I‘m a reserved person, especially in group settings. I like talking to my friends of course but when I‘m in a big group with a lot of people I‘m not close with I prefer to listen most of the time. it has happened a few times that a specific person has told me „you don‘t talk enough“ or something like that. I think it‘s a bit rude, it hurts my feelings and I don‘t know what to respond. It also doesn‘t make me want to talk more, it just makes me embarrassed. I don‘t want to force myself to talk more if it makes me uncomfortable or is that what I should be doing? also, I would never tell someone to talk less so I don‘t know why it‘s okay to say it the other way around. What‘s your opinion on this? thank you so much. 🤍
Ugh don't even worry about those kinds of comments sis, they're just rude. Not everybody is super extroverted and that's perfectly fine! You seem like you just prefer listening more in bigger groups and that is totally okay.
I would just own your quiet nature - something like "I'm more of a listener, but I'll chime in when I have something to add!" Said with a smile so they know you're not bothered. Or a simple "I'm comfortable with my level of chatting, but thanks!" to shut it down.
Definitely don't force talking just cause someone commented. That won't make you feel more comfortable and you seem like you're just being yourself. Own it girl! Maybe make an effort to talk to those people directly one on one so they know you when in groups.
But you don't need to change. Keep doing you - listen when you want and talk when YOU want. Fuck what anybody else says! As long as you're not being rude, it ain't their business how much you yap. Hang in there sis, you do you!
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Tell them to be more interesting if they want you to talk
I’m a bit of an introvert and also get comment like these. My standard response is “that’s just who I am.”
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