A peer told me I speak quietly and without confidence, feeling pretty bummed out about it?

[Anonymous]

I am training to be a medical professional. I was with a peer of mine who is also training, on the ward.

We were talking to patients, for me it was the first time. Afterwards, he asked me if I struggle with speaking to patients. He said I speak quietly and without confidence in my voice.

I’ve suffered with low confidence for a large portion of my life, I’ve been trying to improve , so this has been a big blow to my confidence. I ended up feeling rubbish that day onwards.

Just wanted to rant as it upset me:(

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't be too hard on yourself. Here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Speaking softly and with lack of confidence are common issues, especially for people who struggle with low self-esteem. It doesn't mean there's anything inherently wrong with you.

2. Your peer's comment was meant to be helpful, but it may have come across more harshly than intended. Try not to take it personally.

3. You were speaking to patients for the first time, so it's understandable that you'd be a bit nervous and unsure of yourself. Most people start out that way.

4. With time, practice and exposure, your confidence and voice volume will likely improve naturally. The more you speak to patients, the easier it will become.

5. Focus on the positives - the fact that you stepped out of your comfort zone and spoke to patients for the first time is a success in itself. You're taking the first steps.

6. Take some deep breaths to relax before speaking. Imagine speaking with more confidence and volume. With each patient interaction, try to speak a bit louder and more assured. Over time, this will become your new default.

7. Don't obsess over your peer's comment. Remember that your soft voice and lack of confidence do not define you as a person or determine your abilities as a medical professional. Stay focused on your goals.

8. Talk to your peers and mentors if you need additional support or guidance. They can likely provide more constructive feedback to help boost your confidence.

Try to let this brush off your shoulders. You've got this! With practice and experience, you'll soon speak to patients with confidence and clarity. Don't be too hard on yourself - you're doing great just by stepping out of your comfort zone. I wish you the best of luck in your medical training!

[Asker]

Thank you, that’s so helpful 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[JusT_ALoNe]

tell her she's a confident pu*sy hair