Can a woman settle down without being in love with her husband?

[Anonymous]

I've heard this but is this really that common? For the woman to settle down in her 30's (catch the last remaining available man that finally proposes and marries her) without really loving him nor having too much sexual attraction towards him.

That's really my grandma's story. She got married for the first time at the age of 34. She fell in love once but the guy strung her along, wasted her years, got her pregnant (but she tripped and lost the baby) and bailed. She found her husband (grandpa) at the age of 32, he proposed a year later and got married the following year. Then finally has her first child (my mom) at the age of 35.
She's always been happy in her marriage, defended her husband if someone bad about him but wasn't really ''in love'' with him. She didn't experienced that ''oh my soulmate, the love of my life'' butterflies in the stomach'' feelings with her husband. Only with the worthless loser from her youthful years.

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Grandpa died 2 years ago but she finally admitted that she didn't marry him out of ''falling in love'' nor ''oh the passion, the moon and the stars'' feeling. She marry him to form a family, because he was a great provider and already settle down.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I can't imagine that.

I feel it's a big benefit of me being childfree. I think a lot of women feel pressured to settle before 35, because after that pregnancy risks skyrocket.

Personally, I think it's the worst. I can't imagine "settling". I want to be excited to wake up with my partner for the rest of my life, not dreading it.

[LepardLashes]

You can do whatever you want should you or would you be happy is a different story

[Anonymous]

I kind of think that's what my wife did

[Asker]

Wow... it must be an act of desperation when we turns 30 huh!!!
That's when the time is running out and she likely doesn't have enough time to do the ''oh no, I gotta love him to marry him'' thinking process. All my grandma was thinking at that age was finding a provider, a man that will marry her and have kids.

[Asker]

But it must suck being the poor guy... to be just seen as the provider.

[Opinion Owner]

The eye owner for years and was always in the friends zone with her But that changed when she was 31 and became a single mom From a one night stand

[Opinion Owner]

I mean I had known her for years

[Opinion Owner]

We have a good relationship and get along really well but our sex life is non existing

[Asker]

yeah that can be a hard reality. If you were friendzoned for years during her earlier years but then she considers you during her 30's... then yeah unfortunately she doesn't love you. She just didn't want to end up a single, unmarried woman in her 30's.

[Opinion Owner]

I think she loves me just not sexually attracted to me