Does life stop being magical in your 30s?

[Anonymous]

And it's only in your 20s that it is magical?

[SteveSmith1985]

I would say "yes". BUT

First of all... I don't know if I would use the term "magical" to describe my 20's either. So if you felt that way about your own 20's... I think you're odds are pretty good that YOU won't feel life stops being magical.

Secondly: I think that how you feel in your 30s is going to depend entirely on what your life looks like, and how satisfied you are with what you see.

I think THAT is the big thing with one's 30's.

You start to feel like: "Ok... so THIS is "my life"

I think it really depends on how you feel about how things are going in that life. The whole thing with "the 30s" is that (unlike in your 20's so much) Two people's lives in their 30s can start to look drastically different.

That's where you start to see a situation like: a guy who's killing it in some high-level financial sector job, with a wife and two kids... Who used to have a life that looked (essentially) the same as his old college roommate... who is currently the manager of the local McDonalds, and unmarried.

One's 30's can look very different depending how your life looks.

But if feel like life is magical today, I hope that never stops for you. ( I think that occasionally happens to a lucky few)🙂

[Asker]

Are you saying it's too old to change your life in your 30s?

[SteveSmith1985]

Nope. I'm not trying to say that. But... it's much much more difficult to do (usually) than at earlier times in your life.

[Asker]

Why so?

I think when you're younger you sometimes make decisions that you look back and realize may not have been right.

That doesn't happen when you're older.

[SteveSmith1985]

hahaha, no... that happens MORE when you're older!

But the reason it becomes harder is both emotional and practical.

So on the practical side, you've gotta work to pay your bills, so you can't easily just say, decide to go back to school. You certainly CAN do that. But it's extremely difficult. Now you're doing night-school and working... only so you can START again at something you hope will make you happier/more successful? That's hard to get your head around. Again, not impossible, just harder in your 30's. You've been to school. You've had a job for a while, and you're sorta seeing what your life is likely to look like going forward. There's a whole lot of inertia keeping someone from making any major changes to how their life looks. Throw a couple of kids in there... and it just seems like a monumental endeavor for the HOPE of making your life look different.

But like the rest of it... it's going to depend on the individual person and the indicvidual situation. Certainly there are some people in their 30's for whom it would be harder to start-again compared to other people in their 30's. Some personality types are WAY more inclined/able to change things about their life than others.

But I think it comes down to why anybody's life looks the way it looks. "You do your best... and this is what that looks like" (which you could say about anyone at any age)

[SteveSmith1985]

Maybe a way to put it would be: "In your 20's you're looking to the future" "In your 30's you see whether or not that future is ACTUALLY in the cards for you"

I think that those content with their 30's are living out some aproximation of how they hoped their life would look (looking forward when you're in you're 20's) They feel like things are "on track" even if there's still a lot they hope to do with their life.

But if you DON"T see the future you had pictured panning out (maybe you never met that special someone, and having a family is a big part of what you want in life for example. Or maybe you didn't get the career you originally hoped/trained for etc). There are reasons for that. Whatever those reasons may be... it's hard to change things FROM THERE.

[JustinTheGreat]

Since when are your 20s magical? If this is supposed to be the most ‘magical’ time of my life then fucking kill me now

[JustinTheGreat]

But to answer your question lol
I’ve always heard that your 30s or even 40s is the best time of your life. Because that’s when you’re financially stable and have your shit together

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I've heard that your 30s are better than your 20s. Reasons why I can think of are: You might be doing a career or job you love, you might be financially stable, you might know more of what you need & want in your life, and whatever else.

[Anemone978]

Nah to be honest I feel my 30's are better than my 20's because I'm smarter 😂

[Asker]

But does it stop being magical? I feel so bored in my 30s. It's like everything is bleak dull and mundane.

[Anemone978]

I don't know nothing about life has ever been very magical... childhood was fine... but after that its been kind of a drag trying to survive. Lately for me I been doing more, looking forward to getting a career, moved back to my home city, getting out more.. being able to buy stuff I want and like.. so I suppose its just what you do with life that makes it magical.

[Apple1996]

I don't think life is ever magical at any age. Always some type of struggles going on

[Rangers]

Life stops being magical when you turn 10

[Asker]

LOL.

I mean everything feels very dreary as though there is no more hope.

[Luckycharms12]

No not at all there no difference just s mindset