I am shy to show my feet. How can I overcome this?

[seahorsegirl]

It's hard to explain, but I always feel kind of exposed when other people can see my bare feet. It's no problem at the beach, but I'd never just wear normal pants with bare feet or sandals, for example.

Of course, there are situations in life were you can't avoid people seeing your feet, like in my school when you forgot your PE kit (you still have to take part, but in your bare feet. Or in yoga. Or some weeks ago, when a photographer came to our school and insisted that everyone had to be photographed in bare feet (I've had the same experience in a professional photo studio).

So, in these situations every time it's really hard for me. That's why I wondered if there is any way to overcome this. I don't want to run around barefoot outside, I just want it to be more normal when I need to have bare feet.
I'm grateful for any idea, but only serious advice please!

[Anonymous]

I have a teenage daughter exactly like you. She always wears socks at home even in summer and even though she has a nice feet she hates being seen barefoot by anyone, even by me.

And this is really bothering me. I've tried to talk to her couple of times but she's so stubborn. I don't have a solution to your problem but maybe you can help mine as you can put yourself in her shoes. What can I do to help her solve this phobia of hers (and yours)?

[seahorsegirl]

Hello! I'm always happy to hear from other people who feel the same (maybe I shouldn't, but it just feels good to know I'm not the only one).
Your description of your daughter sounds very much like myself. I don't know if I have "nice" feet, but my mom says I do haha. It's not that I think my feet are ugly, but I feel very exposed when they are bare and people can see them.
May I ask how old is your daughter?
And maybe you could explain a little more why this is bothering you so much? Do you think your daughter should have bare feet at home more often? Is it because she can't wear sandals in summer and you think she should?
If you give me more information about her, it will be easier for me to advise you what you could do to help her get over her phobia. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Hello again,
She is 15 years old. I think it's not natural for a girl to wear socks and hide her feet all the time. It's not healthy both physically and mentally. So I believe; the sooner we solve this, the better.

[seahorsegirl]

Well, I’m like that, I’m older than her and I still managed to survive so far ;)
But still, you are right that it is not “normal”. And some situations just require you to have bare feet and in those situations it’s always a huge issue. So yes, I agree that it’s much better to solve this problem as soon as possible.
I think it is partly also a question of getting used to it. If you have to show your bare feet from time to time, it’ll be a little easier the next time. So she could get used to the feeling, although I doubt that her shyness will completely go away at some point.
So I guess the good news is that it’s possible to make it feel more “normal”. The bad news is that there is probably no other way for her and me than confronting our fear, which means having bare feet in situations when people can see them.
As I mentioned, I’ve been to a photography studio with my family recently to get some casual family photos, and there our photographer insisted that everyone had to take off their shoes and socks, because bare feet look more aesthetic than shoes or even socks. Maybe, as a first step, you could do a photo shoot like this. I think many studios ask for bare feet these days. Depending on where you live, there might be one near you. Or just talk to the photographer in advance and ask her if he could insist on bare feet for everyone, because you want it that way. So your daughter will have no choice but to go along with it. That way she’ll have to confront her fear plus you will get some really nice pictures (although it was really hard for me, those pictures turned out great and I have to admit that bare feet do look much much better in studio photos). What do you think?
As a next step, you could establish a rule at home that shoes and socks are strictly banned in your home. So she’ll have her feet constantly bare and will probably quickly get used to family members and visitors seeing them, although probably without ever losing her fear of it very soon.

[seahorsegirl]

Actually I just realized that it's much easier for me to make those suggestions of how to "cure" her fear of bare feet given that it's some other girl. If I had to do all of this, it would probably help me, but it would still be really hard and embarrassing for me...

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the answer. But I wish it was simple as you purposed. She's so stubborn, she'd never take off her socks, especially for a photo. It'd definitely need some kind of enforcing if it is not possible to solve this without actually putting her in such situations as you said. A friend of mine had even suggested to give her punishments when she does something bad using this phobia of hers. But I was not sure about that. I thought it could harm her psychology in the long term. What do you think about it as you might feel the same as her?

[seahorsegirl]

It's hard to say if using bare feet as punishment could be harmful. In my case I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t have harmed me in the long term, but on the contrary it might have helped to overcome my fear. But of course every person is different and you know your daughter best. So it might be better to not use bare feet as punishment if you’re unsure, but it’s really hard for me to imagine that having to take off her socks for a photo shoot will do any harm.

The idea about the photo shoot was not to give her a choice. You could talk this through with her before the shoot and say the photographer will insist and that you think he’s right to do so. You can explain that it looks much better in family photos and it’s common to do this, which is true. So the socks will come off, end of discussion. If she refuses, you will take away her shoes and socks for let’s say two months and make her wear sandals to school (well, when schools reopen, that is), so that everyone will see her feet. I guess that will be worse for her, right?
If you make her do things like this regularly, I believe she will slowly start to grow out of it.

[Opinion Owner]

Your opinions are very important for me so I decided to let go of the punishment idea for now. I'll consider the photo shoot option as you said it could work. But I'm sure it'd be still very hard to convince her. Threatening to take away all her shoes and socks could work maybe though. She doesn't own any sandals at the moment. Should I go and buy her some right now?
I'll look for the photo shoot studios nearby. How exactly do you think those photos should be? Should they be a family photo with all of us? Or an exclusive photo with only her?

[seahorsegirl]

Yes, maybe it's better not to use it as a regular punishment on her, but I'm unsure about that.
I know she doesn't own any sandals (what would be the point of owning them if you cannot wear them?), so yes, I mean you should buy her a pair, or threaten to do so if she doesn't accept to take off her socks for the photo shoot.
I was thinking of a family photo shoot, as in the studio they are commonly done with bare feet, at least that's how they do it in Europe. Also, it would be a nice activity that you can do together as a family. Of course, it would mean that all of you have to be barefoot, but I guess that for the rest of you it's no problem.
I would look for a photo studio that's specialized in indoor family photography. Photos should be taken in the studio, as outside probably you would be allowed to wear shoes. If you tell me where you live, I might even help you find a studio on the internet. And let's hope that this horrible pandemic will pass as soon as possible, because at this very moment I doubt it would be possible

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, let me know if you change your mine of using it as a punishment, until then it's not on the plan. Actually family photo with all bare feet is a problem, because of my husband. He wouldn't like it too, I think that one got her genes from him. So if everyone is not barefoot how can I convince her to be take off her socks?

[seahorsegirl]

Haha, so it's a family thing then. I think your husband will just have to accept taking off his shoes and socks. Unless you can find a reason not to include him in that photo shoot. But it would look very unnatural if one person was wearing shoes or socks and actually this is the argument you were going to use on your daughter. So if your husband refuses to have bare feet, it will be hard to make your daughter accept it. I would talk to your husband and if he really doesn't want to, you could also plan to do a mother-daughter shoot instead.

[Opinion Owner]

I can maybe bribe her 18 years old sister to do it but not my husband I think. So what to do? How about a photo shoot only for her?

[seahorsegirl]

I think with group photos it would be easier, because then you can always say, come on, everyone else is barefoot, we can't make an exception for you. You know what I mean? Actually it really makes sense to take those photos with bare feet, as it shows a certain intimacy between people in the picture and looks much better than with shoes (or even socks). I think, bare feet look better for individual photos as well, but if you are doing a family portrait, you would just have additional arguments.
So my suggestion would be to include your other daughter and then do a shoot only with the girls. Siblings photos can be really cute, too. And in some pictures you can participate as well. I've seen photos done like this in the studio and they turned out really nice.
So what about your other daughter? Is she shy about her feet as well? I think you should definitely include her in the photo shoot and get pictures of your daughters together with bare feet. You will love those photos afterwards.

[Opinion Owner]

Her sister isn't as shy about it as her but she also wears socks most of the time. So it also wouldn't be too easy to put her in the photo but it may be doable.
So does it really necessary for the photo to make sense to her as it won't already work if we don't enforce it anyway? Because she won't like it even if it's a family photo or not, you know.

[seahorsegirl]

Haha ok, I see. But I think you will probably feel better if you have some strong arguments on your side why it is necessary for them to have bare feet. And you should also try to get the photographer on your side. Because if he doesn’t support you during the shoot, if he doesn’t confirm that it really must be bare feet, the whole thing won’t work. I think your photographer is more likely to agree with you on that matter if it is some sort of family photo. As I said, family photos in the studio are commonly done with bare feet, because it just makes sense in a family portrait. It also looks nice in an individual portrait, but in that case it’s more easy to imagine it with shoes on, I guess, which would be more complicated in family shots (you all have to wear similar shoes, they have to be clean and so on).

[seahorsegirl]

So yes, I would plan for them to do some cute siblings shots and a few mother-daughter shots. Now, I would do the following: Find a photographer who does this kind of photos. Talk to him, explain why you think that those photos would be much nicer with bare feet, but that your daughter is shy to show her feet. But since this photo idea won’t work otherwise, it will be important to insist that everyone must remove their shoes and socks. If your photographer doesn’t want to do this, look for someone else. If he does, then you can first talk to the 18 year old girl separately and explain why she will have to take off her socks (so this is another reason why you should choose a setting which makes sense – because you have to persuade her as well). You have to be very firm about this and make it clear that it is really a must. And after she agrees to it, talk to your younger daughter. Don’t give her the feeling that this is something that can still be discussed. Make it clear that the decision has already been made and she will have to accept this. If she really bitches around, tell her that it’s either that or a “no shoes or socks” rule for her at your home for a longer time.
What do you think about my strategy? :)

[Opinion Owner]

I'm considering your strategy. But do you think this photo shoot idea is really necessary?
What exactly will we achieve when we enforce her to take part in this photo after putting a lot of effort and threatening her to do so? What will happen after that?
Can't we do this without involving a photographer?

[seahorsegirl]

Well, it was just an idea of mine. The thing is that I don't think your daughter's fear of bare feet will just go away by itself. I think the only way is for her to get used to having bare feet and people seeing her feet. The photo shoot idea was just one idea I had, because I know that in studio photography it is very often to have subjects take off their shoes and socks. And it has the double benefit of you getting some really nice photos of your daughters (if you never did it before, you will see that those photos are quite different from the ones you can take with your phone). Plus you will have those photos with her bare feet which you can use to further make her get used to the feeling. You could put one of those photos on the wall in your living room for example, so people will see it and slowly it will get more normal for your girls to have their bare feet seen by other people.
They will see that nothing much happens when they have bare feet, so maybe it will be easier to take the next step. For example you could regularly send them to do some activity that requires bare feet.
I'm just trying to devise a strategy that I think would also work on myself. Actually I'm just too much of a coward to tell my parents to implement this same strategy on me :(. But I guess it would work.

[seahorsegirl]

Anyway, what do you have to lose? In the worst case her behaviour won't change, but you will still have some beautiful pictures of your daughters. And it will be pictures you won't be able to get otherwise (bare feet do make a big difference in such photos, believe me).

[Opinion Owner]

I just didn't see much family photos with bare feet, maybe it's not regular in where we live. And she would never let me to put those photos in the wall :D But I'll still consider it as I said.
What other situations could I put her in without her shoes and socks? Also, you can keep in mind that her elder sister kinda likes seeing uncomfortable (you know, because of the typical sibling rivalry) so maybe we can put her in our side and get her to help us if needed.

[seahorsegirl]

Hahaha yes, you definitely have to use this for your advantage to gain her as your ally. :)
So where do you live? In the United Kingdom I can tell you that it's very common for photographers to make families pose with bare feet. I thought it was like that in other countries as well (I guess it is). Look here for example, that's a studio I know: https://www. nousha. co. uk/blog/what-to-wear-for-your-family-photo-shoot (remove the space after www)
About putting the photos on the wall, you can see about that later. First get those photos done and then you can see ;)
Maybe if you put them on the wall in your own bedroom, she won't be able to say anything as this is your room.

[Opinion Owner]

Can you please tell me how exactly would you react if you were told to remove your socks in a photo shoot like this?

[seahorsegirl]

Well, this has happened to me already, this is why I know so much about it haha. My mom took us all to a photo studio for some family pictures. We prepared some casual clothes in similar tones so that they would harmonize in the photos. So when we got there, we had a quick chat with our photographer and then we were about to get started. Then she said: “So guys, before we begin, I have to ask that everyone please takes off their shoes and socks. I always do this kind of photos with bare feet, because it looks so much nicer and will also underline that this is a casual photo with the whole family together.”
I hadn’t expected this to happen, so I was completely unprepared for it. I assumed that this was just a suggestion of hers, so I said “Sure, we can all remove our shoes, but actually I would like to keep my socks on, if that’s ok.”. But she replied “No honey, please take your socks off, too. I never take photos with socks, it just doesn’t look good. But there’s no need to be embarrassed, I promise I won’t zoom in on your toe-nails.”. So I had no choice but to take off my socks. I felt really uncomfortable having to sit there in my bare feet. And although she kept her promise of not zooming I on my feet, they still show in many of the pictures. I tried to hide them under my body at first, but then she had us sit in many different poses where they would show, like everyone sitting in a row with all the feet together in the middle and so on. So it was embarrassing for me, but you didn’t really notice that when you looked at the photos afterwards. My sister kept making fun of me having to take off my socks as she knows how shy I am, which didn’t make this easier.
But, as I said before, it did help me to make being barefoot feel more “normal”. If my parents had used this as part of a strategy to make me take off my socks more often, maybe it could really have helped.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah the problem is my daughter would never just reluctantly takes off her socks and complies. She's much more stubborn than you it seems. She'd probably tries to leave the studio asap once she hears about the no socks rule of the studio...

[seahorsegirl]

I am pretty stubborn about this, too, to be honest. And yes, I also wanted to just say no, I won’t do this. But my mom pushed me and said, come on, we are not having this discussion now, you will take off your socks now. I knew that my parents would be really mad at me if I’d just leave, since they also paid for this photo shoot and we don’t have much money. So I was afraid of the trouble and how they would probably punish me if I refused. It felt like my hands were working automatically at that moment. I couldn’t even think any more, I just knew I had to do this now, so I pulled off my socks. That lady who was our photographer laughed and said “See, it wasn’t that hard! And I’m happy to see that you have completely normal feet with five toes and clean nails. You’ll see, they will look nice in those photos”. This was intended to calm me down, but actually made me even more uncomfortable.
So I don’t know, but I guess I’m pretty much the same as your daughter. I’m very shy about showing my feet, it was just that I didn’t see any way how to avoid it in that situation. If you make it clear to your daughter that she simply has no choice, probably she will act in the same way as me.

[amylynnn]

Hello! I have a elder sister who is very similar with your daughter. I think you really should use this as punishment on her. She'll either get rid of this phobia of hers or you'd have a easy way to teach her a lesson when she behaves badly. So it's a win-win situation for you.

[Opinion Owner]

@amylynnn Hi there, thank you for your answer! I was considering using this punishment on her but was kinda discouraged by seahorsegirl here as she was the one who could actually put herself in my daughter's shoes. So I'm still not sure about it but I'll consider it again if you say so.

[seahorsegirl]

Well I'm not sure. I personally would have hated it if my mother used this as a punishment. But then on the other hand, it's a punishment, so you're not supposed to like it. Actually I don't think it will do her harm if she has to do this, since I have been in the situation having to show my bare feet, too, and it was hard, but I survived it. But obviously I don't know your daughter and in the end it's your decision. I would say, give it a try and then you can report how it worked :)

[Opinion Owner]

If you say so I'd give it a try. But I really don't know how exactly I can do it. For example, should I
just tell her to take off her socks and stay barefoot, or should I go to her room and take away all
her footwear myself, or any other ideas? For how long and how strictly should I apply it? I'd be very glad if you can help me with the details.

[seahorsegirl]

I would say it depends on the situation. If you use it as a punishment, obviously it should also depend on her "crime". If she does something bad repeatedly, of course you could decide that this means no socks for a week or so. And yes, I would just tell her, "Now, since you don't seem to learn, I've made up a new punishment. You're going to take off your socks now and stay in bare feet for the next day/week/month/whatever".

What you could also do is change the rules for your home: Like everyone now has to take off both shoes and socks when they come in. Or everyone under 20. You could call it an experiment to make her get used to being barefoot, or make up some other reason (socks are too slippery or whatever). If you do that, you could consider taking away all her socks for some time. Maybe also buy her a nice pair of sandals which she will then have to wear outside during summer. If you manage to do that, probably after this summer her problem will have improved, if not disappeared.

I don't know which approach you prefer, I think both can be successful in getting your daughter used to being barefoot.

[seahorsegirl]

Now I thought about it again and I would say, maybe you should make her take off her socks as a punishment. If you really want her to learn her lesson it should be clear that it is a punishment. Also, I think it will be more effective if she is the only one with bare feet.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for your opinions. I also liked the first idea better because the second one is much harder to do.
Lately, she's being really mean to her elder sister. You said that punishment depends on her "crime". Do you think that I should somehow take away her socks for this? Does it fit the crime?

[seahorsegirl]

Hi there. Yeah, I would definitely say that making her go barefoot would be an appropriate punishment. Define a span of time during which she has to be barefoot. If you catch her "cheating" by wearing anything on her feet during that time, let her barefoot time start from the beginning. :)
To make the punishment effective, you should definitely arrange a situation where she must have bare feet whereas her sister and some of her friends are wearing socks. So make her invite her friends over to your place and make it clear that her punishment is also valid during their visit.

I think this way the punishment will work just fine and she will surely think twice before behaving like that again. What do you think? :)

[Opinion Owner]

Inviting her friends over is an interesting idea. Of course they can wear their socks if they want to while she can't.
I still don't know what should the span would be and how can I enforce it. Because I didn't mention it yet but I know that she won't want to do it and she's not small as she used to be (15 years old). Do you have any ideas?

[seahorsegirl]

Yes, I think you should definitely invite her friends over :)
About the span of time, I would say it depends on what she did. Since she kept being mean to her sister, maybe two weeks for a start?
Of course she won’t want to do it, that’s why it’s a punishment, right? :)
I don’t know your daughter, so maybe it will be enough to just make it very clear that she will not be allowed to wear anything on her feet and if she breaks the rules, her punishment will only last longer. If this doesn’t work, probably you’ll have to take away her socks for that time. And if she resists too much, you could buy her a pair of sandals and make her wear them outside as well.

[seahorsegirl]

hey! did you already apply that barefoot punishment to your daughter? And if yes, did it work? I hope I could help you

[Opinion Owner]

Hi! Yes I already mentioned her about our punishment idea when she kept being mean to her sister despite my warnings.
But now she's literally begging me not to make her go barefoot for it. I don't want to take my word back as she was warned but she's promising me that it won't happen again.
So I couldn't decide if I should do it despite her pleas. Maybe you can help me with this tough decision?

[seahorsegirl]

Hi! Actually, for me it is pretty clear what you have to do. It was nice of you to give her a warning, but since she kept being mean to her sister, you have no choice but to punish her. If you ignore this now, probably her behavior will get worse and future warnings won’t have any effect any more.
So, although I feel a little sorry for her (as I feel the same about my feet), I think it is necessary to make her go barefoot. Tell her she can’t wear anything on her feet at home for the next two weeks and if you catch her wearing socks, her punishment time will start from the beginning again. And don’t forget to invite her friends over, because I guess if she is not seen by them in her bare feet, her punishment won’t be as effective.
What do you think?

[seahorsegirl]

Oh and I have another idea: since she kept being mean to her sister, her sister should also be part of the punishment. I think you should give her two weeks of barefoot time. And after that, there will be another two weeks where she doesn't have to be barefoot all the time, but her sister can decide any time she wants that she has to remove her socks. That way she will have to be really nice to her sister :-). And her sister should also keep an eye on her if she wears anything on her feet - and if she does, she can decide if the punishment has to start over again. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

I had given her a warning but had not mention about this punishment. I had also warned her that it'd be something that she wouldn't like but clearly she was not expecting this.
Anyway, I'll listen to you and tell her that she's not allowed to wear any socks when she's in the house for 2 weeks. I also loved your idea about involving her sister after 2 weeks.
But I'll not tell them that before to see how she'll behave to her after 2 weeks without knowing about this. Is it ok? Do you have any other ideas before I tell her about her punishment?

[seahorsegirl]

Sorry for replying so late. Yeah, I think that’s the right decision. Even if you didn’t tell her exactly what she would have to do, I think she got her chance. I think your idea of not telling her what will happen after the two weeks is a good one. That way you will be able to check if she really changed her behavior or just pretended to do so due to being afraid of her sisters’ revenge.
So just do it, in case you haven’t already, and please keep me updated on how it is working out.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I already ordered her to go barefoot couple of days ago. So far, she spent most of her time outside (despite the pandemic situation) and when she's at home she's locking herself in her room so it may not be much effective so far.

[seahorsegirl]

I see. Well, at least you managed to get her to take off her socks. But of course she shouldn't be allowed to just get away like that. Maybe you should spend some family time in the living room together, where she has to be barefoot. And as I said before, her friends should be invited over, so they can see her like that, too :)
In general, what's your impression how she is taking her new situation? I imagine it must be hard for her, but maybe in a way it's also a new experience. And what has her sister's reaction been so far?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes she barely comes to home but I'll try to keep her in the living room when she does but I don't know how. Her cousins will be coming over at this weekend so she'll have to be barefoot with them. She seems to really hate it and doesn't get used to it at all so far. But her sister seems the love this punishment idea :)

[seahorsegirl]

That's great, so tell me how it was when her cousins were around. :)
I think you should just tell her that it is part of her punishment that her feet have to be seen, which is why she is not allowed to hide in her room and must be in the living room for a certain amount of time every day and when visitors are there. She is also not allowed to sit on her feet to hide them.
Yeah, I can imagine that her sister loves this :D

[Opinion Owner]

I just told her that her cousins will be coming over and as expected she's begging me not to make
her go barefoot in front of them. She says she'll do anything if I let her wear her slippers and just keep the no socks rule. What do you think I should do?

[seahorsegirl]

Mmh I understand it must be hard for her, as it would be for me.
But nevertheless, in my opinion it is important to stay consistent now. If you undermine this punishment now by allowing her to wear slippers, it will lose its effectiveness. I mean, what's the point of a barefoot punishment if noone gets to see your feet? So my advice is clear: She should have bare feet all the time, also (in fact even more so) when visitors are there.

[seahorsegirl]

Oh and obviously she can't be allowed to hide her feet during the visit. Maybe her sister can help with this. If she starts sitting on her feet or hiding them in some other way, she could start tickling them or something like that :D
That way she will see that it can actually also be a lot of fun to have bare feet

[Opinion Owner]

OK what should we tell to out guests if they ask why is she barefoot? Her cousins would definitely notice it as she was never barefoot around them before. Should I tell them that she's being punished?

[seahorsegirl]

You are right that they will probably notice. In that case I think you should tell them the truth: That she needed a punishment and as she is so ashamed to show her feet, her punishment is to have bare feet.

[seahorsegirl]

Actually, maybe the best solution would be if she herself has to explain why she is barefoot. This would also make her reflect on what she did to get there and improve her behaviour in the future. What do you think?

[seahorsegirl]

So, how was the weekend? What did you decide to do? :)

[Opinion Owner]

Hi! The cousins could not come for another reason unfortunately. They may come next week. But she's been barefoot all the time. She's still trying to hide her feet as much as she could though. Her punishment will end in 2 days.

[seahorsegirl]

Hi! It’s good that she has been barefoot all the time. What do you think how she has been feeling about it? Do you think that being barefoot has become more “normal” for her because of her punishment?
Also, did you involve her sister in the punishment by letting her decide when it ends?
I also think that she shouldn’t be allowed to get away without having to show her feet to her cousins. So when they come, I think she should have to take off her socks even if her punishment time is over.

[Opinion Owner]

No as I said it's still not "normal" for her at all, it's still a good punishment for her.
Her punishment time is ending today and yes now I'll tell her (and her sister) that it't her sister's decision if she's allowed to wear socks or not. I really don't know how will she react to this.
So it'll depend on her sister if she'll take off her socks when the cousins comes.

[seahorsegirl]

Yes, I imagine it is a very effective punishment, as it would be for me :).
I think it was really a good idea to let her sister decide. And to be honest, if until now she didn't have to show her feet to anyone apart from her parents and sister, I think to complete her punishment, she should have to take off her socks during her cousins' visit as well. Maybe you can talk to her sister about that.

[seahorsegirl]

So, what did her sister decide? And did her cousins visit already?

[fr44c3iqqs]

I don't really think it is abnormal or unhealthy for her to not want her feet to be seen barefoot, and it should not be bothering you. Now, if she did want to start wearing sandals or go barefoot but had the fear of doing so, then yes you should help her to do so, if she is okay to do so, and the exact same thing applies if you had a son who was the same way either way, respect his decisions and help him overcome his fear if he wanted to do it and only if he is fine with being helped out. There should be no double gender standard bias, even though most people have that bias, but yes, that bias should be dumped altogether.

[JenLySailor]

What a funny topic😁I had the same problem. Very good way to solve it is just take away all her closed shoes and all her socks (for the summer) and make her wear sandals (they must have an open toe) Whether she wants or not, she won't be able to hide her feet, and after a while, she'll get used to it.

[Eugene70]

A really bad advice...

[MikkiM]

dont expose it when you're not ready.. free will is better when you're willing. You'll gain confidence rather than humiliation

[seahorsegirl]

Hey Mikki, thank you for your opinion. The thing is that often there is no way of not exposing my feet. For most people bare feet are not a big thing, which is why there are many situations where you can't avoid being barefoot.
So I was thinking that maybe I have to find a way to get used to it?

[chriscdi]

well damn, the luck you have, all these situations you ran into about having to show your feet, I've only had to show my feet maybe once in my life, why dont you try wearing socks, use socks for yoga, i doubt they will make you take off your socks

[seahorsegirl]

Why do you think I am lucky? Actually it was quite embarrassing every time haha
Yoga was just an example, I haven't done it so far, I just heard that you need to do it without socks.
So what was that situation where you had to show your feet?

[chriscdi]

that was more of a sarcasm cause its not lucky more of a unlucky but you know what i mean, anyways its just your feet, you shouldn't really be afraid to show them because people dont really pay attention to them, i recommend you stay away from people with foot fetishes then since you dont like the attention but try to wear socks when you can and if you can't ig just try to cope it as much as you can.

[seahorsegirl]

I know people are not really paying attention to my feet, but it just feels like they do. I just feel kind of exposed when I have bare feet. Of course I wear socks whenever I can, it's just that it's not always possible to do so.
I'd like to stay away from people with foot fetishes so they don't stare at my feet, it's just not always possible to tell if someone has a fetish or not haha
So will you tell me in which situation you had to be barefoot and show your feet?

[chriscdi]

i had to do it when i go to a public pool or once when i was wearing slides at a doctor and they told me to take them off when they were going to measure my weight and height

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

That is the most adorable insecurity I've ever heard of. Weird, but adorable.
I guess you could start by showing feet regularly with family and friends, people you are close with, and build up confidence.

[seahorsegirl]

Hehe thank you, that's sweet of you.
The thing is, it's really hard for me to show my feet. I can only do it if I have no choice, like with our school photographer. Maybe the only way is to get into situations where I have to have bare feet?

by the way I also asked a question about that story with our school photographer, maybe you can share your opinion there as well?

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

If that seems logical to you then go for it. The best way to begin to work on it is to decide on what you think works best for you. In the end you're only going to get the best advice from yourself.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Oh and I would share an opinion but your profile is private so I cannot see it.

[seahorsegirl]

I removed the privacy setting on my profile, so it should work now :)
Thank you in advance!

I just can't think of any other way how to get over my shyness. So maybe do you have any idea how I could get myself into situations where I have no choice but to be barefoot around other people? Maybe I should ask my parents, as they could establish some kind of rule for me? But then I have to dare and ask them to require me to do the very thing I am so shy to do...

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Summer is coming up so spend time on the beach. Play volleyball, swim.

[seahorsegirl]

Well, going to the beach or swimming is not going to help. For some reasons, I don't have a problem to have bare feet then, maybe because it is more normal and because I'm not wearing clothes anyway then.
It's really difficult though when I'm wearing clothes but my feet are bare, like at that photo shoot.
Once my mom had the idea of making it a rule that I'm not allowed to wear anything on my feet when I'm at home, so that I would finally get used to being barefoot. She forgot about it though and didn't mention it any more. I thought I was lucky that she forgot it, but maybe it would really have helped me if I would have to follow a rule like that. What do you think?

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I'd try to set up that rule with your mother once more.

[seahorsegirl]

mmh yes maybe I should, although it will be really hard.
So that rule should be that I need to have bare feet at home at all times without exceptions, even when there are visitors? So when I get home, I have to remove my shoes and socks at once?

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Sure. Sounds like it'd be an effective rule.

[StevenBrown88]

I was just like you. For the longest time, I could not take my shoes and socks off and go barefoot around other people. I didn’t want people to see me barefoot, or see my bare feet. It was all mental for me because there wasn’t anything physically wrong with my feet that I was self-conscious about. Every time I did so, I would feel uncomfortable and a lot of anxiety, and always tried to hide my feet so people couldn’t see them. This problem started when I was in first grade and lasted until I was in university, so quite a long time. I decided that it was time to overcome it because it was bothering me, and I knew that it would affect my life as I got older. So, how did I overcome it? The best way to overcome any fear is gradual exposure.


Gradual exposure is a process where you put yourself in situations to confront your fear, so I did just that. As I was comfortable being barefoot when I was alone, I had to put myself in a situation where I had to be barefoot around other people. Since swimming doesn’t count, nor does going to the beach, I decided to take a yoga class. That was a huge first step for me because I knew that yoga was best practiced barefoot, and always avoided it because of that reason. I didn’t let that stop me, like it did in the past, I knew that this was something I had to do. Was I nervous? Yes, I was really nervous because this was my very first yoga class and the first time that I was going to be barefoot around other people. I knew that taking my shoes and socks off wasn’t going to be easy for me, but I did what I was told and walked into the room and took the class without much issue. The more classes I went to, the easier it got and within a year, my anxiety went away and soon found out how comfortable and liberating it felt to go barefoot. It took me years to get to the point where I am now, but I have no problem with being barefoot around other people or people seeing my feet. It feels natural and normal. Also, yoga also teaches you body acceptance, so that helped me out as well.


How can you overcome this? The same way I did by using the gradual exposure technique. Start by taking a yoga class because that’s what worked for me. I sent you a follow request, so don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions.

[Mehdi-J]

Hey there.
just googled to see if anyone has the same thing as me and wow! i've had this condition since i can remember.
i remember when i was 4 and we were going to stay at my grandma's for some days. my mom didn't brought me socks there cause i was wearing sandals and boy was those days like hell for me. i used to hid my feet under a chair or a carpet for all the time we were there! and i never wore sandals again
sometime after that when i was about 7 i got some freedom of my own in wearing clothes and i started to wear socks all the time everywhere and avoided every kind of footwear that could expose my feet (well except when i went for a swim of course in that case i went into water as fast as i could or when sleeping in that case my bed sheet was there for me). everyone around me mocked me for it all the time and it wasn't like i didn't like the way my feet looks or anything i just did this the way you don't walk around exposing your genital it just didn't felt right to me.
now at 23 i still wear socks everywhere and it's not just about exposing them, over time it became a matter of keeping my feet clean too as i saw people's feet are dirty and all kinds of stuff is stuck to it or their feet skin is cracked and everything.
the peak of this was when i was doing my military service. during my basic training after 7pm until 4am we were only allowed to wear undershirt, underwear, pants and flip flops! nothing more nothing less. imagine how it was for me after all this time i had to expose my feet to all these people but trust me no one cared even a little.
so if you want my opinion just wear socks and don't think about what anyone thinks. it makes me, you and everyone like us more comfortable and it isn't hurting anyone so there's nothing wrong with it at all. and if you were ever forced to be barefoot just take off your socks and don't even think about it cause like i said no one cares.

[Anonymous]

I really don't think it's weird or unhealthy for a girl to never want to show her feet. It's all a personal preference. If people want to do something but fear doing it, they should try overcoming their fear and try doing it or just do it, but if they absolutely don't want to do it, then it must be respected. Just because everyone else or most people of their gender do it, it doesn't mean it must be done, inasmuch as people don't have to date, get married, or even have kids, even if they are married. There is no point in trying to fit on, just be yourself, and do what you enjoy to do or want to do.

Now, I don't really have the best tips as to how you can get over that fear of yours, but I say start off by wearing fully closed toe sandals, first with no holes, then with some holes, or clogs or flats. Then, you can get into peep toe or the kind of sandals that are open toed yet cover your whole foot. Only if that type of sandal existed just like that where you can slowly make the toe strap thinner and thinner from the front part, but I guess a good alternative to this would be cutting off the strap little by little by thin string on the farthest front part with scissors. If you also fear showing the heel part but want to show it, you can start off by one covering your hole heel and slowly crop more holes or thin line holes from it. Hope I helped and clarified some points effectively.

[MeghanL]

The first thing is to decide if you want to. At the end of the day it's an individual choice, of course.

If it is a change you want to make it's pretty easy. You take off your shoes & socks & go barefoot, or wear sandals. The idea is the more you do it the less odd it will seem.

As you do it more & more you will find it less & less strange & more & more pleasant. Feeling the cool air on your feet, feeling the grass & the ground underfoot. If I were a betting person I'd say you will soon enjoy it.

Good luck!

[sinderella18]

I was going to say just go barefoot gradually.

Also did you do pe in barefeet and if so how did it feel?

I have to do pe barefoot as my pe shoes got ruined but I'm trying to get used to it and it gets easier.

[Tristana92]

Honestly, the best option that I can think of is to join a foot fetish forum. Upload some pics of your feet (you can do it annonymously) and see that the foot fetishists probably love them. Fetlife has a lot of foot fetish relates groups :)

[Anonymous]

Haha looks like I’m not alone. I rarely show my feet in public and too self conscious about them, despite the compliments I’ve received from girls

[Opinion Owner]

you’re probably like me and must have extremely soft soles then haha

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm but for the photo shoot, that’s really weird. Thankfully, I’ve never been pushed into that type of situation at all. Guess thats partially coz I’m a boy.

If there’s gonna be a whole bunch of people in your photo shoot, with many rows, try hide behind someone, maybe in a place where your feet are less exposed. Maybe between two people so your face can still be seen. If it is a big group photo like that, it’s probably going to be done from far away, meaning your feet will be even less visible. And I highly doubt that unless someone has a foot fetish that they’ll first think “let’s look at all the girls feet”, let alone yours in particular if they don’t know you. People mainly look at faces, that’s how people are identified, by face. Just remember, most families who take home the photos will only look at their kids, rarely someone else’s. And it’d be almost impossible for someone to say “I wanna see seashores girls feet” in particular.

Because I’m not entirely sure of the context regarding the photo shoot, these are only assumptions I can make, so I can’t say for sure. If it’s a one row photo with a few kids, that’s gonna be hard. But don’t worry, you’ll be fine! :) hope that helps!!

[Opinion Owner]

If you really want to overcome your shyness showing your feet, then you have to confront it, that’s the only way to fix it. But incase that’s overwhelming, try baby steps first. Try going barefoot alone when no ones around, and if real life is confronting in the beginning, try to break the barrier online. For example, ask your close friends what they think of your feet, or you could make a gag post about it. Either your close friends, coz they won’t judge you much, or try gag because people don’t know you on here, so less pressure. When you do that, and someone says your feet look nice, which I bet they do, that’ll eliminate some weight off your shoulders. It’ll increase your confidence, and did for me. then from there, you can try confront it in real life and it should get better. It may be hard, but I’m sure you’ll succeed 👍🏻

[seahorsegirl]

Hey. Thanks for sharing with me that you have the same issue about your feet.
During the photo shoot it was not because I was a girl. All the students had to have bare feet.
First we had our individual photos taken. They were full-body and our photographer always gave instructions what to do. Most of the time I was sitting on the white canvas or on a chair, so no chance to hide my feet. In the end we did group shots, where I hoped to be able to hide behind the others at first, but then the photographer told all girls to come to the front, because the guys were taller than the girls. She did a few shots and then told all girls to sit in the front with feet in front of them and the boys to kneel behind us. So, again we couldn't hide our feet.
Yes you are right that in the group photos my feet are relatively small and probably noone will take a close look at them. In the individual pictures, unfortunately my feet are quite visible.

[seahorsegirl]

Yes, you are right that in order to overcome my shyness, I will have to confront it. But it would be really weird to post or send pictures of my bare feet to anyone.
And when people say my feet look nice, it won’t help much, because my problem is not that I think my feet are ugly. I know they are not ugly, but still I feel very exposed when they are bare.
Maybe I should be forced to get into a situation regularly where I have no choice but to have bare feet. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

So even the boys had to be bare footed, didn’t know that, it’s probably a cultural thing then, dunno for sure. and there were individual photos? You even had to be barefoot for individual photos? Thats weird... Did you have to pose a particular way for the individual photo? If not and you had a stool, you could’ve tucked your legs back to hide your feet. For the individual pictures, aren’t they only for you? Coz other parents won’t also get other students individual photos too. Just their child’s individual photo for the self, right? so only your family has your individual photo for example. And I understand girls had to be in front for group photo due to height. But surely, if it’s a big group photo, wouldn’t there have been a few rows of girls? Maybe you’re not the shortest and could go behind the shorter girls? I dunno your height, so can’t say so for sure

[Opinion Owner]

Well more importantly than forcing yourself to do it, you’ve got to find out exactly what about your feet being exposed that you don’t like. you see, for me, I know it’s mental, and I’m worried that people find my feet ugly. To fix my self consciousness, asking people online for me was part of the solution. You have to ask yourself, is it mental? If it’s mental, do you not like your feet being bare because other people will see them? Or do you not like it just because of yourself and not others? Or if it’s physical, do you hate the feeling of being barefooted? The only way to fix something is to find it by digging deep and then dealing with it from there. I think the next time you’re pushed into a situation where you have to expose your feet, observe what goes on in your mind. What you don’t like. And when you find your answer, the problem will be a lot easier to fix. I’m willing to do this together with you. Like I said, I also have the same problem, stemming from a different cause, So we can overcome it together :)

[seahorsegirl]

Yes, everyone had to be barefoot. Would you find it less weird if this was a rule only for girls?
The photographer came up with a theme this time: In past years, some people complained about school photos being all the same and boring. So this time, the pictures were intended to be very fun and casual. We were told to wear jeans and white shirts, so everyone had basically the same attire. We were also told in advance that shoes and socks would have to be removed and to prepare our feet for getting photographed, but I was sick that day and my classmate forgot to tell me. So I didn’t know this until the day of the shoot.
Yes, individual photos were also with bare feet. She said it helps to underline the casual feeling of the photos, but it’s also because shoes are not allowed on the white canvas she was using. And since she was absolutely against photographing anyone in socks due to aesthetic reasons, she insisted it had to be bare feet.
We were told to pose in several particular ways. It was the same for every student due to lack of time. Many photos were taken with us just sitting on the canvas with our feet in front of us or crossed legs. I did try for sure to hide my feet behind the stool, but she noticed it and said, “can you please put your legs in front of the chair, otherwise you create tension in the photos and this is exactly what we want to avoid”.
Our individual photos were sent directly to our parents, so yes, of course other parents didn’t get my photos. They just got the group photos.
Our group was about 18-20 students or so, so it was possible to do it in two rows, with all the girls sitting in the front.
Do you have any more questions about our school photo shoot? What do you think about the reasons given by our photographer why feet had to be bare?

[Opinion Owner]

Well the whole barefoot idea, regardless of gender is weird altogether. And I feel the theme of fun and casual is so much more than just being barefoot. You can be fun and casual without being barefoot in my opinion lol. And yea, thought it was just girls before, as they usually had better feet than boys. Seems it’s not gender exclusive. and looks like it was unavoidable for the individual photos. I don’t know how things culturally are where you are, but in Australia, if a student didn’t like something, they didn’t have to do it and it wouldn’t be seen as rude or offensive. 20 is an awfully small number for a group photo. Our grade had 180+ people, so I could’ve easily gotten away with it if I was in the same situation. I don’t think questions about the photo shoot will help much more. I think tackling the actual problem will be helpful. As in my previous reply, asking yourself if hating being barefoot is mental or physical and why? What’s the cause?

[seahorsegirl]

About overcoming my fear, yes it’s mental, not physical. And as I said it’s not about my feet per se. I know some people with really ugly feet and I hate to see them barefoot, so I know mine are not ugly hahaha
I can’t explain why I feel exposed with bare feet. It just feels like being partly naked. Feet are something intimate for me, as they are rarely seen by other people than myself. Of course you can tell me that feet are not intimate, they are like hands and so on, but it won’t help, because that’s not how I feel about feet. This is why I believe that the only way to overcome this might to get used to the feeling of having bare feet and people seeing them. Like for example that photo shoot at school, which was very embarrassing for me. And when I saw my classmates afterwards, I always had to think about that they have those group pictures at home with my bare feet in them. On the other hand, however, it was also like, ok, they’ve got photos of my bare feet, but it didn’t change anything. So I feel like a got a small step closer to accepting it. Sometimes in the past I was forced to let them see my feet when I forgot my PE kit for PE lesson. It was similar there. But I would have to be in that situation repeatedly though, in order to really get used to the feeling.
And thank you for your offer about overcoming it together. Yes, we can try that :)

[seahorsegirl]

Of course casual is more than being barefoot, which is why we were wearing jeans and white shirts and told to get into casual positions (in the individual photos). Bare feet were just thought to underline this. And I guess it worked, because when you look at the pictures, you realize at once that the subjects have bare feet and somehow you feel closer to them, as this makes it very informal.
Groups for the group shots were rather small, yes, as it wasn’t the whole grade but each class in a separate photo shoot. I live in the UK and here it is common that students sometimes have to do things even if they don’t like them. There are school uniforms for example, which many of us don’t like either, but we still have to wear them. Actually that might be another reason why most of my classmates were really happy about the photo shoot day taking place in casual clothing. If you forget your stuff for PE lessons, they make you participate in your bare feet as well. You can’t just say, I prefer not to do this. Well ok, you can, but they make you regret it afterwards.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm so do you hate feet altogether on anyone? Or are you neutral? Do you even find some people’s feet pretty? Or it’s not any of those? I would like to know

I think what I’m getting is it’s from a mental notion, where you find feet to be an intimate part, which I totally understand. I think the same too for myself haha. if that’s the case, yea, getting use to going barefoot repetitively will probably be the way. I think also remembering that feet are generally ignored by the pubic will help. Also think, everytime you showed your feet, did anyone specifically talk about your feet? Probably not I assume. And yea, like you said, everyone has pictures of your feet, but remember, you also have pictures of everyone’s feet. And the individual photos are just for each student, so no need to worry.

In Australia, going barefoot is so common in our culture. Kids would be running barefoot in grass, rain and mid. I’m the alien there that doesn’t haha. How often do you go barefoot? Are you ever barefoot in the living room at home? Also, do you go to high school or university? If university, what degree are you studying? Sorry for a lot of questions, I wanna try understand more to help :)

[Opinion Owner]

I guess that’s true too. Just very unusual to be barefoot in photo shoot, and I know I’m not alone on that one. Not that the people that commented on this post think your school is bad for that, we find it unusual, that’s all.

Ahh in the UK, didn’t expect that. I’ve forgotten my PE gear, but all I had to do was sit out and not play sports. I could still keep my shoes on haha

[seahorsegirl]

No problem, ask as many questions as you want!
I don’t hate feet in general. I would say I’m neutral towards feet, since it depends on how they look. I’m grossed out by some feet, but if they have a normal form and are clean, with trimmed nails etc., they can also look nice. So, when my girl friends have bare feet or wear sandals in summer, I often think that it looks cute. I don’t even hate my own feet, as I said, I just don’t want people to see them haha
I’m never barefoot at home (well, only when sleeping or under the shower, but then nobody can see me). I went to high school and will start university soon (in case university will open at all).
When people see my feet, sometimes they do comment on them. After that photo shoot at school, there was a guy, a friend from my class, who said that he liked to see me in my bare feet and that it looked really cute. Another girl asked how it felt to have bare feet during the photoshoot. When I forgot my PE kit once and had to take part in bare feet, I got some similar comments. But they already figured out that I never show my feet, so I guess this is the reason why they pay extra attention to my feet in those rare situations when they are bare, right?

[seahorsegirl]

Oh and about the individual photos, yes, only my family got them as well as my school, although I think they just keep them in some archive and don't publish them. But still, it's very embarrassing for me, as my parents and sister keep looking at them and saying how cool it is that I have bare feet. They also put them into our family photo album which they show to all our relatives and friends.

[Opinion Owner]

Yea I think you not showing your feet often probably made people pay attention to it more. But the general public mostly doesn’t pay attention to someone’s feet. you're exactly like me, I absolutely hate ugly feet, but I appreciate pretty ones.

Yea so you never go barefoot at home. That’s what I thought, coz same with me haha. Start going barefoot at home then. The outside public may be too overwhelming, so start with family. Your family is more understanding than any outsider

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, well why be shy, your family finds you being bare foot cool, so be proud of it. If only my family was the same as yours haha. And remember, yes they may see your feet, but that isn’t the main feature of the photo. Just treat that photo as one of those embarrassing photos we all have. Through the process, you just have to become more carefree about being barefoot :)

[Opinion Owner]

I feel like we should switch to chat or something haha

[seahorsegirl]

you can write me a message if you want, then we can chat there

[Opinion Owner]

Problem is we’re both xper 1, so we can’t chat here. For now at least. And even if we could, we can’t attach links and such

[seahorsegirl]

oh, I see. In chats you can send links actually. Well, I guess then we have to continue here.
Well no, it's not cool that my family comments on my photos like that. They know how shy I am and that it would be very hard for them to get a photo of me with bare feet. So they are happy for precisely that reason that I am shy to show my feet, but they still managed to get barefoot pictures of me that they can show around. It is really embarrassing

[Opinion Owner]

Yup, till one of us reaches Xper 2 or more.

Your family isn’t being mean, they’re just being cheeky. Think of it as banter, or just go along with it. If you always act embarrassed, they might do it more, or treat it more seriously. Try treat it lightly :) they could be showing your bare feet to other people for your own good. And hey, if they do, you won’t have to worry about being barefoot in front of em since they’ve already seen the photo ;)

[Opinion Owner]

By them showing your feet, they’re doing half the job for you

[seahorsegirl]

It’s really hard for me to just go along with it, but yes, I think you are right that the more they see how embarrassed I am, the more they act like this and try to tease me.
Well yes, I suppose you are right with that last point. By showing those pictures to everyone, they could be helping me to get used to what it feels when people see my bare feet.

[Opinion Owner]

Yea, take it positively :)

https://www. girlsaskguys. com/qt/sexual-behavior/q3970843-girls-would-you-choose-to-date-a-guy-with-pretty-feminine-hands-feet

These are my hands and feet haha. Remove the space after www for the link to work ;)

[Opinion Owner]

The space between “www.” And “girlsaskguys”

[Opinion Owner]

Heya, sent you a follow request :)

[Opinion Owner]

Did it come through? Just sent a follow request again incase not

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for accepting :)) still can’t message for now, but maybe soon!! We’ll have to chat here for now. You still shy about your feet? How you going?

And out of curiosity, what did you think of my feet? :D

[seahorsegirl]

Haha yes of course I am still shy about my feet, things like that don't change in two days :D
I'm a little confused by your question about your feet. What am I supposed to say now haha?

[Opinion Owner]

That’s true, but incase there was some improvement of any sort? :)

As for my feet, just wanted to know if you think they look good. Especially coz I’m a guy and not a girl :) do you think my feet look nice?

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh, that’s a shame. Was hoping to get an opinion, but I understand, I’ll respect your choice :)

[Opinion Owner]

Well I remember you saying some feet were nice and others not, so I was wonder where along the lines I was. But never mind, i respect your choice :)

[Just_ur_average_guy]

Have you tried going barefoot more often in front of family?

[Just_ur_average_guy]

Actually, here’s an idea. Do you hate the tops of your feet more, or your soles? Coz if your soles, you can try pointing your toes down in a way where your soles don’t show as much. Depends on the photo angle tho

[Just_ur_average_guy]

How about wearing something like a maxi skirt or really wide legged palazzo pants for the photo shoot? I say that because the fabric is so wide and flowy, it’ll cover your feet from some angles. And since the theme is fun and casual, maxi skirts and wide legged palazzo pants are really good for a casual look :)

[seahorsegirl]

@Just_ur_average_guy No, those photos were taken with just shirts and jeans. It is a typical attire for photo shoots, and is mostly combined with bare feet. If you google it, you will find tons of pictures like that.
I'm shy to show my feet in general. But I guess showing my soles is worse.

[Just_ur_average_guy]

Ahh I see, that’s difficult hmm

If you’re more nervous about your soles, you can try pointing your toes to hide them then :)

Have you tried going barefoot more often?

[Just_ur_average_guy]

Well, all the best with that

[Anonymous]

I have the same problem with my feet. Maybe mine is worse than yours. I feel realy bad when im barefoot in front of somebody else, specially when they can see my feetsoles. I remember one time in school that they made all of us to take or shoes and socks off. It was one of my life's hardest hours. It was like, everyone is acting normal like nothing is going on but only thing i was doing was hiding my feet which was almost impossible

[Anonymous]

My advice : borrow a pair of sandals to a friend and just go for a walk with the sandals without paying attention to the fact your exposing your feet. I guarantee you that it will change your mind and make you feel free.

[seahorsegirl]

Hey, thank you. Well, the thing is that going outside wearing sandals is really a big thing to me. I'm kind of too shy to do this when I'm not forced to...

[fr44c3iqqs]

@seahorsegirl I think that one thing that might help, though it’s a bit too late for this year, is National Flip Flops Day, on the 2nd Friday of June each year. In addition, the restaurant - Tropical Smoothie Cafe gives free smoothie to all people wearing flip flops that day over to the restaurant. I am sure that people love smoothies, and some people who are shy about it will probably also try overcoming their shyness in that day in effort to get a free smoothie. Another thing would be to dine in a restaurant by the beach on the beach sand while still being indoors. That can help you to have a smoother transition in overcoming your fear., although pretty much everyone is either barefoot or wearing sandals so I don’t know if it would be too helpful.

[fr44c3iqqs]

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Opinion owner & @seahorsegirl There are some options here that you may want to consider buying to help yourself (or your daughter for opinion owner if you wanted to get her to give it a try, but never by forcing) transition into wearing sandals and eliminate the shyness in doing so. Here they are:

There are also some options here that you may want to consider buying to help yourself transition into wearing sandals and eliminate the shyness in doing so. If you live in a different country using a currency that is not United States Dollars, I don’t know if you could switch it to your currency but I think you can take a look at the name of the footwear and look online, or you can switch to US Dollars, just be sure you switch enough to US Dollars before purchasing, as in after the cost and being enough for taxes, shipping, etc, although US sales taxes aren’t that high, like 10% maximum. I am only allowed to post 10 links per comment, so I have posted 6 comments in total; here they are:

Nearly fully closed toe sandals:

www.loveleesoles.co.nz/products/black-leopard

palmairasandals.com/.../zesty

palmairasandals.com/collections/original-palmaira

palmairasandals.com/.../santandria

stylewe.com/.../women-s-elegant-casual-peep-toe-sandals

palmairasandals.com/.../black-palmaira-rucksack

m.shopemeryrose.com/.../10578

m.shein.com/.../...PU-Flats-p-405339-cat-1881.html

www.miabellebaby.com/.../womens-peep-toe-flat-casual-sandals-with-back-strap-4-color-options

m.aliexpress.com/.../4000627577295.html

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Opinion owner and @seahorsegirl…

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m.aliexpress.com/.../4000627577295.html

www.nordstrom.com/.../4611431

www.chicme.com/.../product_detail

www.upustyle.com/.../164092-womens-comfy-peep-toe-flat-heel-sandals

www.fyshare.com/.../simple-comfy-summer-slip-on-wedges

www.nordstrom.com/.../4611431

www.shoessee.com/.../...p-toe-sandals-1019433.html

m.aliexpress.com/.../4000627577295.html

www.fetish-fashions.com/domina-high-heel-peep-toe-slide

m.shein.com/.../...t-Mules-p-2243539-cat-1881.html

[fr44c3iqqs]

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jamesascher.com/.../taupe-or-black-peep-toe-v-cut-slide-one-block-heel-mule

www.fyshare.com/.../simple-comfy-summer-slip-on-wedges

Cross over closed toe sandals:

www.amazon.com/.../B083ZT9D6D

www.amazon.com/.../B07V26J4WY

www.famousfootwear.com/.../earth-origins-womens-birdine-closed-toe-sandal-1050443

www.amazon.com/.../B085G85SBG

www.camelstore.com/.../womens-hiking-sandals-sport-water-sandals-comfort-walking-closed-toe-for-outdoor-beach-athletic

greek-sandals.com/.../

Fully closed toe sandals:

www.officialfiesta.com/.../305ciruela_brown.htm

stocken-2.top/ProductDetail.aspx

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stocken-2.top/ProductDetail.aspx

stocken-2.top/ProductDetail.aspx

stocken-2.top/ProductDetail.aspx

stocken-2.top/ProductDetail.aspx

www.amazon.com/.../B08BWWVSNV

Peep toe boots, covering the rest of the foot:

www.macys.com/.../dkny-blake-lug-sole-peep-toe-booties

floralmoda.com/.../floralmoda--back-zip-peep-toe-stiletto-heel-ankle-boots

floralmoda.com/.../floralmoda--peep-toe-ankle-boots

m.milanoo.com/.../...-boots-for-women-p869822.html

www.airydress.com/Women's-Zipper-Mid-Calf-Boots-Round-Toe-Low-Heel-Boots-m146909529

[fr44c3iqqs]

Opinion owner and @seahorsegirl…

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www.oco-7.top/ProductDetail.aspx

www.macys.com/.../michael-michael-kors-lawson-high-heel-shooties

www.macys.com/.../inc-international-concepts-aminah-abdul-jillil-for-inc-azariah-open-toe-booties-created-for-macys

m.shein.com/.../...d-Boots-p-2834249-cat-1748.html

Sneaker sandals, nearly closed footed, if it helps:

m.aliexpress.com/.../4000998017317.html

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p8

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p5

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p9

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p10

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p14

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wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p12

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p13

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p20

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p21

wwb.sneakera2020.com/peep-toe-tennis-shoes_p19

I hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

Don't. The government drones known as "birds" record people's feet and send the pictures straight to the Shadow Masters.

[seahorsegirl]

Haha come on, I asked for serious advice...

[Opinion Owner]

I am serious...

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Interesting. I've never heard of this before. Have you talked to a shrink?

[Commando_Preetam]

Just try to be calm and don't think of anyone what they will say... Believe in yourself

[eagle1951]

well lets see them remember if you show your feet , no one really knows if they are yours or not if you don't show your face

[mike_oxlong69420]

Start doing foot porn

[Anonymous]

Are your feet ugly?