I hit my sister and bust her lip then my mum cried now I am being punished is this fair?

[goodgirlbecky]

Testerday i had a row with my sister and my mum got involved during the argument i grabbed my sister hair and pulled it as hard as i could she then pushed me so i punched her in the mouth and made her lip blead i then shouted at my mum and she started to cry my dad then marched me to my room and locked the door with a key, my parents have said i am on FULL and TOTAL lockdown until further notice, i have to eat in my room and i am only allowed out for the bathroom, its a MISREABLE punishment yesterday was 30c and sunny outside but i was SHUT away in my bedroom , and i will be locked in again ALL day. my parents haven't decided yet how long i must serve in lockdown but i hope its not long as i can't stand being shut in all the time advice please?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you were the one who initiated the use of force which puts you in the wrong.

Im ok with you being punished for your actions in hopes that you learn lessons but even in a real prison you are let out for exercise in the yard etc and there are regulations about the conditions in your prison, it is really hot where i am right now so yeah i think you have some grounds for legitimate complaint.

I think your parents probably mean well and are doing their best but this does sound a little strong to me.

There is a line in there somewhere between punishment and torture and i think they crossed it.

Solitary confinement in prisons causes long lasting / permenant and extremely serious psychological damage.

I think you should talk to your parents in a reasonable manner and acknowledge that you have done wrong and that you accept you have to pay a penalty for that but in all seriousness what they are doing could be considered a criminal act itself, false imprisonment / child abuse something like that, Im not sure.

If you dont get anywhere with them you could try contacting the police or a lawyer and just see what their perspective is.

Im not really sure where the lines are considered to be drawn but this at least a grey area and there is merit to your argument.

[Drumlin2001]

You're coming across as quite an immature person. Yes you deserve to be punished. Think yourself lucky, if this had been someone at school or inthe street you cohld be looking at an assualt charge and you'd be in a police cell not your bedroom.
Grow up. Stop attacking your family. Maybe you need some therapy if you can't control your emotions and physical outbursts.

[goodgirlbecky]

i have said sorry to my sister and my mum , and i have promised to never do it again, dispite this my parents have said i still have to be punished , i have another 5 days to serve i am finding the punishment very tough i dont loke being locked in my room its a misreable punishment, the sun is out and i am SHUT in my room i think because i have said sorry i should be freed tomorrow and not made to serve another 5 days dont you? I HATE THIS PUNISHMENT?

[Drumlin2001]

Sorry dosen't cut it. Welcome to the real world where there are real consequences. Grow up. Do your time

[goodgirlbecky]

why can't i just be let off and set free? this Saturday my friends parents are having a barbecue and i am invited but i can't go as i will be locked in my room i think i have been punished enough and its time i was set free dont you?

[yucychan]

It's definitely not fair. For the anguish you caused to your mum and the injuries you inflicted upon your sister, just enforcing a lock-down in your room is too light a punishment for you.
You deserve far worse. You are not sorry for hitting your sister nor shouting at your mum. You are a horrible brat, you don't deserve a nice and comfy room. Brats like you should just be shipped off to a girl's home or an institution for hopeless beings such as yourself.

[goodgirlbecky]

my parents have just come into my room and given me my punishment, i will serve at least 1 week in my room and my bedroom door will remain LOCKED at all times they say my attitude stinks and that is reflected in my punishment, i will be set 5 hours of schoolwork per day , i will have to eat in my room and lights out and bed at 9pm (PRISON ) i will be allowed my pc for 3 hours per day to do my homework, i have NO tv NO phone and NO entertaiment, i think i am being punished too harshly surly i dont deserve to suffer being punished like this?

[yucychan]

Yes, you do. I feel you deserve a heavier punishment

[goodgirlbecky]

how could you make it any harder then it already is?

[yucychan]

Firstly, the punishment should have been months, not a week. And secondly, the whole school would be announced of your punishment, including the food lady and even the janitor, and how much of a brat you are. So everyone at school would get to make fun of you and jeer at you

[goodgirlbecky]

i have to write a 4 page essay on why you should never use violence to resolve problems and a 4 page essay on unacceptable behavour and punishments i have 2 days to finish them my parents say they want me to learn from my punishment, but its so MISREABLE being locked in a tiny room when the sun is shining out WHY NO SYMPATHY?

[Wonderer89]

Maybe stop being a classless shit resorting to physical violence to win an argument

[goodgirlbecky]

i regret what i have done but i am stuggling with the punishment its hot and sunny outside ans i am locked in my room i think thats harsh dont you?

[Wonderer89]

Nope

[goodgirlbecky]

HAVE A HEART i am locked in my room at ALL times its hot and sunny outside and i am looking out of my bedroom window at the sun , my parents are making me do tons of homework per day, i HATE this punishment i want to go out with my friends i am MISREABLE surly i dont deserve to suffer like this?

[Wonderer89]

Sigh, I forgot how fucking annoying you were

[goodgirlbecky]

i bet you wouldn't say that if you were locked up

[MannMitAntworten]

You escalated things by pulling your sister’s hair. That is why your mother stepped in. Her slapping you was a defense mechanism. Your punching her was further escalation. Perhaps suggest to your parents that if they set you free you will attend anger management classes for year.


Sounds like you are stressing everyone under your same roof out and your physical escalation is now causing a level of fear in the household. Placing you on lockdown is ‘their’ defense mechanism.

[goodgirlbecky]

my mum has just said i will serve 1 week confined to my room with the bedroom door locked, my parents have set me 5 hours of schoolwork per day as part of my punishment and because i have exams next year , i think a week is far tom long of a punishmnt dont you?

[MannMitAntworten]

No. Not remotely. Punishment has zero to do about fairness and everything to do with being a deterrent. Be glad I am not your father. I would not have locked you down but I would work it out of you in that 30° C heat with a multitude of forms of physical labor. I have a lot of land. I’d have you up at 5 AM each morning to re-landscape and build the new deck I have been wanting to build. I have about three cords of wood that also needs chopping and staking. I’d have you chop it all too. All this work would build your character, your physical strength, and teach you have to do things on your own. You would cuss my name and likely hate my guts the entire time, but you will learn to curb your temper in other ways if for no other reason but avoid having to build me the add on I would want next.

I am a task master. I’d break your spirit and build you back up in a way you could not imagine.

[goodgirlbecky]

i am serving a whole week in prison at home, i can't leave my bedroom except for a shower in the morning and toilet breaks otherwise my bedroom door is LOCKED at ALL times i am going stir crazy and i still have another 5 days to serve i dont deserve to be punished like this?

[19vetteman91]

You are getting what you deserve! The best rule of thumb is
1. You never hit a female
2. You never hit a female no matter what even if she hits you
3. Good to hear your parents are smart. and you are probably learning not to ever hit a female !

[goodgirlbecky]

i HATE being locked up i still have another 5 days to serve and its HURTING all my friends are out having fun while i am locked up like a common criminal i WANT OUT?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

They are trying to teach you that violence should be a last response when all other options have failed, and also that actions have repercussions. Part of your punishment is sitting there thinking about it and figuring that part out. You're welcome.

[goodgirlbecky]

not only am i locked up but i will miss a good barbecue on Saturday and plus i have to write two 4 page essays one on why violence should never be used to resolve problems and another essay on unacceptable behavour and punishments , my parents say they want me to think about what i have done wrong and why i am being punished ITS NOT FAIR?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

You will hear people say "life isn't fair", but it never really sinks in for most people - What's happening to you might seem like the end of the world, but it's not. It's a deliberate consequence of your actions. Your brain isn't suited (yet) to comprehend this fully, but in a few years you will probably look back and at least understand why your parents are punishing you in this fashion, and maybe even a few years after that you might even appreciate what they are doing for you. Sure, it sucks, but at least you have internet, right? When I was young, we had nothing but 4 walls and a window.

[goodgirlbecky]

i only have the internet for 3 hours per day this is a privilege that can be taken away , its a reward for good behavour while i am punished, i have NO tv NO phone NO enyertaiment etc. i have asked my parents if i can go out into the garden for a couple of hours but they say NO my punishment is to have my freedom taken away and that means NO going out of anykind is this fair?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I can't say if it's fair - I wasn't there, and every parent will have their own way of dealing with it. Even if it's not, it's a good lesson about life being unfair. You can't judge things in terms of fairness because nothing about life on this planet is fair. Is it fair that a cute little baby chick on a farm wanders too far from the coop and gets mauled by a fox? Nope. Is it fair that I lost my job after 9-11 and then lost my car and house and went bankrupt and had to move to the projects for the next 15 years, literally dodging bullets at times? Nope. I didn't bitch about it, I learned what I could and bettered myself for future unfairness. You are upset and I get that, but you kind of need to grow up because life is going to complete F you if you insist on looking at everything in terms of fairness.

[goodgirlbecky]

do you think my parents should give me a break from the punishment and let me out into the garden?
also i want to go to my friends barbecue on Saturday do you think i should be freed so i can attend?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

We're in the middle of a pandemic... you couldn't pay me to go to a barbecue!

No I don't think your parents should let you out to the garden- you don't seem to be learning anything from your punishment.

[goodgirlbecky]

but the punishment is hurting big time, what harm can there be in going out in the garden to enjoy the sunshine?

[Madhatter920]

Yes, it's fair to be grounded when you hit people. My advice? Don't hit people. Actions have consequences.

[goodgirlbecky]

but my parents have locked my bedroom door , they say people that commit violence get locked up , now i am locked up and i HATE it?

[Madhatter920]

Yup. That's the point. It's a punishment. You're supposed to hate it.

[Madhatter920]

And let's be honest, if you're on the internet, you don't have it bad at all. When I was kid, my parents would never have let me have a phone or computer or whatever while I was grounded. Your parents are going super easy on you.

[goodgirlbecky]

my parents have said i might have to serve a whole week shut in my room i can't do the time i want my freedom back?

[Madhatter920]

lol Good. Remember how much you hate it so you don't do it again.

[goodgirlbecky]

i only have the internet for a couple of hours per day 1 as a privilege and 2 to do homkework i have no tv no phone etc and i am VERY VERY bored?

[Madhatter920]

That's more than I ever got. I got books. You're barely being punished at all.

[goodgirlbecky]

i am locked in my room at ALL times the only time i come out is to have a shower in the morning and to use the bathroom oyerwise my bedroom door is LOCKED at ALL times and you say i am barley being punished i am BORED FED UP and MISREABLE i want my freedom back i dont want to be punished anymore why can i just be let off?

[Madhatter920]

Yeah, I am saying that. You can't just be let off because you punched your sister. If I were your parents, I'd have punished you harder.

[goodgirlbecky]

my punishment is hard enough, my friends parents are having a barbecue this evening and i am invited all my friends and my sister ( who i hit ) are going but i can't as i am locked up surly i dont deserve to be punished like this?

[Madhatter920]

I agree. You don't deserve to be punished like that. You deserve worse. Should count your blessings.

[goodgirlbecky]

how can my punishment be worse? i am locked up , i can't go out , i am bored and MISREABLE i am missing all the fun and i have lost my freedom why does punishment have to hurt so much?

[Plateshutoverlock]

You've been asking these kinds of questions scince before 2010 on a dosen different sites. You are what- 30 years old now? And you are still getting locked into your bedroom by your "mum"?

I understand you have a fetish for this kind of thing, and I like being room locked myself, but geez, change the script!

[codyccc]

Technically you committed assault which holds a 1-5 year prison sentence and since you would be considered a violation criminal you would spend the first week or so in solitary until you passed the captains review and got put on the yard

[Mynameisbobby]

Goodgirlbecky doesn't sound too good at all. You should apologize to your sister.

[goodgirlbecky]

i dont do sorry, anyway my sister is sitting out in the sunshine while i am locked in my room and i am suffering i dont like being shut in i miss my freedom i want OUT?

[Mynameisbobby]

Apologize to your sister for hitting her then! Simple

[goodgirlbecky]

i would if i thought i would be let out of my room, its hot and sunny outside and i asked my parents if i could sit in the garden for a couple of hours but they refuse saying my punishment is to lose my freedom which means no going out of anykind i think thats mean dont you?

[Mynameisbobby]

How long do you have to stay in your room? Did you tell them that you would apologize to your sister?

[goodgirlbecky]

i have to serve one week, i have already done 3 days , i want to go to my friends barbecue on Saturday but i can't go its making me misreable?

[Mynameisbobby]

For a whole week? I guess you will have to deal with it. Maybe tell them you learned your lesson?

[goodgirlbecky]

they refuse to let me out until i have served my punishment in full , i think i should be allowed out into the garden so i can sunbathe and enjoy the sunshine dont you?

[Walrus_au]

you want justification to hit people? no, that's bullshit. Hitting people is bad mmm kay.

[goodgirlbecky]

i know i have done wrong but 7 days locked in my room its too harsh of a punishment?

[Walrus_au]

Probably not. But there is a lot more complicated issues here. How much of a pattern is this? How often do you try to resolve issues by hitting people?

[scooogy]

"good girl" becky? I hope this didn't happen before you chose your username on here.

[goodgirlbecky]

i miss my freedom i want to get out of my room this punishment is hurting big time?

[Anonymous]

It’s fair for her to discipline, but the punishments are a bit extreme. Grounding ain’t gonna teach kids in my opinion

[goodgirlbecky]

my parents have locked me up because i sneak out while grounded this pun ishment stinks?

[Marilynjuana]

You earned it. So enjoy it.

[goodgirlbecky]

i am locked in my room like a common criminal i have to eat in my room and i am only let out for the bathroom otherwise my bedroom door is kept LOCKED with a key at ALL times surly i dont deserve to be punished like that?

[Marilynjuana]

Well I hope this will teach you to not be this violent again.

[goodgirlbecky]

my parents have just told me i will serve at least a whole week locked in my room as punishment for what i have done, my parents say i will be set 5 hours of schoolwork per day as part of my punishment i am BORED , MISREABLE and fed up i want my freedom back , surly dont deserve to suffer being punished like this?

[iamhere4you]

Your family is doing the right thing

[goodgirlbecky]

i have to serve another 5 days of imprisonment i think i should be let out at the end of today i think 2 days punishment is enough dont you?

[Matt0978]

Why did you hit your sister?

[goodgirlbecky]

we have been arguing over silly things for a couple of days i lost my temper and hit her now i am locked in my room and i dont like it i want to be let out?

[Matt0978]

Maybe you could apologize to your sister might be the first start

[goodgirlbecky]

no i will not , my sister is out having fun in the sunshine while i sit in a LOCKED bedroom i am very misreable i want to be free?

[David_Bayer]

Maybe stop acting like a brat and apologize.

[goodgirlbecky]

i will not my sister is out enjoying the sunshine while i am shut away in my room like a common criminal?

[David_Bayer]

Well for a reason

[David_Bayer]

You don't just go around hitting people

[goodgirlbecky]

i know but the punishment is too painful i can't serve a week shut in my room i dont like the punishment its horrible , i think i should be given another chance and set free dont you?

[David_Bayer]

If you want another chance you have to apologize

[goodgirlbecky]

my sister is sitting in the garden sunbathing she is enjoying watching me suffer that can't be right?

[BlckGrl]

So violent lol

[goodgirlbecky]

do you think i should be let out of my room and given another chance because of the hot and sunny weather?

[BlckGrl]

I think you needed that time away. You went too hard lol

[goodgirlbecky]

my parents have said i MUST serve a week confined to my roo with the door LOCKED the sun is shining out and i am in prison surly i dont deserve to suffer being punished like this?