Does oversharing make people want to stop being friends with you?

[nocturnalbaby]

So on my Instagram & Snapchat private stories, I have my close friends on there with whom I feel comfortable sharing about my personal life.

The other day, I noticed that one of my friends from university who I’ve known for the last 4 years deleted me on every social media I had him on - snap, insta & facebook. & although I’m not offended about it or anything, I am definitely curious. I’ve already been losing a lot of friends recently cause I’m growing older & I’ve finished university, so every time I lose friends, I just wanna understand why I’m losing them.

The last time I spoke to him was 2 weeks ago & it was when he replied to my private story asking for more details about what I posted. He said ‘did you wanna talk about it? Im here to listen’ & I said thank you & shared something that happened recently that was annoying me. He replied in a supportive manner & hoped i get over the situation soon. & then I realised a few days ago that he deleted me.

I can’t think of any reason as to why he deleted me other than the fact that I might have overshared. I still don’t understand why he deleted me on every single social media though. He could have just left my private story or something

[courtney06]

In my experience, yes people have stopped talking to me because of this. It drains them and they feel used if it happens often. I've significantly cut down on what I share and who I share with. I save most of that for my significant other and one of my relatives. They are both supportive and studied psychology.

I hate to break it to you, but most people just can't handle it. Even the ones who ask if you want to talk about it or say "call me if you ever need anything". They think they can handle it, but they aren't aware that they lack the tools and bandwidth to handle it. They usually find this out the hard way, and they may lack the communication skills and confidence to articulate this. Hence why they might 👻

[ArtemisSilver]

As a guy lots of women kind of latch on looking for attention and not really offering any kind of quality friendship or romance in return.

I've had to unfriend a lot of such emotional vampires. You might not be doing it intentionally.

[IsoUser]

Apparently you quite literally overshared in a personal way that was offensive to her or him in some way 😉😁

[RuthlessAggression]

Yeah, kinda. Unless you're paying them to do it