On a first date, do you want to talk about your job and/or your date's job?

[Jammaa]

Yes to both

Yes for my job, not my date's job

Yes for my date's job, not my job

No for either of our jobs

Something else (comment below)

[SaoirseS]

Sure as long as the interest is genuine and doesn’t come across as perfunctory. They usually know what I do for a living, and some aspects probably creep guys out. But some questions come up, and it’s a good chance for me to ask questions about his work. Some guys don’t want to “talk shop” during a date and that’s fine too.

[DizzyDesii]

Briefly. Just be like, “So do you work?” Yes. “You?“ Yes. “Is it legal?” Yes. “Does it involve hoeing?” No. There, nuff said. I mean down the road, i’d like us to ask eachother if we make stable income enough to afford our own bills. But thats it. I dont need to know how much he makes and vice versa

[smokeyshaman]

I don't think it's a requitement to talk about each others job for me, but I don't mind the topic at all; so long as I don't feel that the other person is only focused on money, as I value wealth probably the least in anyone, and prefer to be treated in the same way (esp by a potential future partner).

[matchrestore]

Like it or not, in our society work occupies around half of our waking hours, at least. Don't let work monopolize the conversation, but talking about work a bit is just fine.

[loves2learn]

It is for this reason people should not do work they don’t enjoy. We spend too much time at work to hate what we do.

[matchrestore]

Also keep in mind that some peoples work is a vocation- something they want to do, not just something they do for a paycheck- its part of their identity.

[matchrestore]

@loves2learn we wrote similar comments at the same time. I work in live event design and theatrical lighting design, and for the most part I find my work very fulfilling, and I'm very passionate about it. Asking me not to talk about "work" is asking me not to talk about a large part of who I am.

[loves2learn]

Yes indeed. I am sure you have gathered from what I write on here that I enjoy helping people. I arrange events for financial advisors and they are so appreciative for my help. 🥰

[loves2learn]

Sure. That is a great first date topic of conversation.