How many kids do you want?

[Sleepyzombie]

I've always wanted a big family, but lots of people ( guys and girls) aren't really interested in having big families. So I want to see how many do (Or dont) and why.

[meowcow]

I want a big family too, because my extended family is quite large. My maternal grandma had 10 kids... my mother being the 2nd oldest. I have over 30 cousins just on that side, and holidays are always loud and busy events.

But my friend has a small family. Just the parents and 2 kids. The rest of the family lives overseas. Their holidays are quiet events... like Christmas is just a family dinner at home.

I'd like a big family too... not 10 kids. But I consider 3 "big" for modern times. Depending on the family income however, 3 kids is the breaking point.
Daycare for 1 kid is $1,200/month where I live. With 3 kids, thats $3,600/month... the food, clothes, toys... etc. One of us might as well quit our job, since the entire paycheck goes to daycare. So might as well just raise the kids by yourself. 4+ kids means you live in poverty.
At least in a major urban city it does. Its probably cheaper if you live a rural lifestyle on a farm.

[kurdice7]

I use to want 4 to 6. But now that I already have one I'm good with the thought of 2.

[cheriya]

Two max. I’m an only child and honestly you don’t get the experience of getting hand-me-downs from siblings, or having the idea of having someone there for you where you can relate to each other, help each other, etc., despite having differences here and there. Every sibling is bound to have some argument at some point lol. But being an only child is pretty lonely. And the majority of people have at least one sibling haha. A lot of people consider you lucky, as they think you get whatever you want or all of your parents attention but honestly it doesn’t work that way. It’s just the same as it’d be for anybody else and there aren’t some major extra benefits from being an only child. You don’t have a sibling to look up to or one you can teach. I don’t know if I want any children in the future but if I do, I’d want two. Nothing more, nothing less. I guess one is okay but id want my child to have a sibling.

[WiseVirgo826]

I always joke that I want the Brady Bunch, lol. Growing up an only child was really lonely, so I know I want at least 3. Most of the time I think 5... either way, it won't be before I've made sure I can adequately provide for them :)

[txdiie_]

i want one child... a girl

but if i have a boy first i'll have 2 and if it's not a girl, i'd probs give up there

[Sleepyzombie]

I've always wanted to have a boy first then after that I don't know, but I want at least one girl.

[txdiie_]

really.. why a boy first?

[Sleepyzombie]

Because I want him to want to protect his little sister. My older brother picks on me, but I know if I told him that I needed help he'd be there as soon as he could.

[txdiie_]

awww that is so cute

[Sleepyzombie]

Yea.

[MsMusic]

2 of my own. I want to adopt more than that though. Maybe a total of 5. Or I might foster kids.

[Sleepyzombie]

Good on you for considering fostering!

[MsMusic]

My best friend was in the foster system for a few years, and a few other people I know have been as well. I hope maybe I can give an easier experience for any children I can foster, than my friends had.

[Sleepyzombie]

We adopted my sister from the foster system.

[LikeARiver]

3, maybe more.

If every parenting couple had 2 kids or less the species would slowly die out. I think it's a good thing for the human population to increase too.

I think it's nice to have siblings. Having more than one means that unless you're doing something wrong, you'll have at least one you aren't fighting with right now.

I also have 3 siblings so it seems more natural to me. It also gives better odds of having at least 1 girl or boy or both if that's important to you.

[ASEXY]

I don't want any kids. I'm not meant to be a father.

[Sleepyzombie]

Why not?

[ASEXY]

I'm asexual/aromantic so I don't want to be a single dad. I'm also too cruel and coldhearted

[A5KM3]

7+, my father is from a big family and it always feels nice to have different interests in many different things which can help others

[Commander_Courtney]

As many as my future wife wants to have and as many as we can afford.

[ConfusedGirl24]

I want 3 but seeing as i'm still single, i have to give up this dream 😅😅

[svester12]

But only 21 so you still have plenty of time!

[ConfusedGirl24]

😅😅😅 I kind of given up looking for love when i turned 20 😅

[svester12]

Can I PM you?

[ConfusedGirl24]

Sure, go ahead 😅😅

[svester12]

Apparently "my level isn't high enough to PM people"😂. Any other way to message you?

[ConfusedGirl24]

Text through skype? Dm through ig?

[svester12]

I'm good with Insta. My name is "Pedro_6_1"

[ConfusedGirl24]

Done 👍

[fauchelevent]

I'd like two ideally. I don't want them to outnumber my boyfriend and I 😂😂😂

[Hidden_P]

I want 5 children.

I think I’m likely to have none.

[stripey1999]

Id love to have any size of a family id just love to know one day id have a kid no matter how many

[BirdFly]

At least one daughter. I want a cute little daughter in my life. Little girls love me so much and it feels good.

[Sleepyzombie]

Little girls are also kind of a pain if not raised right.

[BirdFly]

True. But I am sure I would be a great dad. I can feel it.

[Anonymous]

I myself would like to have two girls and a boy. I could go for maybe 4 children at max.

[boltgun]

Hey same hahahah

[Opinion Owner]

Great minds think alike. Lol.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

3
2 girls
1 boy
i wanna adopt so if i have a boy first wanna adopt 2 girls and if i have a girl first whichever gender comes out next, ill adopt the opposite

[CaaTalam]

5 or 6
And may I ask what number would you say is a big family?

[Sleepyzombie]

I'd say more than 4.

[CaaTalam]

I come from a family of 11

[Sleepyzombie]

Wow. I've got an older brother and an older adopted sister. My boyfriend has 8 other family members and a family friend's husband has a lot of siblings who are really close and I want that kinda family dynamic.

[CaaTalam]

We all come from the same mother and father and we are all very close

[CaaTalam]

I like big family

[CaaTalam]

* family's

[Sleepyzombie]

I do too. I've always wanted a big family cause I've often felt lonely it just being me and my brother for the most part.

[CaaTalam]

The fun never ends

[TheClevelander1]

i want 0, but, being an only child and male, i HAVE to have 1, preferably male

[-Beonkia]

No one's forcing you. You said you don't want one.

[TheClevelander1]

being an only child and male, ill HAVE to have one

[-Beonkia]

Then I hope you don't make that child feel unloved because you didn't want it

[TheClevelander1]

ill do what i can

[Anon85]

4 or 5 is my preference

[PetrovaFire92]

I just want twins girls.

[boltgun]

2girl one boy

[Sleepyzombie]

Girls or boy first?

[boltgun]

Girl first

[Sleepyzombie]

Then boy or boy last?

[boltgun]

Girl boy girl ☺

[Sleepyzombie]

Any reason why?

[boltgun]

I think i prefer daughters, so girl first. But all girls is not as balanced so get a boy. Then a little sis for both of them, in case they two older didn't like each other lol

[Sleepyzombie]

Nice

[-Beonkia]

Probably 1. 2 if I end up having twins haha

[Sleepyzombie]

Twins are really interesting, but I'd probably be dead tired if I had twins.

[sunshineglow]

I love them, but none.

[Sleepyzombie]

Understandable.

[Guanfei]

At least one girl. Maybe 2.

[Sleepyzombie]

Girls are definitely fun.

[Guanfei]

But i'd be a terrible dad.

[Sleepyzombie]

Why do you say that?

[Guanfei]

Because if I had a daughter, she would be my princess and I'd spoil her too much. Which isn't good.

[Sleepyzombie]

I can see that. All my kids are going to be really precious to me, but I don't put up with bull crap.

[Guanfei]

That's where the problem is, I don't know if I could refuse her anything.

[Sleepyzombie]

Thing is I've babysat spoiled kids and I've babysat kids who don't always get what they want. The spoiled kids scream when things don't go their way (Not a good trait to have for when school starts) and the other kids you could use more privliges as a way to reward them for doing something good. They also tend to work better with others and other siblings.

[TheUglyMonk]

1 Child above the replacement level.