Would you get upset if everything that you said your parents said no/that you’re wrong but with your SO they always agree with them?

[xJayleenx]

Like I mean, everything that I say they say no like for example if I say something like “if you have a sinus infection it could cause your gums to hurt as well” they’ll legit say no it’s true and everytime I state a fact or say that something happend they’re always like no. And it feels like I’m often talking to a brick wall but everything that my boyfriend says is correct to them my brother even said yesterday that it’s because my boyfriend is always right like wth lol I was the one that used to help my little brother with his homework. I don’t know but I feel like this might have caused my lack of self confidence because everytime that I say something is the way it is, or that something happend they always denied things. Would you get upset by this if this happend to you? Wouldn’t it make you feel stupid? I’ve also been trying to tell them that my brother has to eat vegetables but they don’t listen to me. Lmao and this morning my dad was arguing with me saying that plastic and rubber are the same thing 😂 like why can’t they just believe me? They only believe my boyfriend lol kinda makes me feel bad/dumb sometimes. But they also have done this to me all my life now as an adult though I feel stupid or like they view me as stupid.

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I apologize for my grammar I am sick so I don’t give a shit right now 😂

[VIVANT]

Well jay 😂 you know what I think. You’re better & deserve better than everyone that room. Also you’re 💯 correct and please do not even take medical advice from them 🥵 Jeez how did you survive growing up 🤦🏻‍♀️

One silver lining is they like your boyfriend. That’s great!! bc he can be their replacement for when you cut them off bc they are absolutely gaslighting the F out of you. Listen next time they mess with you just say NO I’m correct.

You can’t just say no to things are true to belittle someone do you realize how absurd that is 😂 anyhow just goodie chit in front of them. Or walk away. But didn’t let it make you feel bad. You have to decide for yourself what your back up plan is in each instant so you didn’t feel bad. You want you to feel empowered not bad.

When we take action we feel good even if it’s not happy. I’m not you so I can’t decide what works best for you. For me when people bs me I just whip out a dictionary or google or the medical encyclopedia 😂 or whatever it is I need to objectively verify the truth that they are lying or ignorant about and I unapologetically will shove it in their face 🤓

then depending on my relationship I laugh with them and their idiocy or I walk away from them if they are not well intentioned. I think for your own confidence it’s good to verify what you are sure you know then if you want you can just say I’m right you’re wrong I’m out.

but everyone is diff so decide how you want to Handle stuff. HOWEVER there are rules. You are not allowed to sit their abs feel dumb and weak. DO something whatever it is — put a note in a paper airplane and ship it across the room to them lol just do something’s and feel accomplished. Don’t sit and take it NOT ALLOWED 🚫

Keep your bright light on don’t let people dim it! 💚💚

[xJayleenx]

When I was younger like 12-16 , I used to be very paranoid and think that every negative comment was about me but I don’t do that anymore and they still tell me that things didn’t happen that way.

[saffoler]

It sounds like you don't have very supportive parents.

[xJayleenx]

But they still ask me for help all the time they just always disagree with me

[saffoler]

What if your boyfriend agrees with you?

[xJayleenx]

My boyfriend listens at least but I don’t think he regards me as someone smarter than him lmao maybe if I had more confidence and didn’t rely on him maybe he’d think that I’m just as smart as him. He tells me that I’m smart but I think it’s just to flatter me.

[saffoler]

I think you are smart.

[xJayleenx]

Thank you

[saffoler]

You're welcome

[Guardian45]

What I hear you saying is that your parents are "gaslighting" you. You're NOT crazy.

DON'T ACCEPT that SH! T!

Tell them this has to STOP or you'll cut them off.

[xJayleenx]

When I was younger like 12-16 , I used to be very paranoid and think that every negative comment was about me but I don’t do that anymore and they still tell me that things didn’t happen that way.

[Guardian45]

They're gaslighting you

[xJayleenx]

It sucks that now my little brother is doing this to me too. Yesterday I told him that working in factories and warehouses weakens your immune system and he told me that no it does not and then when I told him that he woukd believe it if my boyfriend told him the same thing he said that he’s always right 🤦🏽‍♀️ And I’m the one that always helped him with the homework, I help my parents too when they ask me for technological help but everything that I tell them they still say no that’s not true. I told my dad this yesterday and he was laughing he just claimed that I was jealous of my boyfriend.

[Guardian45]

You're right; in theory, they're WRONG!

[Guardian45]

Thank you for MHG!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Parents can do these things to us, and it makes us feel bad. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Bklynbadboy12]

🤣 Don't let it get to you. You know what you know and if they don't believe you then that's to bad for them😄 You're not stupid your a very smart young lady and sooner or later they see it