so I'm 25, currently living at home. I do pay rent, clean and a lot of the times I have to borrow money from my mother and repay her on my pay day, because I'm bad at managing it. I want to set a strict plan, but I always spend and it's becoming an issue. I want to control it but I just say "next paycheck" it never comes. I also have a few baby teeth that need to be pulled and have to get my permanent teeth down. I have been stalling on getting the procedure done cause I'll be without my top canines for a while. Anyways, I feel so down and depressed. I often question my intelligence but my therapist says it's anxiety and not a low IQ thing. She said by the way I talk I seem to have average intelligence.. which is a relief. Sometimes you get into your own head. I'm working on building my credit and buying a new car. Then a house within the next few years going to look into a mortgage if I can save some money within those years. I need to build a routine and learn to cook healthy, I'm being complacent. I have my CNA, working third shift really is difficult but it's fine for now. I continuously call in surprised I still have a job, I am in the hospital working as a tech. I want to learn how to be confident. What are some ways or tips or tricks to being this way? And not taking shit from other people?
Really struggling at 25?
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There is a lot of information in this post I could comment on. Do you want advise for any of it, or just for confidence?
To achieve more confidence, identifying your self-worth is key. So is feeling like you are in control of your life. You are trying to achieve that now, which will help.
Any of it would be amazing. I really do appreciate your advice you have already given me. I touched base on a lot of stuff in this post lol. It was a bit messy.
As for the money situation, the best thing you could probably do for yourself is ask your mom to NOT give you any more money to bail you out, for any reason. You won't tighten your belt until you're really strapped... But you'll make it. Because you'll WILL it. You'll realize the power inside of you to accomplish this small goal that only lasts a short period of time (are you paid biweekly? That 2 weeks).
You're probably depressed a lot by your living situation. When you start initiating and taking control of your life, your depression will lift some. It did for me. It will gradually improve as you move out, get stable, and start your life.
It might not CURE your depression, but it will help. A LOT.
You're trying to do 100 things at once which only overwhelms you. Start by getting your teeth fixed. Next, work on a budget. Put 10% of your paycheck into long-term savings. Work on living within your means. Then work on cooking. That also helps save money.
Maybe you should consider getting a life coach?