Did this not go so well?

[HappyWoman34]

I had a phone conversation with a salt of the earth country guy. I’m a sophisticated city woman and we seemed not to connect on life views or common interests. I got the impression that this guy didn’t like me, because after ten minutes of talking, he wanted to go. After previously having let me know that he was single and that he found me attractive.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I was born and raised in the country and I've never been interested in city girls. I don't like anything about big cities. I go to the Blossom Festival in spring and the Harvest Festival in autumn and love being a hick. When I buy groceries I usually run into half a dozen people I know and stop to chat. If he's like me and you're the type of person who likes living in the city, he's not going to pursue anything because living in the city is my worst nightmare. I'll choose a small town country girl every time

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Maybe he found you to aggressive or pushy.

I am both American and Canadian, born and raised in Toronto, but many from that city, and NYC, the two cities where I have lived most of my life in, are impolite, and are very, very pushy.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m polite, but I am very opinionated, so I can see that as a possibility.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Yes, opinionated can sometimes be a slight, or a minor, or in some cases, a major -- turn off.

I had to start serving butler in the buff style, and then turned to stripping, as I was injured, and then -- I was audited. Bureaucrats took my money and wrote things, like I was conducting illegal business, and part of the Italian/ Guyanese mafia.

After loosing my livelihood, I was forced to take my clothes off for women, and was and am still doing it.

Anyways, many times when I bump into very opinionated women, I either try and please them, or just try and run.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 And many times, when serving or stripping, I bump into girls who are very opinionated, but as long as I get paid, and do not get overly scratched or hurt, I just play along, as doing otherwise can lead to other situations, of which, can mainly become quite negative in nature.

[HappyWoman34]

Fair enough 😊

[HappyWoman34]

I’m sorry you’re in that position

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 It is okay, I guess. I am slowly moving back into my career, and will be moving to Europe for school and my career later this year.

I feel and felt like a piece of meat many times, though, quite honestly.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 You just made my day, sorry.

Every time I talk or think about the story, I feel so, so bad.

[HappyWoman34]

How awful, feeling reduced to being viewed as a sex object. Hopefully, things will improve for you.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Yes, I do feel awful, sometimes.

It is better than starving or being in jail, though, right?

[HappyWoman34]

That’s true.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@HappyWoman34 Quite honestly, at least I can wear a partial mask to disguise and cover who I truly am.

On the other hand, yes, I do feel like a sex object when I have to go nude, and the girls touch me.

Moving forward, though, I only have a few to several months more of this, right?

[HappyWoman34]

Yes, true. Then after that, you get to choose who touches you, if this experience hasn’t put you off sex forever.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Yes, you are right.

From my gym teacher/ track coach in elementary, to my mother's best friend, to Playboy model's, to the juvenile female officer who stripped search me, it was has been a very bad experience.

Quite honestly, after CoVID-19, the girls want fully nude serving and shows, and it is getting worse and worse. Thank goodness my health and my legal issue (s) are starting to be placed behind me.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@HappyWoman34 And sorry, it is not good to be in a room filled with mostly drunk women yelling "Penis, penis, penis!" while you are forced to dance and do acrobatics.

[HappyWoman34]

No, of course not

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 And sorry, but I forgot to say my own mother placed her hands in my crotch when I was sleeping. I was like nine or ten year's old when I caught her, and she never did it again. Bad, bad experiences.

[HappyWoman34]

Sounds upsetting.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Well, at least it gave me something to fall back on, as I know how to surely please most women. I was born with a larger than average penis, though, so it kind of have it downsides. Also, I am a very athletic and fit person, too.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 Even my own mother, though, right? C'mon...

[HappyWoman34]

Yeah, that’s awful

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@HappyWoman34 Quite honestly, as you can probably tell, I am at crossroads now. However, what do you think I shall do, or direction I should head to?

[HappyWoman34]

I’m not sure. One thing I know is that giving up isn’t the answer. Go ahead with uni and finding a job, whether that’s working as a librarian, at maccas, as a doctor or a chef.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@HappyWoman34 I think I am going to wind down the serving and stripping, or just do it on the weekends, as I ease back into my studies and work.

Serving and stripping is hard work, though, as I have to maintain my body and complexion, and also the schedule and dancing can be gruelling.

[HappyWoman34]

Sounds like a plan 😊

[HappyWoman34]

You’ll get out of this line of work. How do I know this? Because I had friends who were prostitutes. They were women. In time, they got married and got good jobs that had no relevance to prostitution.

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@happywoman34 It all started after I broke my leg, after I started to run professionally with grown men when I was 14. Only my mother's best friend could help pay for the surgery, but she took advantage of me. She was a partner/ co-owner of a strip club, and I was forced into serving and dancing to pay off the debt.

You still know or in contact with these girls? Was it hard for them, or did they have to struggle financially for a bit?

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t know them anymore. They chose to move on without me. It was terrible for both of them.

[HappyWoman34]

They got out of it though and you will, too. 😊

[OurBacheloretteDream]

@HappyWoman34 Quite honestly, I like showing off, though.

The issue is, the money is good, but I am expected to go fully nude, and do lounges and backflips. And, I do not mind the girls taking pictures or oiling me up.

It is when they scratch or grab my penis, is where it starts to go too far. Unfortunately, when in and working for a club, I cannot really say much, if anything, as it is the opposite for male strippers.

[lightbulb27]

no, that can happen. Green Acres is TV, not real life.

[Daniela1982]

If you have no commonalities it is best to let it go, not like you can do anything about it anyways. You won't jive with everyone as every person has their own set of rules and wants. You didn't fit into his and he might not have fit into yours. It happens all the time.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

After 10 minutes? Yes, it sounds like it didn't go well, based off of what you said. There's a chance that I could be wrong & there's more to it than that, but if not, I wish you luck with others in the future.

[Billlewis]

Sometimes conversations just don't feel right.

[Twalli]

Insofar as you both found out that you won't be a good natch early, it went very well. In terms of a romantic relationship between the two of you, Chernobyl had less devastation.

[dudeinohio]

Personality can make or break a relationship. I'd say you aren't compatible.

[WhitneySnow]

He might not be your match

[MsBrie]

Doesn't sound like it, no.

[Jennz6]

Maybe it’s your personality?