so my gfs daughter calls me dad, but now that she's mad she's telling her not to. Am I the only one who thinks its too far?

[Anonymous]

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New development. She won't come out of the bedroom and I feel terrible.

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And now she is messaging my friends telling them untrue things, so I have no where to go.

[Avicenna]

I read the other responses and your additional information in response to them. A few thoughts:

This woman does not respect you and is just using you for whatever it is she is getting from you, be it financial or attention. It's a passive aggressive power trip on her part. She clearly has some psychological issues.

I do not see what you are getting out this- it's not like you can't get pussy elsewhere from a woman who doesn't have psychological issues. She may well have Borderline Personality Disorder (it would not surprise me).

All that said, if the child's real father is still in her life or wants to be, her mother should not be letting her call another man "Dad". But that isn't her motivation here- she is using the child as a pawn.

This situation is a good example of why you do not want to date single moms.

[Asker]

The father has never been in picture and has even denied she's his.

[Avicenna]

Then you definitely do not want to be involved with this woman

[SnowedIn]

That thinks what's too far?

That the daughter calls you dad? (No, that's not.)

Or that someone told you not to? Can't figure out who that is from the way you wrote the sentence.

[Asker]

No the fact out of the blue she told a three year old not to. I feel that's wrong.

[SnowedIn]

Ohhhhhhhh -- I agree with you.

[_Maya_]

Waiit so the girlfriend is telling her daughter to stop calling you dad because she is mad at you? Can I ask what happened? Yeah that is a bit much and confusing if the kid is young. She should stick with one thing that the child likes to call you and not change it based on her mood. That is childish in herself. It is like she is using her kid to punish you which is beyond ridiculous and potentially confusing for a child.

[Asker]

She's mad over nothing. She thinks I've lied about something and I haven't. I really did get my new job. I live with them. The kid said dad got me water and she said no Brent got you water. Then this morning tried to tell me she's seeing someone else that makes her happy and actually works. Which isn't true. I just moved here and now all of a sudden she doesn't believe I got a job. It's weird all the way around.

[_Maya_]

She seems toxic af.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well the mom has already made a string of bad decisions.

[_Maya_]

Of the latest lying about being a cheater. Wtf on that one...

[KrakenAttackin]

Gibberish.

[Asker]

What I'm saying.

[Drumlin2001]

Is the kids real dad invovled?
Tbf if your girlfriend dosen't like it you should respect her wishes. It's her kid. How long have you been with her?

[Asker]

No he is not. And she was the one to encourage it until she got mad.

[Asker]

Also a year is how long

[Drumlin2001]

How old is the kid?

[Asker]

She is 3 years old

[Drumlin2001]

Tbh it all sounds rather toxic so you may need to think bout whether it's worth it. It this really how you want to be treated for rest of your life? If it's going to end it may as well be now.
And if your friends are really your friends you should be able to explain the situation and they should have your back.

[KrakenAttackin]

Why are you dating a single mother? You can do better bro.

[Asker]

I do love her even after this crap

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... it's lust not love. She doesn't love you she wants your resources and your dick in her pocket. She will always long for the Chad Thundercock who she tried to baby trap. She will tolerate you but not love you. I'm sorry but this is reality.

[Asker]

Damn

[jahaims]

Unless you broke up then that is too far. If she treats her kids like that it is a red flag

[Asker]

I don't know if we are done or not. She's back and forth. Literally 48 hours ago we had one of the best days ever.

[jahaims]

She is a nut. Just run. She is single with kids for a reason

[Asker]

Her ex warned me she was and I chose to defend her but now like I'm thinking he wasn't lying.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... this is her way of amping up the drama and keeping you off balance. This is major manipulation.