Why is everyone nagging me for my life choices and me not working harder?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been working at my new job for a couple months. I work at a grocery store. I applied for a part time position because that’s all they had available and I’ve been working there since last July. I got let go from my other job which I worked full time.

My parents have been nagging me about asking my boss to give me more hours because my hours aren’t enough. I work Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 9am to 2pm so I work 15 hours a week.
My dad has been very hard on me because he said I’m not putting enough effort to better myself and encouraged me to ask for more hours since I’m not going to college or anything. He said all I do is work part time, hang with friends and party too much. I’m young, I’m supposed to have fun and enjoy life.
Tuesdays and Thursdays I just sit at home on my computer. I’m sick of my parents nagging at me for not applying myself and I’ve worked a full time job for four years and it doesn’t make sense.
Even my best friend is nagging the hell out of me for being so lazy and acting like a teenager when I’m 26.
She said, “Why would you want to work at a place when they don’t even pay you much? As a matter of fact why would you Work someone and not get paid. Hard work and no or little pay? Get real! You’re not even putting effort and you’re just lazy and you always drink and party every weekend. Stop being afraid of taking risks or what other people think and go for MORE! Stop seeking approval from mommy, daddy or others! Just do it! Go for what you want! Someone had to tell you. I hate to tell you this but I side with your parents. Ask for more hours.

My dad scolded at me and is so fed up with these part time or volunteer jobs I’m going after and I should at least work five days a week like I did in the past. Get a job that will pay me WELL at least a 20k job and I’m too hardheaded to listen! Man he didn’t have to yell at me. I’m autistic.

[LiamS95]

Sorry but while I agree with some things you say this time in your life is the prime time to make and invest the money you will need later in life to have an enjoyable snd fun older age when you are physically no longer able to make more money. Think a bit about what the future holds rather then just thinking in the moment.

[LiamS95]

By the way 20k a year isn't hardly enough to live on you need at least 70 k per year to live and put away for your retirement years

[Asker]

Okay you have a point. That’s what my parents told me too and grandparents. I’m sick of people getting on my case.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. How would you feel if people didn't invite you to a party because you're autistic?

[Asker]

I do get invited! Just because I’m autistic doesn’t mean I don’t get invited anywhere. I didn’t go to parties or get invited anywhere.

[OlderAndWiser]

So being autistic does not hold you back from having a social life?

[Asker]

Hell no

[OlderAndWiser]

So why does it hold you back from getting a job that is 40 hours per week and pays decent? Sounds like it is a convenient excuse for you.

[Anonymous]

Lol,
My father once told me as much as you are serious

[Opinion Owner]

Damn it.. another bug again. I'm not writing again except this saying of:
[As much as you are serious, people take you serious].

[Asker]

Okay so what’s your point?

[Opinion Owner]

Either show them that you have a certain plan in mind and try to show some small results or parts of it. So when you prove yourself, they'll have no choice but then leave you alone.

Or just pretend to have one, so you stop them ans have some quite time for yourself temporarily.