Feeling down, under accomplished and I’ll be 24 in a few months?

[Anonymous]

I feel incredibly down because I haven’t accomplished anything and I’ll almost be 24.
I’m disappointed in my weight, I’m not driving , I still don’t have my degree and I’m broke (no job) I work seasonal.

I am still in school, but I don’t get my degree until next spring.

I see other 23/24 year olds living life. They’re done with school, traveling, dating and being adults. I feel like an absolute loser. I am a loser.

I had a late start in life because I was dealing with depression. Mental health robbed me of a lot of time I can’t get back.

I found a passion but I don’t feel passionate about it because I feel like I should have been successful in it by now.
im mad at God and myself.

[Anonymous]

Hey girl looks like you told about my experience.
Even I'm graduating LATE when I'm supposed to be WORKING and I'm turning 22.
I wasted 2 years in a wrong major, I was even pressurised and manipulated by others to keep doing that major.
But I will suggest you one thing, don't go for masters, it's a huge waste of time and money.
Don't let people tell you what to do and where to go, have a deep session of sorting things out.
My career is in media but ironically I just wanna be an actor and I regret that why didn't I started at the age of 12? The one I'll be competing against are well established with YEARS of experience so my passion is fading and I feel like to end this stupid life.
It would have been easier to get established by now.
My classmates are 19-20 and they're doing internships. I envy them. I just wanna join theatre groups but this lock down ruined it.

[Opinion Owner]

I will get bachelors degree by the way. I'm ashamed of it because my rest of the classmates will get it when they're 20-21 ... I'll be 23 years old till then... ;(

[Asker]

Well shit this makes me feel worse because I’m older than you

But I understand and I would rather get my degree at 23 than 24.

I would still try and pursue theatre! Join the group! You never know what will happen!

I’m in art and I’ve been doing okay. I’m actually pretty close to the art professor who has been helping me and seeing some potential in me. I just wish I would have took art more seriously when I was younger

[Opinion Owner]

Even I ignored art when I was young. Our stupid society always made fun of people who opted for arts. Science stream is prestigious according to them and even medical field. I ended up doing those exact things and I also have an abusive mother who not only never supported me but also tried to sabotage my self identity. People think 'academics' is EVERYTHING. But hell no it's not!!

[Asker]

Lol same. We are very similar but just keep going girl

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, you too.

[sheikalana]

You're not a loser. You've been through a few things in life and that's okay. Your mental health should always be more important than everything else if you're not 100% well how do you expect to achieve things in life. That's perfectly fine and you're still so young and still have so much time to achieve so many good things in life. Focus on finishing your studies. Opt for healthy habits. Save as much money as possible and believe that you can do it and get whatever you want and you will.

[Asker]

This makes me feel better

I go through waves of depression thinking about it

[sheikalana]

That's normal cheer up. Bad things don't last forever.

[NathanDavis]

Can you talk about your passion?

[Asker]

I love art. I paint and draw.

I started taking it more serious in 2019 but I’m kind of giving it up

[NathanDavis]

Have you looked into theraphy yet, to deal with this level of negativity you're feeling and is coming out as self-sabotage.

Have you dealt in any way with your depression, have you looked into support from anyone, friends or family.

[Asker]

I probably should seek counseling

[NathanDavis]

I think that is the best way to go, becausre there would be many components to depression, and they all should be addressed, while talking about it with someone can be really good, that good might be temporary on the surface.

It is very important to find support and to active and proactive about resolving it from the very root, and this when therapy can work very well, when you have a committed professional that will dedicate to it with you, and for you.

[Asker]

Okay, I appreciate it dearly

[In_Trance]

Do you have a question?

[Asker]

Just how to handle it or how to deal with feeling this way.. or advice