Was I Wrong For Hitting My Sister?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so my older sister (they/them) washed their blanket and left it, so I put it in the dryer set for an 1h20m/bedding mode so it could dry while I washed my clothes. Mind you the washer hadn't properly drained so this blanket was soaking wet. I put the washer on drain and spin twice, two hours before putting it in the dryer and it didn't work. When my clothes were done washing the blanket still wasn't dry (obviously because it was soaking wet when I put it in there) so I ran it for another cycle. This dryer has always been weird about blankets and is sensory drying so when it thinks the stuff is dry, it'll turn off without going the full time or runs overtime when its not done after the set time. I've washed and dried my blankets before and had the same issue of not being completely dry and resorted to airdrying. Half way through the second time, it turned off thinking the blanket was dry. At this point I knew it was pointless to ran it again when it's already been at least 2 hours, plus I had another load to wash, needed my clothes dry. Sorry, I didn't prioritize your things over my own after already spending around 2 hours doing just that, not to mention not being able to wash or dry my laundry the day before because they left their stuff in there, the whole day. So I put the still damp blanket on top of dryer and put my stuff in and set it to 1h20m. It was like 7 almost 8pm when I did this, but when I went to check, it said i had 40ish min left, but it's like 10pm now. So it's running over the set time, nothing I can really do about it. I go back like an hour later and my sister is taking my clothes out the dryer and at first just assume the stuff was finished. I mean the dryer was running for like 3 hours now. When I looked on the timer it said I had like 5 mins left and the clothes where still damp. Clearly they're about to put blanket in the dryer back in stating they're about to go to bed and need it. Part 1...

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Part 2) This annoyed me, but I let it slide, because it's only 5 mins. However I still had a load that needed to dry and had already tried drying their blanket twice, so I offered them one of mine to sleep with. We also have plenty of other clean blankets around the house they couldve used, plus the one they already had upstairs that was bigger than the one they currently wanted, but no, they wanted the damp one specifically.

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Part 3) So I'm trying to explain like "hey, putting it back in isn't going to work, you have to let it air dry." They responded with something like if it doesn't they'll figure it out. And when I explained i'd have to wait an extra at least 1:20 on top of the 3 or so hours (I'm assuming because thats about how long my last batch was in there they basically said they didn't care and it wasn't their problem, because "they were their first".

[Oliverlogan263]

Man this sounds like such a frustrating situation. I can totally understand why you were so annoyed with your sister for leaving their wet blanket in the washer all day when you needed to use it, and then taking your clothes out early from the dryer too. That was really inconsiderate of them. And then to keep pushing for the dryer again right away even though you spent hours trying to dry their blanket already - I'd be pissed too! But no matter how mad they made you, hitting is never okay. You could've really hurt them or got in serious trouble. When people are trying to argue, tempers get hot and sometimes we end up reacting in ways we shouldn't. I know it's hard, but you gotta learn to control that anger before it makes things way worse.

If they kept pushing about using the dryer, maybe you could've walked away for a bit to calm down instead of staying and arguing more. Sometimes a break is needed when emotions are high. And explain one last time that it's not fair for their stuff to always come first when you have your own laundry to do too. If they still wouldn't budge after that, then I don't know, maybe tell your parents what's been going on so they can help find a fair solution for sharing the machines. Definitely don't hit though - I know it's annoying but violence will just escalate things to a whole new level. You guys need to work it out peacefully, even if they're being ridiculous. Try to keep your cool as hard as it is! Avoid hurting each other over something dumb like laundry day drama. Not worth the trouble it'll cause in the long run if you let your anger out that way.

[imjustcool]

Yeah don’t hit your sister

[imjustcool]

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[Anonymous]

I stopped reading at "they/them"

[Asker]

Then why even comment? Take your transphobia somewhere, this is not what this is about

[Asker]

It won't let me finish typing so I'm using your comment to finish the story. ... start to move my stuff. Obviously I tell them to stop and they start yelling, so I start yelling back. It was basically "it's not going to dry and I'm not waiting here when I know that so you can see for yourself" "and I don't care I doing it anyway" back and forth. I had already offered up one of my blankets, "sorry that isn't my problem" is not going to fly dude. They where basically getting frustrated that I wouldn't let them have their way and decide their stuff was more important than mine, and I was frustrated they weren't listening when I said the dryer isn't going to finish their stuff plus the constant dismissal of my feelings and needs. So they start screaming at me, so I do the same only I'm not the one calling the other a bitch and stupid and screaming about how I dont care about being considerate for to people. Everything I did was direct response to them give them the same energy they were giving me, except the name calling. I'm a people pleaser by heart, but not a damn pushover. At this point my mother and siblings come in to see what's going on and we're taking going back and forth explaining our side. So I'm giving a rebuttal they yell, "I DONT CARE IM MOVING IT" and then start throwing my clothes into the wet dirty basement floor. So naturally, and there's no pretty way to say this, I start swinging and get like two hits in. It's not my proudest moment, and I shouldn't have done it, but my brain took them throwing my shit all over the floor as the actions of someone who wanted to fight. Our siblings and mom broke us up before things really popped off. This. Sends. Them. Off. And they start screaming crying about how I put hands on them and I was a dumb bitch and was just going off.

[Asker]

My mom sends them upstairs to their room to calm down while her, my brother and I talk about what to do while I'm picking up my clothes, all the while they're throwing a fit in their room and yelling about how I have anger issues because I wasn't just going to let them have their way. I wasn't yelling back to respond I was still pretty heated and running my month too and called her the one who is actually the stupid bitch after they said it to me. I have some regrets and things I believe I should have done differently, however there are other things I don't feel I was wrong for. I still want other people's opinions on the matter.

[Asker]

Part 4 they didn't let me post, part 5 &6 are above) Mind you, I put the blanket in the dryer in the afternoon AFTER trying to drain it for 2 hours, and now when it's like 11pm and you're going to bed is the only time you check on your blanket? As if there aren't other people living in this house that also have laundry to do? Yeah no. I want to go to bed to and not waiting 4+ hours. This next part is kinda of a blur, but again in the middle of me explaining it pointless and I have stuff to dry, they yell at me that they don't care and...

[Asker]

The funny thing is instead of being a dickhead, trying to be petty and take my stuff out, we could have just put our clothes in together. The blanket would have been damp but it was going to be like that regardless. I hope they reflect on this and realize how immature and inconsiderate they acted in this situation that could have been easily solved had they just been more considerate.