Why am I struggling so bad to achieve a normal life?

[Anonymous]

I am not asking to be ultra wealthy. I am not asking to be famous or live a lavish lifestyle. I am not asking for anything extraordinary. I am asking for normalcy.

I was hoping I could live a comfortable, upper middle class life with a good wife and a solid family of my own. I just want to live the American dream.

It seems like all the good, nice women are taken. It seems like there are not very many wholesome, traditional, and loving family-oriented women left. I am approaching 29 and never even had a real girlfriend! Dating apps I am finding are the WORST! It seems like that is the de facto way of dating these days, and it is difficult to meet women organically anymore. I am no longer in school, obviously, so opportunities are rare.

Second, it seems like everyone is just getting by economically anymore. I am poor as dirt and have been unemployed for 3 months now putting out literally hundreds upon hundreds of job applications and resumes.

I am sad that I cannot manage to get my life together.

[iseekpinetrees]

Try jobs u wouldn't normally do. Try meeting people during singles gatherings or speed dating there's lots of ways to meet people. But do you actually make the effort? Because most people who dont try are the ones who complain n want things to fall into their lap.

[Asker]

Here where I live, a lot of young adults are complaining about the lack of dating opportunities.

[iseekpinetrees]

Then travel far to meet people that's how it is sometimes

[msc545]

With the exceeption of your employment problem we have previosuly discussed all of this.

In regard to the employment problem, you need to learn a marketable skill - you could attand a vocational school, or even attend a Junior College and learn things that people are willing to pay for. Complaining about this problem won't solve it.

In regard to the problem with women, you need to lower your impossible standards, lose weight, and lose that unattractive beard.

In regard to your depression you need professional care.

[Asker]

I have a skill. I am a web application developer skilled in a wide array of different technologies.

[msc545]

Have you tried to get a job based on that skill? If so, what happened?

[Asker]

That is what I am trying to do. Of you read my details, I have put out literally hundreds upon hundreds of job apps and resumes.

[Asker]

... this is the failed Biden economy I am trying to tell you about. It is a major battle just to love normal amymore.

[msc545]

Either there is something wrong with your resume, or your skills are not needed, or both. Which do you think it is?

[msc545]

This is unrelated to Biden or politics.

[Asker]

It is called a messed up job market and a potential looming recession

[msc545]

Do you want to argue politics here, or discuss solutions?

[Asker]

I need a solution, bottom line, to find career stability, gain independence (financially, mentally, and emotionally), and to find a good, nice wife who is family-focused and doesn't have a romantic past. If I can achieve those, I would feel much more fulfilled.

[msc545]

Check job listings and see what is in demand and what would appeal to you. Then enroll in achool and learn that skill.

Complaining about your lack of success will not solve this problem. A new skill WILL.

Stop trying to fix everything at once - a good job will do a lot in terms of helping you find a woman.

[provokeesmokee]

Welcome to Late Stage Capitalism.

Also, that American Dream you were sold was literally just old post-war political propaganda meant to make your parents' parents feel better after weathering war.

It was never built to last or even well-thought out.

What you think is "normal" is now nearly impossible in today's economic system.

[Anonymous]

Only you can fix the situation but coming on here and sooking won't help.

[Asker]

It is not like I am not trying. It is the exact opposite. I am job hunting every weekday. I am building up my already existing portfolio and resume. I am not getting hits.