Disappointing text after first date, what should I say to him, and could it be because he just wasn’t into me?

[sarahe77]

Hello everyone. I met a guy on a dating app and we talked for about a month before meeting, since I was out of town. We finally met 4 days ago, and it was a nice first date. Everything went well and I asked him if he would want to see me again and he said Yes. We’ve been in constant contact until yesterday I realize he was quite distant. Today I woke up with a text saying “unfortunately over the past few days I’ve realized I’m not over my ex. Its been a confusing time and I’m trying to figure things out. Regardless, I’m not in the right mindset to be dating. I’m sorry, you’re really great and deserve the best.” It’s quite disappointing but I don’t know what to say to him at the moment. How should I respond to this? Also in the back of my mind I’m wondering if he’s saying this because he just doesn’t like me physically and using the ex as an excuse? Or could it be genuine? Thank you for your advice and insight. I don’t have any experience much with dating nor friends in person to talk too about situations like this so here I am online!

[EssenceOfLight]

".. I’m sorry, you’re really great and deserve the best.”
"How should I respond to this? "
don't respond or say something "thank for your time" or "thank you, the date was enjoyable"

"Also in the back of my mind I’m wondering if he’s saying this because he just doesn’t like me physically and using the ex as an excuse?"
There are many reason but you will never figure it out.

"Or could it be genuine?"
unlikely but every lie contains some truth

You shouldn't look back. Sometimes when there is zero chemistry is better to say "you deserve someone better" because it's true, when you aren't interested in a serious relationship and you know your attitude will hurt that girl at long run.

[therealricksanchez]

Well, he is being polite and giving you a reason (even if you feel the response might not be the real one), so, first of all, don't assume it is because he didn't like you or felt attracted to you. It wouldn't be a bad idea that you respond to him, but do it quick so you dont give the impression youve been thinking to hard on this, whether you decide to move on, or you want to find out if you could still get in touch. Since you only had 1 date, it is not such a big deal, you could just move on and just say to him that you understand and wish him well. If you want to be in touch with him, try to find out if he is open for it or maybe if you could be friends. That will give you more info about if he's interested or definitely not. Personally, I would choose to move on

[Anonymous]

If this even close to being serious, you wouldn't be wasting your time on texting. Talk to him or move on.

[EricSummer]

Move on. He is just making excuses, but the truth is that you were not his type when meeting in real life.

This is always a risk with people you first meet online, and there's really nothing to be done about it. It does not mean that you are not attractive enough. It's just that not every two people are compatible in that way.

[lorenzomichael]

You don't have to respond at all. And so what if he didn't like you for whatever reason. That's the way it goes sometimes. Don't be down on yourself. There will come times when it's you that's telling the boy that your not into him. Besides maybe he needed to go out with someone else after he split from his ex to see if he was over her. Either way I wouldn't worry about it.

[Truthatanycost]

'I appreciate your honesty, I enjoyed our time. Take care!'

[Sparkie460]

You should text him. Ask him if he needs a little time to get over his ex or does he just want to end it between you two. Maybe he might just change his mind after hearing from you.

[slatyb]

Ignore what he said besides "I'm not interested in dating you." Date someone else.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You don't have to respond.

[In_Trance]

Yea, i think you should move on

[Iron_Man]

Give it time

[sarahe77]

Based on his text it sounds like he’s ending him and I dating though.

[Iron_Man]

Sorry