Ready to give up on dating. How can I go on dates when I have an eating disorder and every guy just wants to take me out for food?

[Anonymous]

I’m struggling big time. I’m 25, I’ve had an eating disorder since I was 14. It started as bulimia, then anorexia subtype and now mostly I eat super healthy but limit my foods to like 5-10 foods. I’ve been single for so long so each day I just eat the same and it’s been fine.
Now, I’m wanting to go out and date. I look healthy, I’m around a BMI of 18 (skinny healthy). I love food but I hate hate eating and the horrible guilt that consumes my head afterwards, not to mention the self hate and further restriction following eating anything outside of “my foods.” And I get terrible diarrhea if I eat normally now.

so. Met a couple guys. They want to take me out for food. One guy has two restaurants his family owns and they’re both fried junk food. He wants to take me to them. Another guy wants to take me out for dinner. I just feel like giving up and ghosting then even though I really do like them and we’re compatible but I can’t deal with eating junk 24/7. I can’t deal with being 5 pounds heavier when I’m trying to get thinner. I want to look nice for my dates and I can’t if I’m eating outside my range and get a pregnant belly look. I’m just so frustrated. I can only offer so many non-food ideas before they wonder why I don’t want to eat around them. And I don’t feel comfortable telling guys I just met “hey can we choose non-food options because I have an eating disorder” and I am not going to say I’m vegan because I am not and that would show later.
Please someone help?

[Kurαȷ]

Being upfront about it as soon as possible is really your only option.
It's best for them to acknowledge and understand what your condition entails, otherwise you will always be at risk of generating anxiety for yourself.

Because even someone who doesn't eat junk food themselves and appreciates your weight, for example, isn't a very safe person for you to be around if they aren't aware of your condition.
They could further exacerbate your condition by their preference for thin, or by making the mistake of commenting on your weight gain and so on.

[scott04sa22]

I give up on dating recently because I keep on getting hurt and getting hurt all the time it's not healthy for us. Best thing we can do is cope with it. You're using foods as comfort maybe Talking with friends or something might help. Also men doesn't like women who are desperate so right now just take a break from dating and heal at the mean time.

[djfhsjk]

I think the best option would be to just tell him upfront and honestly. I know it's uncomfortable but it will save you a lot of trouble later on. I don't know much about eating disorders but maybe talking to someone about it could help?