Girlfriend puts slutty pics of herself online even though I'm dating her?

[Anonymous]

I've been in a pretty solid relationship with this girl for about 2 months now. She's pretty attached. She's got a lot of tattoos in different "areas". Before I met her she had and still has quite a few slutty pictures on Facebook. She's just recently put new slutty pictures on tumblr that are mostly teasers, but I still feel like she wants more attention from guys.

What should I do? I don't feel why she needs to have all these slutty pics up if she knows I love her. She seems like she's attached to me, but I just don't know. Would love a girls opinion. She also has more guy friends than girls and seems to text them a lot even when I hang out with her, but she doesn't hide the texts so I don't think she's really flirting. She initially approached me while she was in another relationship and that's how ours started, so I'm worried she's a real flirt.

[babygirltiffie]

approaching someone else while your in a relationship is a huge red flag as you know. I guess it depends on if you were like "the only 2 people in the room when you met" or something that is like love at first sight. I typically try to avoid guys if they are in a relationship and flirt with me, or if I've seen them do it with another girl. the slutty pictures really confuse me...it seems like she's looking for attention from other guys, but if she doesn't hide her texts I don't think she's cheating...obviously when your in a realtionship and cheat or whatever you typically hide texts or delete them(which she could very well be doing). since I just said that I think that's what she's doing maybe, maybe because she thinks "oh, he won't suspect anything just because I'm talking to guys because he won't see anything the few times he looks so he will stop" kind of thing. I'm not 100% sure why girls do that slutty pic thing, especially on Facebook...really makes me wonder. what id do if I was you is talk to her, explain you really don't like her having them on there and talking to these guys all the time even when she's with you(assuming that's the entire case). tell her how you feel. I don't think its too normal to text other guys a lot when your with your boyfriend though...sure I have more guy friends then girls sometimes(high school drama is less with fewer female friends), but if I'm dating someone, when I'm with them I'm more focused on them then my friends, especially guy friends because I definitely wouldn't want my boyfriend to get the wrong idea. so maybe her texting them when she's with you is a good thing, she isn't doing it only when you aren't around. I don't know how much I helped, but hopefully a little atleast. good luck

[Anonymous]

If you're really serious about how you feel, let her know that it makes you uncomfortable and ask her to stop. If she doesn't then drop her. Most girls who do that are insecure and attention seeking..probably not good traits for long term. She sounds like she may have ho tendencies. But then again if she was doing all that before you met her why complain now? you knew what you were getting into

[Asker]

why is being insecure a bad trait long term? wouldn't she think no other guys would like her? and yes, I realize attention seeking is bad. I wish she wasn't but I know she does. But back to the insecureness, if she was so insecure then why does she put body shots of herself everywhere?

[Nijababe99]

tell ehr what you think ..i know if I had a boyfrined right now and he thought my pics were slutty I woukld want him 2 tell me ..for all we know she porbably thinks this is getting your attention in a good way ...so my advice tell her how you feel but dnt be forceful just say how the pics look ..=) Good luck

[eldamien]

First of all, you saying that the pictures are "slutty" is a personal judgement. She may not even consider them "slutty" or even provacative, like most people with tattoos don't. He choice to put the pictures up probably has nothing to do with you, and you relating something that she's doing back to yourself is arrogant and selfish (espescially since she was doing this before she even met you).

If you have problems with her behaviour, either man up and talk to her about it, or move on. You obviously have pre-conceived notions about her, so either act on them or deal with it.

[Asker]

I do agree that it's a personal judgment and that it is selfish. However, I'm quite unexperienced in relationships and wanted to know if this was a sign. I thought if she was in a good relationship that maybe the pics would stop, but I guess not.

[eldamien]

If she was doing it before you, chances are she'll be doing it after you, as well.

[jonno363]

It depends on what you're into. Like my girlfriend likes to put our private collection online but I like it too so it's fine. If you're uncomfortable with it, you really need to speak to her.

[Shaun]

lol@getting attached to a cheater.

[Asker]

explain?

[Shaun]

She approached you while she was in a relationship with someone else. Did you actually think you are so different that she wouldn't do it to you? She's not going to change, and you aren't going to like it.

I'd move on, and I wouldn't even make a big deal about it. She'll ask why, you'll tell her and she'll just try to convince you that you're wrong, just like eldamien up there is trying to do.

[Asker]

Well, the thing with her last relationship was that she was on the verge of breaking up with her BF. He was treating her like sh*t.

[Shaun]

I'm not interested in her excuses. You can choose to believe that makes a difference if you want to, I'm telling you how I would react.

[Voltaire]

Agreed. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

shes a bitc h