Any tips on how to be a good human?

[Anonymous]

Hello guys.

I feel like a bad person so I just want to tell someone about me. I graduated from uni in 2020 and I have not got a permanent job yet. I have good grades and I have experience with internships and volunteer work. My siblings that are going to graduate this year have got interviews and I have begun to feel very jealous. I hate it, I don't like this feeling, and I don't know how to stop being jealous of people that I really love. I have tried everything to get a job but I can't get an interview. I hate to be in a situation without a job and I don't want my siblings to have the same problem as me to be without a job. But I don't know why I get jealous. I am not the person to even be jealous or angry on small things. I have always helped others and want the best to happen to people around be. I have began to get easily angry and annoyed of small things. I hope someone can just point me to what I should do. I don't want to hear that this is normal. This is not normal, I am really a bad person. I don't want to be angry 24/7 and not jealous of other people. I hate my situation without job and I feel so useless.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I'll quote Rocky Balboa here:

>> Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that! -- Rocky Balboa

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I really needed to read this

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Cheers! One thing about jealousy is that there's no reason to resent someone who isn't taking something away from you. They might be luckier than you are but you're hurting yourself more than hurting them by resenting them. Learn from them, admire them, and accept their support if they're offering, and you will work up to a more successful path than if you don't.

And try to make peace with the world. The world sometimes punishes good people and rewards bad people. Try not to make it so much your business. Your business is what you can do today to make your own life better. Let the universe take care of itself beyond what you can do.

At the same time, few people are saints when they'd down on their luck. Don't beat yourself up if you aren't perfect when life knocks you down. But don't let yourself sink so low that you accept being down and resenting the world and other people. Pick yourself back up.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply. You made me cry, and I really feel somehow better. Your comment helped me a lot to understand my situation and how I should react. Thank you so much! I really needed this

[Anonymous]

You can't get a job? Or you can't get a job you want? Because there's jobs all over. Sometimes you have to swallow your prude for the time being.

[Asker]

I work as a jr high teacher now, but I do have not the job I want. So you are right. I am an engineer and I want and hope to work as that, not as a teacher.

[Opinion Owner]

Most people aren't doing what they truly want. I didn't start doing what I truly wanted till 45. Not saying it's going to take you that long or anything. So just just keep plugging away. You'll get there!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your kind words :)

[Opinion Owner]

No problem! You got a long way to go girl. Don't get discouraged.

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I am really glad that I wrote what I had in my mind here. Thank you :))

[tfan1]

Just remember karma - what goes around, comes around. Do nice things and it will come back 10 fold. 👍🙂

[In_Trance]

So, get a permanent job.

Chance are you're not putting enough effort into it

[Anonymous]

What field is your degree in?