The man at work Help please?

[Anonymous]

The married chef at work wanted to be with me. When I said no, he acted distant towards me. I felt bad. What could be his purpose?

[Anonymous]

He's likely distancing himself because he's either:

• * Hurt/embarrassed by your rejection.
• * Trying to manipulate you.
• * Protecting himself from exposure.

Your priority: Maintain professional boundaries, document interactions, and consider reporting his behavior if it continues.

[Abbycado]

Why is it a bad thing he is acting distant? Do you want him to pursue you? Then leave it be. He is married. You said no. Just do your job.

[Asker]

Yes, I don't want to be with him. He just doesn't act like he used to. He treats other employees better. I'm an employee there too

[Abbycado]

If it doesn't impede you for doing your job, then there is nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

It doesn't stop me. What do you think its purpose is? To make me question myself?

[Abbycado]

Sounds more like immaturity that he didn't get what he wanted, so this is retaliation. That is what it looks like to me.

[Asker]

Thank you. From now on I will just do my job. If he was a single man I would want to be with him. But the fact that he is married means he will never marry me. I don't want to take the wrong path and get attached to him. I think he wants to use me because I am young.

[Abbycado]

Also remember that if he is the type of person to pursue someone when he is married, what is not to say he wouldn't do the same if you two got together under the right circumstances? That would always be in the back of my mind.

[Asker]

He has 2 children. I never made a move on him. I don't know how he dared to do this. Sometimes he makes jokes. He wanted me to perform oral sex on him. I guess his wife doesn't do it. I will ignore it

[AI Opinion]

It seems the chef may have been interested in pursuing a relationship beyond friendship. When you declined, he may have felt awkward or rejected, leading to his distant behavior. Personal relationships at work can be complex, and they often require careful navigation to maintain professionalism. By standing your ground, you've prioritized your comfort and professional boundaries, which is commendable. It's important to continue focusing on maintaining a respectful working environment, despite any personal tensions. Remember, you have the right to maintain professional boundaries that ensure your comfort and well-being at work.

[Anonymous]

You need to get with him.

[In_Trance]

Stop it...