Do you think I handled this appropriately?

[blissinanarchy1]

There was this girl I was talking to. She seemed mad cool, we were on the same page with expectations for a relationship, and she came right out and said she was interested. We had the same boundaries, she was really attractive, not ran through, and laid back. She was busy a lot, she works full time and is a gym girl. So I get not replying fast 24/7. She told me she does whenever possible, and she followed up too. Past few days however she just been extremely distant. Now, me and her already had a communication issue, and I think it was solved in a very open and healthy way. I expressed how I felt like I was on a backburner, and she apologized and explained she got stuff going on, and then it went well for a while. Then it happened again. We set up times to hang out a few times, shit popped up each time. We were supposed to call a few times, same thing. So I called it quits, because it seemed to me she was soft rejecting me. I gave her day to text me, because I ALWAYS text first, to see if she would. She didn’t. So this is what I said:

[Hulk_kitty]

spot on pal, don't chase them, The way I think, people can and will make time for you, if you are important enough to them. Yes life can get in the way of all of us sometimes, but then people should just state for how long this problem will be ongoing, so the other can make an inform decision, to continue the relationship.

Its like I have told friends, not to contact me much over the next couple of months cause I studying to enhance my career. But When I have sort myself, I will be in contact with them.

[Hulk_kitty]

I don't want to put them on the back burner, or make them feel I don't want to know them I have stated, over the couple I will be busy studying, and not to contact me much, but once I have sorted myself out, I will let them out.

People generally need to be clear with the intentions.

[gorydetails]

Your text smacks of desperation. She's saying to herself right now "Jeez, I dodged a bullet", not "Oh man I really messed up with this guy I was totally into". Sometimes it's better to just fade out and not waste time on someone who doesn't make you a priority. Creating a shit-test that she wasn't aware of is passive-aggressive.

[blissinanarchy1]

Wasn’t passive aggressive. It was direct. Desperation is blowing her phone up asking why she’s ignoring me, etc. Ghosting is much more toxic.

[Adaeva]

You are her backup plan. If that's good enough for you, then fine. If not, forget her and keep looking.

[ColHathi]

Hmm, I mean I might have worded it differently, but it doesn't sound to me like you're being unreasonable.

[blissinanarchy1]

How’d you put it?

[ColHathi]

In truth it probably would've sounded very similar, because I'd struggle to contain my frustration too, but normally in a text like this I'd only want to express my disappointment that it didn't work out or that we seemingly weren't on the same page, because if you let your frustrations out, it's gonna sound like an attack, which isn't really fair to her. I'm sure she wasn't trying to hurt you.

I also wouldn't have stated that she isn't interested or that she doesn't care as though it was fact. It's likely you're right, but you can't know that for certain. I'd have said that that's what it feels like or seems like, and that that's not working for you.

Probably also would've left out the last bit where you wish her good luck, because it sounds like you're gritting your teeth as you say that, lmao.

That said, this is all just pure nitpicking, lol. I'm sure it would've amounted to the same thing anyway.

[blissinanarchy1]

Wishing her luck was meant to have a vibe like “go ahead, see other dudes idgaf”

[msc545]

You did the right thing. A woman who treats you like this is not worth the chase and actually chasing women in general is not worth it. Women gather male friends that they mistreat all the time. Don't be one of those guys.

[RavVid]

I think you could have done it better by being more taciturn.

[Anonymous]

Not really. it seems a bit whiny.
The best way to deal with an entitled bitch is treat her like she is the least important person in your world. Leave her on read, etc. Females only want the guy who isn’t trying hard.

[Brittanyroseee]

Did she end up responding? Why don’t you call her?

[blissinanarchy1]

She didn’t respond. And I tried calling her a few times before, didn’t work. And after this kind of message, I don’t think a call is warranted. Besides, nobody wants to be called randomly.

[Brittanyroseee]

Wow.. what was the conversation before?

[Brittanyroseee]

Thats weird she didn’t reply

[worldscolide]

Handled perfectly.

[worldscolide]

I would add that if she can't make the time for you, than you should not waste your time on her.

[blissinanarchy1]

Yes sir! Appreciate the support

[worldscolide]

You're welcome. It's sad because most of the pinks on here will try to defend her poor behavior.

[Tstrbrainer]

If she's ready for relationship, she'll have time