Should I tell my friend I saw her boyfriend on tinder?

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They are in a serious relationship and live together. I don't know what to do. Should I tell her? He would definitely get kicked out if she knew. Tinder is for hooking up not for making friends I know that.

Tushnim · Accepted Answer

Thin ice, my friend. I understand your concern, but then again, if you were to say something it may jeopardize their lives. Things may go out of control, leaving you to soak up all the blame in the aftermath. If you do wish to get involved, knowing the risks and willing to take them, I'd say offer the guy a chance to clarify the matter, come clean or change his ways. Do not threaten, or accuse. Just talk to him and find out why he is on tinder. It still may backfire, since if he's a paranoid/morally bankrupt guy he'll try to turn the situation to his favor. But he might actually be confused/conflicted and decide to remedy the situation. Up to you though.

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

I think you should tell her, but also stress that she needs to talk about it with him rather than just kicking him out and not speaking to him about it. It may not be an active account. If it turns out to not be an active account, you don't want him to hate you.

ebbyeb · Accepted Answer

I think it'd be a great show of concern and loyalty towards your friend. She might know, she might not.. I think that, regardless, it's a bit of a red flag situation.. even if it turns out being nothing in the end.. for example, an old account or something. You have nothing to lose.. and I think it's a good service towards your friend.. because what *if* he's cheating on her? Nobody deserves that sort of thing. And you wouldn't want your friend to be stuck in a false relationship, would you? Wouldn't you want her to do the same thing if she was in your shoes?
I hope this helps! :)

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

I’d mention it, yeah. She has a right to know. But remember that you don’t really know what’s actually going on. It’s certainly suspicious, but doesn’t necessarily mean he’s definitely cheating. She needs to talk to him about it and find out exactly what is happening.

SweetHomicidalQueen · Accepted Answer

Yes but don’t assume he’s cheating. I haven’t had tinder since August but people still add my snap saying they saw me on tinder. I’ve deleted the app but I guess I just didn’t delete my profile. I’m too lazy to download the app just do delete my profile tho lol

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Yeah. If you care about her, sure. Now what she decided to do after the fact is not your business. But you never know, she may have always known he had it or perhaps she met him on there and never told you. You don't know.

tezequal · Answer

First off, your name is dope tahah. But back to the topic yes tell her, always be open and honest with your friends you owe it to them.

NewEnglandDude · Answer

Don't do it. Maybe he made an account a while back and just hasn't deleted it yet. Women tend to overreact and be ultra dramatic. I have a feeling he's probably not doing anything wrong and if you told your friend she's overreact and leave him for no good reason.

AthleticMom · Answer

I think it fun to stay silent
adopt a Tinder alias
and engage with him on Tinder
to see how far this might go
and later throw out some of his Tinder phrases in passing conversations to see the look on his face
and if he will then jettison his Tinder ways

madhatters4 · Answer

if you feel comfortable confronting him about it i would tell him that you saw it and you want to give him a chance to come clean about it to your friend but that if he won't you feel obligated to tell her.

but ultimately yes if he won't come clean or you don't want to approach him about it you absolutely should tell your friend

Bananaman177 · Answer

You would want to know if your boyfriend was going out banging random sluts from the internet and then coming home and kissing you on the lips and bringing their diseases into your bed.

I knew a girl who caught a disease that way and she ended up staying with the guy who gave it to her, because who else would want her? Hell of a thing to have happen to your life. Be sadder still if you could have saved her and you didn't. You wouldn't be much of a good person, let alone her friend.

QueenofCups · Answer

You should tell her. Love your screen name, by the way.

BatmansWife · Answer

There's a possibility she might know. They could be looking for a plus one; a lot of couples are doing it. Or it could be inactive. But I think you should talk to him fist before you make an assumption.

JayFromEngland · Answer

I think it would be good to tell her. But don't make it out as if he is bad - it might be worth looking into it before freaking out. As others said, it could be an inactive account.

sawno · Answer

I'd say tell her, it doesn't have to be something serious but its good for your friend to know so she can ask her boyfriend what the profile is about.

Washington34 · Answer

Yes! But he may not be active on it, make sure you say that to her too.

-lexi- · Answer

you wouldn't be a good friend if you didn't tell her. besides, if it was a mistake he can explain it for himself.

rjroy3 · Answer

I would tell her, but just keep in mind just having a profile on Tinder doesn't mean he's actively on it. He could have deleted the app and still have an open profile.

mystery_user · Answer

Yes straight up his cheating and it's best to know now then know later and for her to find out you knew all that time (Note: age is wrong I'm 17)

skel47 · Answer

Hell no or just mention it she might already know its just a tinder account it doesn't mean anything tbh. Or they are looking for a threesome

Kiran04 · Answer

Who knows when he put himself up on tinder. Very few people bother to take their profiles down once they find a partner. Did he message you on tinder? Do you know he's active on it? If not, then leave it the fuck alone. None of your business.

Red_Eternara · Answer

You're just gonna make the world burn for nothing. It is more likely an old account that he forgot to delete

mlgjamz · Answer

Take it up with him, depending on what happens tell her

beerbearbeard · Answer

Ask him discreetly one-on-one and the decide based on his reaction. (nit that i said ASK not confront)

girl2034 · Answer

Tell her. You would want her to do the same for you.

genericname85 · Answer

having a tinder profile means nothing. as long as you don't see him actively cheating, you don't have a reason to make others worry.

Bettyraeisback · Answer

they dont move like i move. they dont tink how i tink

Jollyrancher07 · Answer

I wouldn't. I went through a similar situation and lost a friend.

sachinthe · Answer

Yes if you think he is cheating her in anyway you should let her know but first be sure 100%

Anonymous · Answer

You should super like him, it would freak the fuck out of him lol

Anonymous · Answer

I have had so many accounts online never did anything so no don't assume anything yet

Goochbreaker · Answer

If you are a good friend you will tell

mathur1912 · Answer

Never.. always stay away from your friends personal matter..

Elviran · Answer

Girl code: tell her

SarahSwims · Answer

see if he's active first...

lilmissumshine · Answer

Nope I'd mind my business

bettyraeyo · Answer

i dont give a bullox!

Nickoli42 · Answer

Is it an old account or is it active?

Crankor · Answer

Make a fake account, messageans see if he responds

scooogy · Answer

Better don't, they just wanted to find each other

reviewedbeef · Answer

Go smush her boyfriend and then tell her

reptocarl · Answer

Yes tell her

bipolarmilly · Answer

No I would mind my own business

sucklingambitions · Answer

Yes of course you should

outsidecurve · Answer

Yup yup!

lemonandice · Answer

You totally should.

ajay1612 · Answer

In my view quite is batter

itsdone · Answer

Don't tell not your business

pavlove · Answer

you should tell her!

LegateLanius · Answer

I would

BigBadBear · Answer

Yes.

sunnyindianmale · Answer

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