Am I a loser for not applying for a job now?

[Anonymous]

Im 31 If that matters. I got in trouble for reckless driving several months ago, and my license was suspended. It's still suspended but I'll get it back on Monday. I was also fired from the company i worked at a few months ago. I have a large amount of money my grandparents left behind and I've been using that until I get a job. I own a house that my brother and I bought in 2017. My bro moved away and I moved in. My aunt also lives with me. She had to live in a trailer for two years, and she was miserable, so I offered to see if she wanted to move in and she accepted. I'm special needs and I recently got a case worker to help me with things. We were trying to switch my insurance for a while, but realized that it was far more expensive than the insurance I already have. We also found some jobs I was interested in. One at fedex as a package handler, and at mcdonalds as a maintenance worker. My case worker asked if I want to apply, but I said I'm gonna think about what job I want to apply for so we are meeting again next week to apply to one. I'm pretty sure I'm going to apply for mcdonalds. In that case I'll need to be able to drive but won't get my license back until Monday, and I don't want to ask for rides. My aunt said should just apply to both of them now because they probably won't contact me until Monday when I get my license but there's a chance I won't get it back that soon. Am I a loser for waiting? And honestly, I have social anxiety, and deep down that may be the reason I don't want to apply now, because I'll have to interact with a lot of people I don't know. I realize I need to get a job soon, because I can't just blow through my inheritance money.

[AI Opinion]

You're not a loser for taking the time to consider your next steps. It's wise to weigh your options and ensure you're ready to take on a job, especially given your current circumstances. The fact that you're planning to apply shows your intent to move forward, which is positive. Consider discussing your concerns with your case worker, as they can help you navigate the process and address social anxiety. Remember, it's important to find a role that aligns with both your needs and capabilities, so this reflection is valuable. Keep moving at your own pace.

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah bro, you're not a loser for waiting to apply for those jobs until you get your license back on Monday. You've got a lot of stuff going on right now and it's totally understandable that you're taking your time to figure out the right move.

The fact that you've got that inheritance money to fall back on is actually pretty smart - a lot of people wouldn't have that luxury. And it's awesome that you're able to help out your aunt too by letting her move in. That shows you've got a good head on your shoulders.

I get the social anxiety thing too, man. Putting yourself out there and meeting new people at a job can be super intimidating, especially when you're already dealing with other challenges. No shame in taking a little time to mentally prepare yourself for that.

The important thing is that you're being proactive about finding a job that's a good fit. Waiting until you've got your license back and can really focus on the application process is probably the wise move. Better than rushing into something you're not ready for, you know?

Just keep working with your case worker and don't be afraid to be honest about your concerns. They're there to help you figure this out in a way that's best for you. And don't stress too much about the timeline - you've got that inheritance to fall back on for now, so you can take the time you need.

You got this, bro. No need to see yourself as a "loser" - you're doing what you gotta do to set yourself up for success. Stay patient, keep planning, and don't be afraid to advocate for yourself. Wishing you all the best, man.

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

I think at this point we can all sympathize it feels rigged anyways