If an abusive parent contacted you after years of not hearing from them, would you talk to them?

[JustinTheGreat]

No. They weren’t there for me for years and they abused me, why would I give them another chance?

Yes. They’re still my parent and if there’s a chance I could get some closure, I’d take it

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, because I believe anyone can change their behaviour at any point in their life if they really want to. But I wouldn’t hold up any expectations for that parent. I’d talk, see if they’ve changed, if they haven’t then no harm done to me because I had no expectation.

[cheetocandle]

Depends if I am healed and ready to move forward. If you're not healed don't bother. You're just as toxic as they are in that case.

[JustinTheGreat]

I mean I agree with you but I wouldn’t go as far to say someone is “just as toxic” as an abuser for trying to make amends with that person. Just a bit naive

[cheetocandle]

If you were abused and haven't healed then you are coming in with a toxic abusive revengeful point of view. Get healed first then go talk to them. Nothing naive about it. It's the best course of action.

[LegendaryDater]

I agree this can become toxic real quick on your part if you haven't done the work.

[DubiousIntentions]

Sometimes, depending on the level of abuse, some never heal.

[NathanDavis]

chances are that yes, I would... because I do not like not knowing and to have to keep wondering, uncertainty

[RobT312]

I may warm up to it eventually, but my initial reaction would be NO

[CateM]

They would've burned that bridge a long time ago

[exitseven]

The ojly thing I would talk to them about if they were going to leave me a big pile of money.

[BeyondBirthday]

I would hear them out. Then make my decision if I want to cut them out of my life for good or try to workout some sort of relationship with them.

[douride2]

Why would i have anything to do with them now.

[LegendaryDater]

I would probably not because time is money and my time is not about the past.

[AsaKyo]

Nah-uh, I'm ignoring that bitch

[Agape93]

Fuck no.