Do you guys have real friends?

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I'm curious to know if any of you guys have real friends cause I have none. It's sad and lonely that I have no one to rely on.. I do have few close friends but they're not my best of friends.. they are either fake or jealous of me.. my few friends always try to compete or won't be honest with me while I was the complete opposite.. I couldn't trust anyone but sometimes I feel depress n lonely cause I do need someone to talk to from time to time.. any suggestions on how to get a trustworthy friend?

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I don't have many friends for a few reasons. I am introverted at my core so there is that, but even then I have a small group of close friends. I prefer small groups of great and reliable friends in life because quality is better than quantity.

To go with that, as life goes on your friends will come and go. One thing that should be done is that even if they were good friends, not all of them are going to be in your life for the duration of it. Some will be around for certain parts and others will be in the long haul.

I have one friend in particular to put it simply is my best friend and will always be. We have known each other since preschool and although we don't share blood, that man is my brother and is practically my mom and dad's unofficial kid with how much time he spent with us. We just talked this week on Discord about where we are in life amd he gave me some great words of encouragement as a pick me up when one day was really kicking my ass.

Best friends are rare to find for a reason, because they don't come into your life as often and establishing a bond or friendship that strong takes time and investment that gets more difficult as life goes on.

If you seek friendship, you have to put yourself out there. Otherwise no one will really know who you are or want to invest in being familiar with you. Best thing would be to form friends with people who share similar hobbies and go from there.

ArtemisSilver · Accepted Answer

I have a lot of shallow work friends, but nobody other than my wife and her sister who I'd consider a real friend.

Honestly it's pretty much the norm as an adult. Punch the clock and have a family and partner if you're lucky.

I'm hoping though that my future in project management will help me find some kindred spirits who like to be at the center of start ups and are working to change lives.

A common passion is a good place to start when looking for deeper friendships. Anything like that come to mind?

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

This question hit home

I am an introvert as well.. and I did not have many friends when I was in middle school. I used to sit alone in elementary. Nobody talked to me because I didn’t put in any effort to talk to them (I had awful anxiety, I have learnt to handle it better with time).

It’s hard to find friends when you are an adult and even harder when you’re a woman. I have had so many “fake” friends, and I was so close to say ‘nope, I’m done. I don’t want any friends ever’, but.. I found real ones when i least expected it. We’re a bunch of crazy weirdos. We talk about the most random shit ever, but we’re always there for each other. I’ve made some great online friends too.

GaG is a great way to meet like minded people. Figure out where your interests lie. Are you interested in yoga? Join a yoga club. Love music? Go to concerts. Live working with animals? Volunteer at the animal shelter. You dont need to open up to time or trust them right away.. friendships take time. Make an effort to carry on the conversation, talk about your hobbies, interests passion.. ask them a lot of questions about themselves. If you like playing video games, you can meet TONS of people who are into it online.

User2324 · Accepted Answer

i don’t. i recently cut off the only friend i had (almost an 8yr friendship). she would blow me off, stop talking to me for days or weeks at a time & choose guys over me. she would pretend she was true friend but i finally saw her for who she really was and decided to end it. i hadn’t seen her in over 2 years & when i would ask if she wanted to meet up.. there was always an excuse but she had no problem getting together and doing things with other people. it was unfair and i wasn’t going to beg anyone for their “friendship”. i deserve better and i will be just fine on my own!

razelove · Answer

Yes, though most of my friends are in other states/countries right now. Our jobs and circumstances pull us apart sometimes. I have acquaintances here, generally if I move to a new area I find a church to go to for my family, and myself. Every year, or other year I get a chance to go visit one of my friends, or have them down here to go on a bender.

I would recommend church, meet new people, make acquaintances, maybe make some friends. 5 bucks in a donation basket every week, one hour on Sunday, and whatever events catch your eye.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I'm really sorry you are experiencing that. I was in a similar situation for a really long time. But it's not all about the number of friends ya have, but how strong or deep the friendship is. I've been lucky enough to be able to a good, solid core of friends. I've been best man at three weddings, so I'd say pretty decent friends lol.

Very solid friendships with women as well. The only thing I've really noticed in the differences between friendships between the two genders are women tend to ask for your thoughts on something, or advice, or 'what would you do' type of situations? And that I tend to get fallen asleep on by them. Apparently my heartbeat is 'comforting'. I mean... if there was no heartbeat, they'd have their head on the chest of a corpse so I've never really understood that one.

Oigit · Answer

It's not about the number of friends you have. It's about the quality of the friends you have. So you can be a hell of a lot better off with 2 or 3 friends rather then 15 or 20 friends.

Also I don't have friends, I have brothers and sisters from other families. We maintain a close knit group and everyone is a extension of our families.

Secret6620 · Answer

I think I have many acquaintances but I just recently met a new guy that supports me like no other guy ever has.

Like he is someone I actually consider a friend. We talk everyday and he offers me guidance when he can.

He's such an amazing man. I feel very lucky that he's a part of my life.

Loved your question by the way.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Yea I do, I keep my circles small but I can say they are people worth having around because even tho they get lost for a while they always come right back like real friends should, they are good influence and are respectful and help with what they can

midnightmoon05 · Answer

yes I have friends and I make friends easily.
I like to reach out to check up on them.. see how they are doing. I truly care and am open to listen.
I actually call them on a regular bases…
I can do the same if you want.
I talk to a few gag member friends on the phone. the world has become too isolated… but I won’t let that stop me from reaching out to those who are willing to open up.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Nope, but what I've learned is people will always do what makes themselves happy.

Meaning if you got a friend with a tow truck and your cars stuck. He's probably gonna come get you because it will make them feel important. This is why it's important to reciprocate with thanks and conversation whenever someone does you a favor.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I had better luck with friends than relationships but I guess a lot of people have a difficult time with friends. Though it is normal to lose most of your friends from school and college once you enter the adult world. Families, work and day to day life pull people apart. You could try looking at some local meetup groups for common interests, hiking, photography, etc.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I'm the same. I don't have more than a couple of friends and they aren't that close. When they need something I always make it happen but when I want something I'm on my own. It sucks, but what to do? I started to value myself more than others. Each time I do something without help from them, I pat myself up and say you did it, not anyone else. And it makes me proud.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t and I’m not sure if I ever have. I have had close friends but not the type I open up to, just more talk play sports have fun stuff. Now I see connections with people differently as I have formed 2 new friendships with girls and sadly they both live out of state. But overall I do not but hope to get one soon

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I DO! They would sacrifice their time for me without me having to ask anything. I have trusted them with secrets. They have trusted me with theirs. We reach out to eachother in time of need and sadness

DermalPunch · Answer

Phhhheeeewwww. This is such a triggeirng topic. Sadly, I've mostly had frenemies. I've come to realise that this whole BFF thing is so unrealistic. Friends come and go. Nothing in this world lasts forever.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Nope... the same.. I've had close friends but they were toxic ( and lame lol ) .. they weren't real friends.. I dropped them and I'm currently on my own... It's good but like you said i miss the company...

Anonymous · Answer

What really is a true friend? Someone who would die for you? Someone who would spend any amount of money on you are drop anything to help you? I’d be ok with any friend you can just talk to and be honest with. Once you get married or have kids, you won’t really care about friends much.

Chiarac2003 · Answer

I’m sorry.. u shouldn’t have to feel like that. I have only my cousin that I can truly tell her anything without being judged. So I kinda feel for you. 🥰

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I have no friends that are close in real life, I had one friend I hung out with in high school but sadly that never continued but I called them now a fair weathered friend

exitseven · Answer

I do have a few friends besides my wife. All people that I have known since grade school.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

I can count on one hand how many genuine friends I have.

Crankor · Answer

Almost all of mine moved away but Yes, it Def seems harder if not impossible to make new ones these days.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Only one real friend in my life. Honesty and not gossiping is crucial to me

Andres77 · Answer

Aside from my wife... who is the bestest friend ever? Just 4. We don't talk much but we all have each other's back.

talltom94 · Answer

I dont either, any friends I had around where I live I cut off when I went to uni (toxic people) now any friends ha have I never see because after uni we all spread out over the country and I haven't seen in a few years 🤷‍♂️

Neuropoetry · Answer

I sometimes feel the same way as you and Id like to be friends with you

alex2901 · Answer

Well I have 3 real friends I've been friends with for 7+ years... we talk daily about anything and everything... and I'm sure I'm not the only one with lifelong friend's.

driven159 · Answer

First off you can only relay on yourself in reality if your so-called friends act like that time to get new friends there are some good people out there just need to find them

James899 · Answer

I have so many friends but all of them are girls. But now everyone got married and they looking on their own family.

Shamalien · Answer

Most women find themselves in your situation. Men make friends easy but finding a partner is hard. For women it’s the reverse

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Real friends I could hang out with, maybe 3. But no close or best friends I had from childhood on and would trust deeply

Juxtapose · Answer

Yes, there are plenty of good people out there you just have to get to know them.

SunnySensei · Answer

I don't think I have miss, I don't know why but may be the way I talk makes people think I am distant.

dolemite89 · Answer

yes but not many, holding onto good friends is harder as u get older.

Guardian45 · Answer

I do, but I lost two, who died. It's hard to replace them.

br89p82 · Answer

i can say i have one true friend. started out as enemies but we had a lot of stuff bring us together. all i can say is you will find a true friend just don’t lose hope :)

Zygum · Answer

Yes, I have real and sincere male friends, but uptill now I couldn't get female friend, like male friends

Shy_Steve · Answer

I have no Friends really either so I know how it feels.

IsoUser · Answer

I have 2 Male Friends and 2 Female friends with benefits situation

Ringstretch · Answer

No, which is why I spend my time on here, it's like being connected to someone

Esperanto · Answer

Work on it, they will come.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes but most are long distance now and married

lofii · Answer

Benjamin Franklin is my only real friend

Blackcupcake · Answer

I do and I couldn’t ask for better

allaboutyou2 · Answer

I have very few, I prefer quality over quantity.

In_Trance · Answer

Make yourself available to meet and talk to people

EaterPeter · Answer

What, who? What is that?

1step · Answer

4 really close and one soso

xJayleenx · Answer

Girl I wish all I have is my boyfriend

coffeecacao · Answer

Positive affirmations everyday

LavLavLuv · Answer

I do. I have 2

jahaims · Answer

Yep.

MrSmithee · Answer

same

EffaMan · Answer

I have 5 dude.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Yes, I do

User_69 · Answer

Of course i have.

browndog · Answer

I have a couple

Anonymous · Answer

Not really

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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