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I am poor and I am comfortable with non-managerial/non-supervisory positions.
I am very quiet and sweet and meek type of lady. I worry that many jobs are not suitable for me. I struggle to even call the attention of a manager when I have a question.
My voice shakes and so on at times like when I have to express a concern to a manager.
I become a limp veggie.
Honestly I accept who I am. I just need to make a living because I have no husband.
Thanks
librarian, janitor, any job that does not require you to interact with people all day, maid work, audio transcription, typist, data entry
I'm 26 and when I was a kid / teen, I used to be ridiculously shy or practically mute but I ended up growing out of it. The only thing that I have to warn you about being a lifelong shy person is that you will miss out on everything. This includes finding a husband, getting promoted, great job offers, side income. This world is not built for shy people. Everything circulates around social interaction. It would be very hard to find a spouse if you avoid talking to men. High paying prestigious jobs are given to people who network. People who know how to interact with others that get the most opportunities.
From my many long years of experience, people like those who like to talk, show interest in getting to know others. You won't believe how much friendlier people treat you , after you talk to them a little bit.
Since you are young, I highly suggest you not condemn yourself to a life of misery and try to break out of your shell bit by bit every day. Every day, say hi and smile to someone new. After you get more comfortable, say how are you? Trust me, you think the world is judging you, but nobody is. Everyone is concerned more about themselves and how they look than caring about judging you. Even if they do judge you, who cares? you can easily move onto the next person to make a better impression.
I'm the same. I always needed jobs that didn't require a lot of interaction with people mainly cause it causes me a lot anxiety. I'm also not a problem solver and dealing with customers/managers that get impatient or rude quickly would kinda make me panic. I think jobs like stocking or zoning are good, it's just putting stuff on the shelves.
You can also try food service in hospital. It's what I do, all you do is deliver food to patients and that's it. It very easy work minus the walking.
How did you get into that? What would you call the position?
Funny you should ask, my best friend is like you and I just spotted a girl just like her at the ER the other day! The ER girl was the janitor. Probably not even 5' tall, VERY quiet, even when I said Hi to her, she responded almost in a whisper. Kelly's the same way, VERY quiet and introvert! She so secretive about her life, I haven't even seen her in about 10 years and she only lives a few miles from here!! Outside of the school, where I met her in electronic music class in `02, I've only seen her 3 times!! She has also done a janitor gig and has done a lot of store stocking since then. Some stores only have stockers work over night while the store is closed so, maybe you can do that. You basically just have to re-stock the shelves from one end of the store to the other and face all the stuff that's there and you pretty much work solo. You could work in the library re-shelving books.
One of the last gigs I did was as a janitor and, most of the day, I just sat around doing nothing! You do your morning rounds and if nothing else needs done, immediately, you're on your own the rest of the shift unless either the boss or someone else needs you to do something or you spot something that needs dealt with.
Kelly was so quiet I could hardly hear her when she was sitting next to me! She's still pretty quiet but I helped her come out of that a little shortly after we met.
@I87tjp98 I would like to, too but, she only talks in e-mails, now and, half the time I don't even get answers to them. She's got two kids, now and a boyfriend and, last I heard, a month ago, the kids were developing some not very nice social or psychological behaviours, which I blame their father for. He is a psycho!! She's also got at least one job so, according to her, she's ALWAYS busy. She gave me her number a couple years ago but, any time I call it, I just get an answering machine and no return calls from her. Like I said, she's VERY private. How she even got boyfriends is beyond me! I'm much more open and outgoing than she is and I can't get a girlfriend no matter how many rocks I look under!!
You can do what if you're physically weaker?
@I87tjp98 Yes, a lot. I think of her as my little sister but, it IS kinda hard to maintain a feeling for someone you get next to no contact with. I DID accidentally kiss her, once. I'd just broken up with my ex-fiance a short time before and was actually still used to being with her and, Kelly & I were sitting quite close together (she put my arm around her and her hand into mine) and, we were just listening to music together and, suddenly, I got this urge to kiss her so, I turned towards her and gave her a kiss on top of her head (she's only 4' 11" to my 6' 9") and IMMEDIATELY apologized to her because I know she wasn't interested in me romantically and I REALLY had NO idea I was even doing that until it happened and I was more interested in gaining her trust in me than anything else but, she just sat there and said, "That's alright." and we just continued listening to music until almost 2 hours later when she said she had to get ready to go to work that night.
If she WANTED to be my girlfriend, I just might take her up on that! We DO both have a great love for music!!
Well, the only buckets I had to deal with were on wheels so, emptying them out was the only time I had to lift them and, most often I never had more than a gallon or two of water in them. Why fill therm up if you don't need to? Most of the buckets I dealt with her full of paint. They had me do a lot of painting! Partly because I'm so tall that I could easily reach the higher ceilings and walls.
Have you thought about being an accountant? They tend to lead very quiet, simple lives.
@I87tjp98 I doubt you're stupid!
If I remember correctly, she said she had sex with someone in Conn. before she came here. I think it was a short-lived boyfriend.
Then, when she was 16, she met some guy (from here) online and started talking to him. Over the next 18 months, or so, they apparently fell in love. She was 17, he told her he was 20 or 21. As soon as she graduated high school, she packed her bags and moved here to be with him. I think that was a HUGE unexpected surprise to him because he had next to nothing to do with her when she first got here! He (Mike) SAID he'd be over to help her move in but, he never showed!! The guy in the next apartment (Greg) saw her moving in and offered to help. Once they were done, he raped her!! From then on, he made her life a nightmare for as long as she stayed in that tiny apartment!! At one point, she was talking about killing herself because of it! Once she finally told Mike about Greg raping her, Mike accused HER of cheating on him with the rapist!! There's LOTS of sick episodes she had to deal with from THAT sick asshole!! Actually, BOTH of them!!
After she & I met in an Electronic Music class in college, we became very close friends and considered each other to be brother & sister. We'd get online almost every night around 11 and chat until about 3 a. m.!! I finally talked her into leaving Mike at least twice and it looked like she did! But, the first time, she went right back to him! He eventually told her that his real age was 27. She was still 19! A month or two later, he FINALLY told her his REAL age!! 37!! She was FURIOUS!!! But, she stayed with him! After dealing with more of his psychotic shit (among other crazy shit, he found out that I'd accidentally kissed her on the top of her head and accused her of having sex with me!!), I talked her into leaving him again. This time, it REALLY looked like she was done!!
@I87tjp98 She was supposed to come over to my place for breakfast one Sunday and then we were gonna go to the basement and see if we could write some music and possibly start a band. I talked to her about 11:00 a. m. and she said she'd be over in about 10;00! She never showed! Worried that something happened to her, I kept trying to contact her but couldn't raise her at all!! A day or two later, she wrote an e-mail saying she had to get the hell away from this crazy place for a while to sort things out and she'd get back to me once she figured things out. Suddenly, Mike starts writing me from her addy asking if I knew where she was! I did (back home in Conn.!!) but I wasn't about to tell him that I knew because HE'S what she was running away from!! A few days later, she writes me an e-mail titled, "We have to say goodbye" My heart dropped through the floor!! He made her stop talking to me!! I was SO brokenhearted over this I cried almost constantly for the next 18 months, or so!!
Finally, Christmas eve, I'd had enough and decided to write her no matter what he thought of it! I was SURE SHE isn't avoiding me on her own!! The next day, I got the best Christmas present I ever had! She wrote back to tell me she was happy to hear from me and she didn't CARE what Mike thought about it, she was gonna stay friends with me!! And she gave me an update on her life since we last talked! I did likewise in response but, 2 days later, she wrote back to say that Mike was insanely furious and didn't want her talking to me anymore!! NOW, I was PISSED!!! And, at least now, I KNEW that SHE wanted to be friends!!
About a month after she stopped talking to me the first time, he got her pregnant and married her! She had a boy, Josh. This time, she was already 7 months pregnant with a girl, Jamie, who, as far as I can figure, was born the same day (or damn near) as Josh! (I have a pair of cousins like that!)
@I87tjp98 A few months later, she started talking to me again and didn't give a rat's ass what Mike thought of it!! Maybe a year later, they got a divorce!! Not long after that, she found ANOTHER boyfriend!! (All this time, she'd been telling me that if she left Mike, she'd never be able to get another boyfriend!! And, if she did, he'd be even worse than Mike so, she'd just better stick with what she's got and learn to live with it! She proved herself wrong 3 more times!!
This new guy sounded a lot better but, after a couple years, things just didn't gel well and they broke up. The next guy was also nice, from what I'm told but, he only lasted a few months before they decided to break up! Then she found ANOTHER boyfriend!! This one, she's been living with for the last few years and he doesn't sound like a bad guy either but, last I heard, although they still live together, she just doesn't feel love for him, anymore. And, her kids are in their early teens, now and starting to show psychological issues! I'm sure they got them from Mike!! After the divorce, he'd not only torture Kelly by keeping all the clothes SHE bought for them and sending the kids back to her in rags but, he was also abusing the kids!! Once Kelly found out about it, she had his ass tossed into jail where, as far as I know, he still rots to this day!!
She's moved 4 times since the night we spent together at her place and, so far, I have no idea where she is other than, she's about 5 miles from here.
Sorry for the novel.
@I87tjp98 I think that if age wasn't such a barrier for her, we'd probably hit it off quite well!!
She doesn't date a lot of men. She's only had 5 over the past 20-some years. She also just about your age. She'll be 38 in 2 months.
@I87tjp98 When I checked your age the other day it said you were 93! When I checked again yesterday, it said 39! Then, I looked at your first posting and it said you were 20 but, I'd already mentioned that Kelly was nearly your age.
No, I'm not seeing anybody, these days. Apparently, nobody wants me!
Well, we met by accident at a show I was playing. A few weeks later, we started seeing each other steadily! After at least a year, I asked her to marry me. She said, yes. A few weeks later, I mentioned to someone in the entourage of the band that we were gonna get married, she heard me say that and said that she NEVER said, yes!! Yyyyyyeahh, that's why she told her ex-hubby (who lived upstairs of her) about it and then he came down to have a discussion with me about marrying her!!
About 4 years later, she completely stopped fucking me and said that I'D had enough! (I'LL let you know when I've had enough!) At least a year or two later, she said she didn't want me to put my arm around her in public, anymore because it was like saying that I owned her! No hand holding or kissing in public, either! (Am I allowed to look at you or say hello, once in a while?)
One or two years later, she's doing a fairly good amount of hanging out with some guy she called, her "FRIEND, David"! I'm not about to begrudge her the "ability" to have male friends! I have lots of female friends and I wouldn't like it if she told me I couldn't associate with them anymore! Besides, not only did I trust her implicitly, I thought she was very loyal to me! So, it didn't bother me at all or raise any suspicious that she might be cheating on me! I'll tell ya how trusting I was of her, the last summer that we were together, she mentioned that her FRIEND, David, was planning a cross-country trip and asked her to go along with him and it was perfectly fine with me that she went! She even asked for a tent that my ex-sister had that she wanted to borrow for the trip and I got it for her!
@I87tjp98 Anyway, about 8 years into the relationship, I caught her in a couple of small lies. Not long after that, I found that she stole a CD from me!! One that was VERY hard to find anywhere and that I listened to A LOT!! It just vanished from my place, one day and, a few weeks later, I was her place and she had it on her desk and I saw her hide it under her books but, didn't know what it was. While she was out of the room, I went to see what it was and, when I saw that it was my missing CD, I took it back! If she wanted it so badly, I could've EASILY made her a copy!! I LOVE sharing my music but I DON''T like people stealing it!!
A few months before this trip of hers came up, we took a walk with her dogs and, on the way back, she told me that she'd had enough of men because they were all so screwed up but, if she ever wanted to get back with a guy, it'd be me!! A few months later, this trip comes up and it's from about 2 weeks before my b-day to at least a month after. I said to her, "Awww, you're not gonna be here for my b-day!" She said, "When's your b-day?" SERIOUSLY? After 10 years, you don't know when my b-day is?
So, off she went with her FRIEND, David! Late Aug. our 10th anniversary, she came back and I didn't notice any changes. However, the past couple years, she'd been begging out of family get-togethers because she was always promising to spend those days (holidays) with other friends of her, this Turkish couple she met at work, for instance. So, quite often I'd go to these "parties" alone. Well, along comes Thanksgiving and it's gonna be at my aunt's house and she wants to know how many places to set at the table. So, I called up Madame Ex to ask if she was coming this year. She said that she wasn't, she was going to have it with her FRIEND, David! Jokingly, I said, "Geez! What are you gonna do, marry the guy?" (She'd been spending quite a few holidays with him the last year or so!) After a fairly long pause, she said, "Well, yes."
@I87tjp98 While I was picking my jaw up off the floor, she said that they fell in love on that trip and decided to get married!! Of course, I asked her about this statement she made less than a year ago about how, if she ever wanted to be with a man again, it'd be me! She said (again), "I never said that.". So, at this point, trusting her was no longer possible and I wanted nothing more to do with her!!
A year later, she contacted me in a panic saying something about how he did something TERRIBLE and she was gonna leave him!! She refused to say what it was but, I figure it was something along the lines of him running over a cat in his car and not giving a shit about it! She went back to India and then to a few other countries over there where she started opening animal rescue shelters everywhere she went! As far as I know, she still lives in Denmark.
Last I heard from her was about 10 years ago, I found recent pictures of her niece (whom I also considered MY niece!) online and she was DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!!! She was in her late teens or early 20's. Last I saw her, she was a very skinny, gawky little 11 year old girl! Now, she could be a SUPERMODEL, if she wanted to! So, I sent her a few messages just saying how incredibly beautiful she is and she didn't like it, for some reason! Everyone else was allowed to but I wasn't? She told Madame Ex about it and she jumped down my throat about it and even accused me of trying fuck her niece!! I'm almost old enough to be her GRANDFATHER and you think I'M gonna chase after HER? SHE'S MY FUCKING NIECE!!! (As far as I'm concerned!) So, I haven't bothered trying to contact either one since then!! FUCK THEM!!! I HAVE talked to Madame Ex's half sister a few times and there's no bad blood between us! WE'RE still friends!!
Prolly something where you work in an office rather than a factory or customer service, an office is usually lower stress and easier access to help if you need it. Alternatively, you could look for an online or remote position, so you would be able to work from home. You would still have to interact and stuff, but you could do so online and primarily through writing. Alternatively! You could try a job like a dogsitter or house cleaner, where you work independently so there's no boss/coworker stuff, and your interaction with the customer is minimal and likely not as stressful as say a repair worker.
Alternatively, or additionally. I would recommend you look into something called assertiveness training. I believe it's a kind of therapy or counseling where you can work on being more assertive when you need to be. I've never done it personally but I've heard good things from friends about it in the past. You may be able to look up something you could even do on your own if you want to see if it could help.
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My first thought was a librarian or working in a library in general. Also perhaps a job as a florist arranging flowers or working at a garden center or nursery caring for plants. Maybe an overnight cleaning job in an office building, bank, library or museum. Best of luck.
Janitorial work pays good and u won't be around a lot of people. I used to make $14/hr back in '07 for cleaning patient rooms. I'm sure it pays more now. Or do u like production lines? I know people that work on production lines for SC Johnson, Carmex, and Harley Davidson and the pay is good there too. U don't need to interact much w/people, just do ur work.
Cleaning jobs. They tend to allow people to work on their own
Have you ever heard of YouTuber MrBeast? One of his friends / employees worked as a cleaner before MrBeast hired him and they became friends and Chandler isn't an illegal. Never hurts to try. Pick packing is also another job where you kind of work on your own even though you do work in a warehouse with other people.
Look give yourself time to be competent in a position is the first thing.
That gives you some authority. When you get asked to train somebody you are making it. Now to be a manager doesn't need you to be authoritative. You have no need to be Putin. When I became a manager I was surprised that people did what I asked! But they did.
What's wrong with being sweet and meek? A lot of guys would value that.
I used to be like this until I got a full time job and came out my shell and realised that I do not enjoy going along with whatever some self absorbed staff members want. Explore your options! If you like being artistic and creative try to find something in that field. I’d recommend you base it on your interests rather than you being shy!
If I were you I would do the opposite. Challenge yourself. You are capable of far more than you give yourself credit for. You can only improve if you give yourself the chance. Find a job such as a secretary. My bet.. Three weeks in you’ll adjust and start shining.
@I87tjp98 Your choice.
Negative smirk to positive suggestion. Those bring me such joy. 🤣
@H77ookkk True colors? I’ve always proudly and publicly laughed at down smirks. Get over yourself.
After hours cleanup… or overnight merchandiser. Graveyard shifts always get better pay than daytime. Less interaction if you already know what you’re doing
Food delivery, like Doordash or one of the other companies. That requires very little conversation with anyone and you work independently. There’s no boss at all.
Get a CCNA and work in I. T. you don't need the degree and they hire people with certification over people with just a degree. And stop being a pussy.
I graduated with an IT degree in 2018 and this is probably the most dumbest answer regarding the IT field I've seen. First off just having a certification without any experience won't do shit. The IT market is competitive as fuck and you need way more than a cert to prove your worth. A lot of companies that offer IT jobs are pure garbage and I had to quit a lot because I did not like how the company and management was run. One of my managers at my last job was a fucking prick and never showed any sign of friendliness in the workplace. A CCNA is probably one of the hardest certs to get and will take multiple months for a fresher. Take a better approach
@TommyWiseau69 thanks Tommy. The user you replied to is very nasty anyway but I will leave his answer up becauae I appreciate your post
@TommyWiseau69 very easy to get experience in the field for me. And you're going for big corporations. You're supposed to start with a slow pace position like in a nursing home or something. You're actually supposed to enjoy doing the work before you try and make the big bucks.
Like coders have github accounts and making video games making little to no money enjoying their work before they actually get out their. Of course you're not going to enjoy the job if your only reason for join is dollar signs.
You may have rough days, your boss can be an asshole etc... but as long you enjoy and love your job you can manage through bs like that.
If a mean man makes you give up on your degree you worked hard for 4 years you clearly didn't pick a job you actually liked.
A mean guys says somethings to you and you give up. That's life. People are going to be assholes. If you're going to let a mean man or mean words stop you, I suggest you just stay in your house/apartment and don't leave because that's the world we live in. I am sorry you gave up on 4 years of hard work.
work that can be done remotely (like a programmer, but you have to have a smart brain because learning a programming language is difficult, but if it works you can work between countries / continents but you just sit at your home).
Graphic designer or IT or web designer. Maybe librarian. Though it’s best to go to college for a graphic designer or IT.
I'm in IT. It is the hardest career field out there right along with the medical field. A 4 year degree will definitely not cut it in today's IT job market. Speaking from experience
@TommyWiseau69 I don't know why anyone is suggesting college jobs. I clearlystated im poor.
What about selling tickets at a movie theater? (I apologize if that's a dumb idea. Let me know if you don't like it and I will try to think of something else.)
No, no... I don't mean "scalping.". I mean working as an employee of the theater.
a live speaker :) in front of thousands of people :)
@I87tjp98 LMFAO
Get into art, graphics design or programming.
I think rather than looking for a job of your type, get out of the comfort zone and try to communicate without any hesitation
Front desk positions? You generally don't have to be a conversation genius but it could help you get over your shyness.
Customer service at the front of the store. Only way to get over your inhibitions. Deal with them don’t hide.
@I87tjp98 reported you for reporting!
If you’ve accepted yourself you wouldn’t get shy and worry like you do
sales counter in a drug store as you don't get time to be shy and meek you just have to get on with the job
Get a job where you have to talk to people all the time. It's time for you to move past this problem.
You could be a truck/lorry driver. They are isolated from everything or sell your body on onlyfans
Perhaps my career involving some types of engineering because you have to work with machines more than with people
Greenhouse kind of thing? Like taking care of plants?
I would say find a job with an overnight shift where it's quiet and no bullshit
That would depend entirely on where you're located and what jobs are available.
Tell me what u like to do and I can probably help u
Try getting blank tumblers and decorate them and sell them
Have you ever had a boyfriend or first love before?
@I87tjp98
I know. You said you are a really shy girl, so I am wondering.
You can try an E business
Talk show host
Maybe a scientist or a photographer
a lot of jobs. Apply.
Stay at home office work of some sort.
Remote work
Factory work
IT professional.
Security
Ohh you are sweet
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