She's 5 years old and she's like my little mini me. I don't believe in being friends with your child because I have to be a mum first but she definitely feels like my best friend at times and I love her to pieces.
We do everything together and everyone says she's like my mini me. We have the best times together. We're always having mummy and daughter days. We love dancing, shopping, all things girly.
Me and her dad have a good relationship to a certain degree. He's always been there for us both and he's a great dad I can not deny that it's just he has nothing in common with are little girl like I do and I think he gets jealous.
When he takes her out he takes her camping or fishing and she tells me she hates it because it's cold and dirty but I always encourage her to make a effort and try and get her excited for there trips out together. He says it's my fault because I've raised her be to girly and only like the stuff I like which I don't think is fair at all.
She's 5 years old I can't force anything on her, she is who she is and she likes what she likes. She might change her mind one day and decide but she likes camping and fishing but the thing is I don't force her into these things she voluntary takes interest unlike her dad.
He doesn't take any interest in the stuff she likes, it's always got to be what he likes to do. There's no harm in him playing princess tea party with her you know what I mean. He might not enjoy it but he should enjoy making his little girl happy.
I feel like he cares too much about his masculinity to do the stuff she'd actually enjoy. I feel terrible because when she comes back and I say how was your day with daddy she says she hated it right in front of him and I have to tell her off for saying that.
He always blames me to and says I've turned her against him when I actually haven't I think he's a great dad and I always get her to make him little pictures and stuff when he's not around.
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A mother can bring a family together or break a family apart.
Is this an ex. or you guys are all together?
There is nothing better than doing family things together. Your child will be raised to decide what she likes when both parents do things together.
There is no jealousy in our family who are not together. We continue to encourage our kids to do things with dad/mom and love and respect each other. We also have phone conferences/facetime to discuss matters that are important to the kids to ensure them that they matter... therefore we take the time to have family discussions.
We are no longer together. I've suggested spending Christmas together as a family but he has a girlfriend now and she gets jelouse too even though I've also invited her over too.
I would suggest NOT get his girlfriend involve in any form or way…it can cause a lot of unnecessary drama.
Continue to raise your child separately, Show love and respect by teaching her even though you guys don’t live in the same house. However, both parents love her no matter what.
Share with her her fathers great qualities and why:how you twos love make a beautiful baby like her. That she is as pretty AND KIND as mom and strong AND SMART as dad! You get what I’m saying.
I truly hope women who are in the family and in separated family do this … it will help make our world a better place that they grow up to be emotionally healthy and smart and strong.
I see our society falling/failing due to women no long putting family first.
I really do try my hardest to involve her dad to but he's too much of a man's man and my daughter is the total opposite and fights with him a lot even at five years old.
I don't know if it's because she's bitter about the fact he's not with me and we don't have a traditional family like her friends but I try my hardest to make it as normal for her as possible.
I invited him for dinners and family parties but he just wants to watch football and completely ignores what's she doing.
He tells her she's beautiful and she's his little princess which I find really sweet and he give her lots of cuddles but he has no interest in doing the stuff she likes. It's as if, if watches a Barbie flim he might turn gay like get over yourself your a grown man no one cares
baby steps. you are trying. keep it up... its a life time to raise a child. always be respectful of both parents, so kids are not in the middle or feel sad too much.
you can always make anything positive.
wow... look daddy loves _____ ... he is like a super hero!!
wow... daddy is _____ he is so handsome!
Sounds like he is trying with his love and affection.
but your words about how you say about your ex. also mean a lot to her. those words can make her pick the type of man in the future. (surprise?)
I was just on the phone with my ex. husband for over an hour talking about our children from school work, to mental health, physical health, future financial plans, our Wills. We always put our kids before ourselves even when we have been apart for 10 years. now.
kids want parents together no matter what. but when they see that we care about them and talk about them, that they are very important... at lease they feel at ease even when we are not in the same house.
in terms of negative stuff... my ex. had anger issues and was disrespectful to me. I noted to the kids... such behavior is not acceptable and to not copy daddy... we have to tell daddy that, its not nice to put his big palm over your little face. its not cute. you have to tell daddy. so obviously, i wasn't there.. and kids learned from dad. my ex. got that from his father... but my ex. was an only child.. no one taught him... that is a disrespectful act.
last week... my son did that to his little baby nephew... the baby cried.
so as you can see... parents.. every little thing we do/say.. will affect the child.
be a good model, show her how amazing she is and from two amazing parents!
I dont think you're too close and the dad is just getting annoyed because he's trying to spend time with his daughter but everytime he does she says she hates it so who else to blame but you. I would recommend not asking her how her day was in front of him😂 at least util she's old enough to mu fuckin lie or something
Maybe just have a talk with the ex dude and tell him what she likes do to or rather what she's into. He doesn't necessarily have to fucking go shopping with him but it's clear she's not into getting dirty or sitting on a boat fishing
If he can't handle that discussion well then that's his fault
Sounds like you need to give him a son.
That's gonna be hard as we're not together