Is being 25 and single terrible?

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Im 25 turning 26 this year and have been single for a whole year. I've been focusing on studies and my career and other important things. I've gotten shamed for being single at 25 and people also believe there is something wrong with me since i'm this age and single. I was in a relationship a year ago with two guys but neither wanted anything too serious with me. They are both in relationships with other women and taking them serious. One of them has shamed me for being single too. I can't tell if there's something wrong with me or what.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is nothing wrong with being single. The right person will come along at some point or another. That will help you along with your life and you’ll do the same for him. There isn’t any reason to be with someone you’re not attracted to and you’re not in the place to put the effort in that he deserves.

They’re shaming you because evidently unhappy with their own lives. Tell them to fuck off and mind their own business.

The right guy you’ll know when you meet him. He will be someone that helps you accomplish your dreams and you help him do the same thing. I’m not saying things won’t always be easy. But you’ll know when you see it.

It’s not worth my time either to be in causal situations and being in one sided relationships where I’m expected to drop everything for someone who refuses to do the same for me. If you’re not in the mood to be in a relationship then that’s a good choice for yourslef and your future partner.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, positively, no. It’s not an easy feeling when you’re in that moment - I was at 25 but I was overly focused on my career at that time and doing my best to establish myself. As a young I had quite a few peers like that. I think that 25 is a good starting age to start looking for someone in life and anything younger than that is more of a gamble. I’d say enjoy the freedom of being single and 25, spend some time figuring out what you really want in a relationship, and really invest some time in getting to know what YOU want out of life. That way whomever you meet is merging their life with one you really cherish and are happy with. It’s a better foundation.

Seinna · Accepted Answer

It's not a reason to feel ashamed and 25 is still young but it's definitely time to start seriously looking for a partner.

It will get more difficult if you wait and the best guys will be taken.

No need to stress about it but definitely take a proactive approach and don't wait for fate to intervene because it won't.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

26 is the age I got single. It’s pretty normal I’d say.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I really doubt there is anything “wrong” with you. Not that it matters but you also have had relationships which should give you a little confidence at least? Assuming you are prioritizing or focusing on your career and other parts of your life then why does it matter what people try and put on you for your choices? I’d agree that certain people beleive there is a stigma attached to being single but that’s just bullshit , put those people who attempt to shame you firmly back the cave they peered out from. You can decide when and if to change your single status and only when you’re ready to do so otherwise what can you truly offer your perspective partner?

Bricealan · Answer

Upon returning for the military at 27, I went to an employment agency, to look for work.

The Moron that interviewed me asked me why I was 'single' at 27 ? Then the simpleminded asshole asked me if I "... had any social problems" ? "What do you mean, Social Problems" ? I asked.

"Well do you belong to any Gay Liberation" movements... he asked?

I went to the Owner of the agency and made a written complaint.

Later went to another Agency and told the rep about the incident, and he laughed out loud... and said: "I love it, Bozos like that keep sending ME new clients every day"

So apparently, some MORONS think there is something wrong about being 25 and single.! Tell them to kiss off!

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong with it. You’re focused and doing the right thing prioritizing your career. Don’t beat yourself up. I’m 23 and live in a city where most people are in relationships or even married a little younger than me. I’ve had a similar experience, dated 2 guys.. both relationships failed. I decided to continue to put focus where it needs to be and if I’m even meant to be with someone, nothing will stop them from being with me. The people who try to shame you have no reason. It’s better to be alone and focused than wasting time with someone who you’re not meant to be with

bobalife · Answer

Don’t let exes and people opinions influence your views of yourself. Don’t be ashamed that you’re single. Embrace being your own person and the right person who will appreciate you for you is out there and worth the wait than being with the wrong person. I’m single and I prefer it that way until I meet the right person I’m looking for and treats me right.

DishLady · Answer

Being any age and single is honestly not so bad. It give you time to get to know what you truly love to do without factoring in a significant other (SO). Some people don’t know who they are without an SO (even if that person is basically just an acquaintance). It’s important to know how to stand alone before you know how to stand with others.

Asb_Samson · Answer

Not at all. You have your own life. Keep remember you know yourself very much in comparison to bastard commenting about you. You have your own life Norms, so as far as those are not threatening to others I think you should follow. Stay blessed always.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Are you kidding? You're right where you need to be! 25 and single is perfect! You're working on the most important relationship you will ever have - the one with yourself! Build that life! Oh, and if anybody has something to say show them this: ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️

Tonita91996 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with you when I was single I used to think the same thing when guys didn’t want to take me serious. I think a lot of it has to do is with being impatient because I really wanted boyfriend and ignored all the red flags because I was so desperate to have a man and now I regret rushing. You have to be care in the work because people don’t care about you so it is better to use your head instead of your heart because when you rush you be in a bad situation.

DextroShade · Answer

In China they would call you "sheng nu" which means leftover woman.

In Japan they would call you a Christmas cake, because nobody wants those after the 25th.

Lucky for you we are far more forgiving in the West, provided you stay fit, keep your body count low, and don't be a bitch.

onedarkcloud · Answer

When you are ready you will move on, I think you have a full plate with studies which I think is more important to finish without having a guy tag along and distract you. Age has nothing to do with being single. Some people never marry and are happy as A PISS CLAM AT HIGH TIDE! They date, love have kid without a man in permanent residents. YOU lead your life don't let others run it like THEY think it should be lived. Give yourself a pass on it.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Tell him to stop teasing you 'cause he doesn't have a chance anymore. Then watch him get frustrated. 🤪 Kidding aside, why are you still talking to your ex? That person is toxic af.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I'm 42 and i'm single since 3 years now... and i'm very well on my own... No reason to rush really, true that time flies, but i rather let the time fly than meet the wrong person or start a relationship that won't last, or end up in regret...🤷‍♂️

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I think that's the reality. people look for love and the tv drama and movies show that there is love to be found. but in reality everyone is alone. even the couples feel alone. I mean... we need to wake up from the stories that showing on movies and books and live in reality. reality is cold and harsh.

Mr_twoface · Answer

Don't allow to CARE about others opinion! Do what is good for you and makes you happy! Enjoy life the way you want and stay positive throughout!

AbsentLight · Answer

Sorry to say it but it sounds like your group is being jerks. Why do they have the right to shame you or tell you you need a boyfriend? Seems like you got your hands full right now? They should understand. Men are a lot to handle lol. I have male friends in their 30s still single because they just haven't found the right one yet. Be patient, get your priorities done, then when you're ready your man is waiting 😊

HappyWoman34 · Answer

No, I think you’re being smart. You’re still young. Men will always be around. Time is on your side.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I'm right behind you and single. At times I'm lonely but I'm setting myself up for a good future. Living in the present can be tough for sure. That said you're in a different ball game biologically if children is something you want.

Sonorous · Answer

Times are changing. Many people our age aren't in committed LTR's. Good for society? Not sure. But it's normal now.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm 30 and single. Is it terrible? No. But the loneliness does get pretty rough. Life is always more colorful when you're sailing through it with someone by your side.

Hellur991 · Answer

I mean if your happy, and just doing it on purpose to find yourself as a person hell no it isn't terrible at all. Your mentally

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