I found my sister's boyfriend on tinder. Should I tell her?

[skin_and_bones13]

So i just started tinder and went on the swiping tour. Saw my sisters bfs profile. Made a screenshot, but didn't swipe right.

It wouldn't be that weird, knowing my sister, if they maybe have an open relationship (wasnt in his bio though, his bio was really nice and normal). She is also very depressed right now and has told me that she has told him; if he has needs that she can't deal with right now, she is okay with him finding it somewhere else

Should i tell her this or not?

They also just moved in together and have been dating for over a year.

Updates

+1 y

I told my sister about it, in a very serious tone. She had to laugh, she knows her boyfriend had a tinder account but she also knows he deleted the app when they stared dating so the account is still active but he isn't on it anymore

[Jacksoscar]

I think I would approach the boyfriend first. Maybe test the waters there see what you can find out. Maybe your sister's fine with his profile still being there. I've been dating a lady for 5 months. My Tinder and Plenty of Fish profiles are still up. Yes my girlfriend knows and has no problem with it. She's also welcome to check the messages as she sees fit. Sometimes it's just fun to see what's out there. It's kind of like walking through the mall. And looking at the passers by. It's ok to look just don't touch.

[Roooni]

Girls who commented here have a weird sense of understand. People she just said that her sister is into an open relationship and that she told him to go look elsewhere. So there's already a green light here for him. Plus she's quite depressed so why making things worse ?

[btbc92]

How do you know that she didn't meet him on Tinder? Unless you know how they met and personally know him, I say that as her sister you are obligated to warn her of possible cheating and you have the proof. Otherwise, stay out of it. They shouldn't be moving in together at all before marriage. She's making tons of mistakes. But it's her life.

[skin_and_bones13]

They met in a bar, he was the bouncer from that bar. I was there with her when they met

[btbc92]

All the more reason why you shouldn't be doing any this filth but that was her choice. At the end of the day you just need to straight up tell her what the heck is going on , but still stay out of it. Because you incite more drama you may put yourself in serious Danger.

[btbc92]

This is why you do not get yourself involved with people at some stinking Club of Barre. Let alone on some dating site like Tinder. But if she wants to make those mistakes and shack up with somebody she's not married to, that's on her. And there's not much that you can do on that.

[btbc92]

Or bar*

[Paris13]

Let it Be... She may Find Out what He is All About. xxoo

[skin_and_bones13]

Its the depression thing, she is in a really bad place right now and relys heavy on him.

If he is a total a hole she prob couldnt handle it

[KittyKat90210]

Unfortunately you have to tell her. If she finds out any other way it will hurt her more than coming from her sister. You can be supportive and she will know that she can trust you. It might be more difficult for you right now because she's depressed, but she deserves to know and he DOESN'T deserve her. Hope she (and you!) are okay.

[Vivikitty]

This is a tough one since it could be an old account that never got deleted or he really is cheating you could wither talk to your sister or talk to the boyfriend but he could also lie and say it's an old account when it's not I'm not very familiar with tinder so I don't know how you could tell if it's old or not I would see what the boyfriend says then maybe lowkey ask the sister if she knew he had tinder and see if maybe she already knew about it

[LoU_Hades]

You're a girl, I'm sure you couldn't fall asleep with such an information for your sister.

I wouldn't put my fingers in my sister's/brother's/friend's relationship.

[Adrian12345]

Yes, tell her.
If they have an open relationship, no problem.
If they don't, she has a right to know.

[JDavid25]

I think you should tell her.. I mean if he finds out he is cheatin and you knew it was a strong possibility, tht wouldn't be the best.. Although I do see yo dilemma really..

[JDavid25]

Well, that's good..

[Jan_Classic]

It is really disgusting, when people do that. But some peeps really deserve that. I also advise not to dig into someone's relationships.

[morimeme1]

It is best to tell her yes, without no assumptions, just information so you don't have to carry it in you and are honest with your sister.

[SexyAshh]

If they are in an open relationship whats the problem,?

[Taylor_C]

Leave them both alone. That´s between the two of them, and none of your business.

[buttcrackjoe]

Maybe its an old tinder account, we all leave social media tracks its hard to keep up with then

[TacocaT6969]

Tell her.

Even if she already knows, it shows her that you care.

[lofii]

[JosyJosy]

Don't. I'd hit the guy up and play along to see if he'd actually cheat. And then you tell her

[ecfresh]

That would be lying, why lie?

[JosyJosy]

@ecfresh Yup lying, because I care about my sister more than some guy she's dating, and I want to test him if he's actually cheating

[ecfresh]

You can care about your sister and still not lie. If he is cheating it will hurt her regardless if you test him or not. Just saying you don’t have to stoop to a lower level just to catch a guy, it’s better to be authentic than lie.

[JosyJosy]

@ecfresh There's always that possibility he's not active on it anymore and forgot to remove it or something. Still gonna lie though! Also going to ask to the sis how they see their relationship, what are DO's and DON'T's

[ecfresh]

I am still confused. Consistently get the feedback that women want an ‘honest man’. However have seen more than one example like this where it seems like it’s acceptable to lie. Can you see how that doesn’t make sense? If it’s acceptable to lie, then I guess honesty isn’t really desired and women are lying when that’s what they want? Not trying to be difficult, just doesn’t make sense.

[JosyJosy]

@ecfresh I think I would potentially ruin a relationship if it was a misunderstanding, so I want to make sure and for a sibling I don't mind playing along to get to the bottom of this for her.

My sister would want an honest man, and if he isn't honest and she doesn't see it yet, I got to jump in and make her see with clear proof

[ecfresh]

Loving your sister is awesome and I support that behavior. I just wouldn’t want to lie to protect my brother if the situation was reversed. Wanting an honest man means being honest and not lying. It’s hypocritical to want honesty yet agree it’s ok to lie. Guess we will agree to disagree. I do hope it’s an old profile.

[JosyJosy]

@ecfresh hihi ya ;) I'm the single girl, so no need for an honest man to approach me with This behavior.

I don't really have a sibling, but one of my close friends is one of those "Show me or it didn't happen" kind of people, so I based myself on that

[PrettyRegular]

I know many who date, but use tinder just for a laugh. Also it might be that they just haven't deleted the account.

[WhoDatGuy]

Her relationship is over. She needs to accept it and they can both move on.

[ZicoLad96]

Its your sister of course she gets told about it.. then we got out bump into the boy and Iron him out

[dontgofalling]

Invite him, and talk to both of them together to try not to make a misunderstanding and help the understanding process

[CT_CD]

Don't tell her. He's just trying to get some action on the side

[Sofie1979]

I think so she your sister take a screenshot and show her.

[Nachowedgie]

You should definitely tell her and show her the screenshot