How can I stop being one of those intelligent and hardworking people who fail to succeed in life?

[Anonymous]

[RebelinSteel]

Define what you class as success, goals, make them realistic and work towards each one.

Having unrealistic goals is just a waste of effort.

[DishLady]

Trial and error, unfortunately, is the best way to get to what point. Surround yourself with good mentors and reliable colleagues.

[Account]

What is your definition of being successful?

[Asker]

Having a well-paid stable job, owning a house and having a wife and children you can provide for.

[Account]

And what are the steps that you are currently making in order to achieve them?
In order to have a well-paid stable job, you need to either form the right connections with people that would get you closer to that goal, by being extremely skilled in a career-field that is well-paid and by applying to such jobs every single day by sending numerous applications.

Owning a house is... well... That is a very heavy subject, especially if you don't consider moving to a place where the cost of living is less expensive. We all struggle with that.

As for having wife and children, are you currently open to dating? Have you dated recently? Because there are multiple women who are interested in creating a family with someone they are compatible to.

[Asker]

Well, now I’m waiting for an email from a manager at a company I made a connection with. But I’m not gonna double email until I get a reply. It’s a well-reputed average income job, but it’s better than my current one. I’m not as skilled as people with more experience, obviously, but my advantage is that I don’t have a time-consuming family and I dedicate myself fully to work and to improving my skills.

I couldn’t move to a less expensive place because I wouldn’t find jobs there. And I can’t work remotely because when I did it, it affected my mental health, as I was isolated and lonely.

I am open to dating, but after a few relationships I have started seeing red flags in almost everyone available to dating. Most good women are already in relationships, married or not into me. I am also a bit insecure that I don’t have enough money and I think I’m not worthy of marriage because of that.