Because for a 36 year old surgeon... a 45 year old single mother is a terrible mistake! He could do waaaaay better, he's at his peak and she's just about to become a senior citizen with a nurse's wage.
Can she give him kids? Probably not. Is her body as good as a younger woman's? Nope. She has a shitload of baggage compared to younger women.
It'd be like if a royal princess picked an old homeless man off the street to marry.
The only reason you don't have an issue with it is because you're excited to have a rich stepdaddy.
Sure, good for your mom, great catch for her, but the dude is a complete and utter moron who probably has mommy issues.02 Reply- Asker+1 y
I don’t have any issu with that because they love each other. And being a nurse is a very respectable job , so comparing my mom to a homeless man is very rude, and I’m tired to hear these kind of comparisons. Why is it soo hard to believe? Is it that weird that a man love a woman enough to take care of her and her daughter? You see a lot of gorgeous women marrying broke guys, but if a wealthy man marry an older woman it’s a shock? it’s like a woman is never allowed to do better actually.
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Most women DO do better than themselves when it comes to relationships. They purposefully seek men who are more attractive, taller, accomplished, and wealthy than themselves. There's data to support this.
But this discrepancy is very, very large.
If your mom was old wealth, let's say worth 15 million, and she married some guy that is overweight, spends all his time at the pub, smokes, collects his military pension and disability then spends the rest of it on gambling, would you still be happy that they're getting married?
I'd hope not.
It's simple; he is worth a ton on the dating market, and your mother is worth barely any. This is a fact you need to accept, and if your mother and this man are both happy then there really isn't an actual problem with their relationship, but you have to understand why everyone else is confused why he chose her.
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I don't think its jealousy, I think its confusion. The fact is generally speaking men go for younger women, so when one does not it confuses people and they try to understand why (even if its obvious that he loves her, they cannot understand WHY and so try to come to conclusion to justify that love either its not real or he has issues or what have you). However at the end of the day, these people don't matter, they do not affect that relationship and its not their lives so their opinion doesn't really matter.
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That's awesome your mom has a younger guy. She should feel good about herself and people shouldn't be saying a damn thing about it. Especially if your mom and new boyfriend are happy. I'm sure there is a lot of people that are jelous but there are also people out there that just likes to talk sht. I personally dont see anything wrong with it. He obviously finds your mom attractive or he wouldn't even bother with her. So I would ignore what people are saying. Fk them!
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I should also add that I am 32 dating a 52 year old. I have never been happier. He isn't rich either. We just connect on another level then these loser immature younger guys. Love will always find a way.
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It's something else. It's called "Societal norms". If your step dad were 45 and your mom 36 no one would care. Since it's the other way around everyone is out raged. There could be a tinge of jealousy from some people, but it's mostly the age gap that they probably find shocking. Just ignore those kinds of people. If your mom and stepdad are happy together, that's all that matters. Best of luck!
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The very first thought that entered my mind the morning of my 36th birthday was, "An 18 year old -a legal adult- is now half my age." Yeah, I could do it... sleep around with 18 year olds at 36 as that guy you mention would do if in your step-dad's shoes. It's a creepy notion.
It's envy and the age gap isn't that great. I have been there too. Further, finding someone to sleep with is not a challenge regardless of whether or not you have wealth or even looks (at least from what I have seen lately). Not to mention sleeping around does eventually get old and eventually instills a level of detachment. It certainly did for me. Now, falling 'in love' when you have looks, wealth/success with someone else who legitimately falls in love with you too... that's a damn rarity at any age. That they found each other... good on them and to hell with what people say.10 Reply 519 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. Well, I think it is both jealousy mixed with social norms. Don't take heed. If the family is happy they should not say anything to your family.
Those same younger girls must have rejected him and now making it look like he is stupid. He has seen life and I think he is doing the right thing14 Reply- Asker+1 y
Oh sorry it was directed toward a jerk who insulted my mom and my stepdad
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After reading the guys comments, I am quite away of who you directed it towards, you have a great way of standing up for those you love, I admire you for that.
Our society is very jealous over women with enough looks and power to score a younger guy.
We have this notion that a woman’s options are next the nothing after 30, but as many of us have already figured out, nothing could be farther from the truth.31 Reply- +1 y
It's not jealousy, it's something even dumber than that. Your mom and her fiance chose to do something that's not "normal" and what's "normal" is for relationships to have an older man and a younger woman. Nobody would bat an eye if their ages were reversed.
That's it. There's nothing else to it. Go against the herd and they always judge you for it.
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what's wrong with your mom being happy? It sound to me like someone is jealous that she's got a good man who can take care of her and her little girl. If your mom is happy, and he's treating the both of you right then who cares what anyone else says.
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They are putting their nose where it does not belong. They should mind their own business. I personally want to date a woman above the age of 40 because I am 51. But you never know who you will meet and what will become of it. Your mother is a lucky woman and you have a step dad. Its a great situation and none of anyone's business except your mother, her new husband and to a degree you. Good luck with your new found happiness!
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When I read your title, I thought your mom would be in the 40s or 50s and marrying someone who's like low 20s. But 45 and 36 isn't that much of a difference and isn't even a young guy as well.
But I don't know.. People are just very judgmental beings and I don't know what your mom looks like but they might just be jealous for sure tbh. Only reason they would say shit like that especially since it doesn't even concern them.20 Reply - +1 y
I definitely say it's jealousy. Lets face it there are people in this world that are never happy and will scoff at anything. The truth is they are both in the medical field. That in and of itself is hard for someone to understand if you are not in the same profession. They found each other through medicine. Many other couples are married to medicine.
10 Reply Their age difference is only 9 years... that’s really not that bad. If it’s a woman saying those things, they are probably just upset that they can’t find a rich doctor for themselves.
Congrats to your mom and her fiancé. That’s great news!20 ReplyIt’s some who are jealous ofcourse. But then there are some who want the goods to follow the footsteps to do the exact same thing.
But I would say a good portion is over protective of the guy whether or not it’s his move to marry your mother, or whether or not they have the right or not to be over protective of him. Just give it time it commonly happens and it will soon pass.10 ReplyI mean I don't know what he's thinking either. Like no offense but your mother is now too old to have kids and she's a SINGLE MOM. Doesn't this guy want a family? He could easily find younger girls who could have his own children.
At the end of the day they're both free to do whatever they want, but I don't think this guy is making a good decision.
It's especially bad because he's marrying her, and he's rich, so he'll be divorce raped if he ever changed his mind about this bad decision.00 ReplyI find the age difference between them normal. Many of my friends parents have big age difference. Feel like its just more normalized for the man to be older in a marriage and it’s affecting people’s reaction. Or they are just jealous
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People will always have something to say whether you’re fat skinny, poor rich, educated or uneducated that’s just how people are this world is very judgmental
10 Reply 4K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. GREEN EYED MONSTERS. Tell Mom to Ignore them and Best of Luck to HER and HIM. xxoo
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I think it’s their own unhappiness. People that are miserable generally try to seek out faults in others as a way to try and make themselves feel better. Sad I know but it happens a lot.
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Women are cunts. They want a younger man but cannot get it. My husband is successful and 11 years younger. We get along great
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It would seem way more normal if he was marrying you. Its so weird he is going for your mom. I'm 32 and I date girls 18 to 22. Thats just weird and gross. He has something wrong with him like low self esteem or something. Or he could be a real progressive liberal trying to get woke points. They do that sort of crap sometimes... usually due to low self esteem.
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45 and 36 is not a huge difference they’re both old. Who cares.
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I agree
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She’s also 18 in a minute she’ll be an empty-nester by herself it’s time to live.
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Exactly better happy then lonely.
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Why?
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@lovedejj_xo For throwing his money away on an old single mom for no logical reason.
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@lovedejj_xo He's also an idiot for getting married. Marriage is a dumb move for any rich guy.
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@lovedejj_xo I would either kill myself or stay single my entire life if I went through so much work to become a doctor only to end up not doing any better than a 45 year old single mom.
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Don’t worry mateynine, .. i doubt that a shallow delusional looser like you will be successful enough to attract a gold digger 🙄.
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You insulted my step-dad by calling him an idiot and you literally talked about my mom’s age as if it was an ugly flaw. He’s like my father, I’m sorry but I doubt that you would react politely if someone talked about your dad as if he was an idiot and as if it wasn’t enough for marrying your mom. Ofc you’re free to love younger girls ( as long as they’re legal) but it’s not a reason to put other peoples down. My mom married my step-dad because they both love each other and even if his situation made him more attractive I don’t see anything wrong with that, because you guys are acting as if a woman is a monster for refusing to marry a homeless uneducated broke man. You clearly said that if you worked hard to be very successful you would choose to marry a younger girl. It’s your choice but loving a girl because of her young age ( then her look which mean a tighter skin and a tighter pussy) is as shallow as loving someone because of his financial status. You clearly putted my mom’s value down because of her age and yet you blame women for putting a man’s value down because of his financial instability.
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@Asker I don't blame your mom. She's only trying to do what's best for herself.
The guy is still an idiot.
Women judge men in a lot of ways beyond just finances, but that's all part of the point... if you meet high standards as a man then he shouldn't have to settle with a low value woman who is WAAAY below his league. If women are allowed to have standards then men should have them too.
Ask yourself, how is this man objectively benefiting from this marriage?
Take the emotion out of the equation. In what way does getting married help him? Why doesn't he stay single?
467 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. Their age difference is not that huge. People are always jealous of other people’s happiness unfortunately.
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he 36 she 45. I see nothing wrong with it. both grown adults.20 Reply4.6K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. They are jealous and also cautious and maybe they think it won't last and that she's being a gold digger
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The age gap isn't that big of a deal. As long as they get along. It isn't like he is in his 20s and hasn't had time to mature or do what he wants goals wise. He's coming up on his 40s secure in who he is. People should just leave them alone.
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Of course it's envy, and coveting. What else WOULD it be?
Remember these wise words as you go through life:
"People who matter, don't talk. People who talk, don't matter".
Enough said.20 Reply - +1 y
Yeah... Well people have weird reactions dealing with things that are not common.
Not exactly jeallows. Peoples brains are just limited and need some time to refresh.10 Reply Insulting, sure. Ignorant, definitely. judgmental, extremely. Jelous, maybe but unlikely.
Your mother and her fiance are adults, they can make their own decisions, and have. Good for them, they seem to be happy, that is a great thing.00 ReplyAs long as they're both open about their intentions with each other, these haters should shut up.
10 Reply706 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. It could be jealousy, or just not being able to understand love.
10 Reply662 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. Hard to say what that is about. We're still very weird about older women dating younger guys.
10 ReplyThere is nothing wrong with that age difference a 20 year age difference might be a different story
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Go mom! That sounds so lovely
I am happy for your family
The others are only hating don't let it bother you ❤00 Reply Yup, you're right it's jealousy, there's only ten years between them which is nothing these days.
Would i be right in thinking that the ones doing the bashing are female?00 Reply- +1 y
That dude is an idiot, well, very soon he can say goodbye to half of his properties.
20 Reply Just ignore them. If they're in love it's their life
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Well it could be jealousy and something else which is their judgmental behaviour. U know people these days, so judgmental when they're not even perfect themselves. All u have to do is to support ur mum and ur stepdad's relationship.
10 Reply If they're genuinely in love it's ok, if it's just for the money it's shallow and stupid and people have a reason to be upset
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All the old guys that marry young women and people have the nerve to complain about the few older women who marry younger guys. Wow
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In my opinion it's no one's business except for theirs and if people have a problem with that they can go away
00 Reply Haaa, they're jealous. As long as they're happy and love each other, who cares. People always got smthg to say.
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Can I date you so we can buy fun things together? With your Mom's new man's money?
Thanks! HMU I'm a cute guy...12 Reply- Asker+1 y
I’m a lesbian, bruh
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OK I'm transgender so I was born a man but I feel like a woman now... so my comment^ still applies
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just using remarks cuz they hate to see people happier than them
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To hell with them they hate themselves so they gotta bring others down.
20 Reply The world is drowning in envy and resentment. Pay no attention to them.
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What is her real motive for marrying or getting involved with this guy?
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The age gap is not bad so I don’t understand why they are hating
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I say it’s jealousy. If it was reverse no One would bat an eye.
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Maybe he doesn’t want kids.
858 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. I going after a rich 33 girl.. we are in love. Money is below individual, couple, children then money
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this is very jealous
ignore anyone
enjoy yourself
wealth is a wonderful thing
let's be friends dear
where are you from?10 Reply yup tell her to go for it bet the sex is amazing nothing like a experienced cougar and virile boy :D
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They are extremely jealous
20 Reply If it is true love, true love does not need to be in the eyes of the accident, and do it yourself.
10 Replyyes they are envious young and rich well done for her
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your mom is a whore
its called MGTOW lol
its common sense
and no im not lying your mom is a whore
don't worry my mom is no different21 Reply - Anonymous(18-24)+1 y
I don’t think people care anymore in the 30s and 40s girl.
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they're likely just wondering why she's marrying young
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You need an attitude adjustment
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Could be a mix of jealousy and concern😊💜
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Jealousy? No. Sound more accurately like envy.
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Sometimes we are unable to think outside the box. If he was older, our societal norm, no one would blink. Funny thing is their age is really not that different. Anything that doesn't fit societal norms unsettles people. They go on autopilot with their reactions (eg- :your mother is a whore") instead of stopping to actually think critically about things. That's fine but they should keep it to themselves. And for those that say she is a goldigger, they are completely dismissing your mother's value, as appreciated by your new stepfather, and dismissing that a lot of guys simply prefer and value women who are older. They are not so unevolved thay they simply go after the young/hot (trophy?) wife. I respect both of them for staying strong. It takes maturity, confidence and wisdom to go against the grain. But honestly their ages just aren't that different, not even worth this conversation.
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We live in a dick-centric universe.
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that's human nature. can't be helped
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That’s not a big age difference 😂 it’s all cool
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That is not even a big age difference
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