How do I forget my mistakes in posting on social media in which 400 people have viewed? I’ve planned that post for months but still make mistake?

[Anonymous]

I’m really feeling devastated right now that i hit my head with my hand and scratch myself… because i can't forgive myself as i’ve planned for so long….

[MaazHussain]

It's completely understandable to feel devastated and upset when you make a mistake on social media, especially if a large number of people have already seen it. However, it's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes, and it's possible to move forward from this experience.

Here are a few things you can do to help yourself forget your mistakes and move on:

• Forgive yourself: Remember that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process, and it's important to be kind to yourself. Try to let go of any negative self-talk and focus on moving forward.
• Accept what you can't change: While you can't take back the post or the mistake you made, you can choose to accept what has already happened and focus on what you can do in the future.
• Focus on the positive: Instead of dwelling on the mistake, try to focus on the positive aspects of the situation. Perhaps you received some positive feedback or learned something new from the experience.
• Learn from your mistakes: Use this experience as an opportunity to reflect on what went wrong and what you can do differently in the future. This can help you avoid similar mistakes in the future.
• Take a break from social media: If you're feeling overwhelmed, it may be helpful to take a break from social media for a little while. This can help you recharge and refocus on other aspects of your life.

Remember that mistakes are a natural part of life, and it's possible to move forward and learn from them. If you're still feeling overwhelmed or struggling to move past the mistake, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or therapist for support.

[boggboss]

Sounds like u need therapy for a start self harming because u made a mistake is clearly not good secondly believing u could fake how u look long term was stupid

[Asker]

I was faking my height, and this one mistake destroys all my efforts all these years

[boggboss]

Yes it does destroy that effort as if your willing to fake something so silly what else do u fake

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry about it. Why are you worried, have some people figured out who you are in person? That happened to me too. Just don’t worry about it and never use full names when describing people. It was a guy friend I said I was in love with last year. He knew it was me, as it was an unusual story and revealed himself. No big deal. Do these people put a roof on your toilet?

[Asker]

Cause i’ve been faking my height and this time i failed as i was too careless

[Opinion Owner]

Most people have no way of knowing it’s you. You might have a random situation like I did, but then what? No one can sue you or hurt you.

[Asker]

No the pic is only two of us (me and my partner)… how come they wouldn't know?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh.. well, not everyone will know. This isn’t Facebook. Relax. Here’s what you do. Take the picture down. People are usually self centred by nature and will forget all about it, wanting their own answers to various questions.

[Opinion Owner]

In future, if you want to say anything personal, only refer to first names only and try to make yourself anonymous. Some people may know it’s you. The man I loved over a year ago knows when I’m posting questions. But he’s not laughing at me.

[Opinion Owner]

Now, next step after resolving to be more careful in future. Remember what’s done is done and you didn’t say or do anything bad. So don’t panic. In fact, don’t waste any more time thinking of it.

[Asker]

It’s basically not a post… it’s an instagram stories… so after 24 hrs its gone… but im pretty sure people are focusing on it…. Because this is my first time being a relationship and go public about it…. That’s why i have a hard time forgetting about this mistake in which before im in a relationship i’ve been faking my appearance but this time as im too happy that time, i forgot to be careful of my appearance.. i just post it….

And my partner also posted the same pic.. and my partner said there are 600+ people tap in my name because they are curious who is my partner dating right now….
I really shouldn't go public about my relationship… i’ve been stressing about this issue for weeks….

[Opinion Owner]

Shake it off. Learn from experience and be more private in future. It’s not a wasted experience if it’s learnt from.

[Asker]

Really? Not a wasted experience?
U know i’ve been really wanting to scream everyday, everytime i remember this issue…..

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. I’m not trying to make light of it, but this happens to all of us. You know what was awkward? When I asked a man to kiss me and sleep with me, he said no, then I had to sit through dinner with him avoiding eye contact. Obviously not excited to see me. Everyone knew about it, as I’d made such a play for him. I’m sure there are others, but that’s the most recent awkward moment. Just laugh things like that off. Move on. My other one was when I accidentally sent Chain Reaction song to my other male friend. He did NOT fancy me. It was awkward and I felt like an idiot. But it was funny. Try to find the humour in situations like these, which I promise you, we all have xo

[Asker]

Really? That’s the cure?
Laugh at things that made us stressed?
It even causes me to hit my head, scratch and scream… still i should laugh at that issue?

[Opinion Owner]

Not immediately. But I promise you that one day you will. It’ll just be funny. Weren’t my experiences equally bad?

[Asker]

But at least u can see their reaction… mine is on social media… I don't know how they react and if they send it to other people and talk about our relationship i won't know….

[Opinion Owner]

They won’t. They’ll be too busy thinking about themselves. It’s worse when you see their reactions. Imagine sitting through dinner with a whole table of guests having this guy wishing you weren’t there and your best mate knowing all about the whole thing. Watching other women hitting on him in front of you. Aw-kWARD!

[Opinion Owner]

But actually, Ben probably finds it as funny now as I do. We sometimes make jokes here together.

[Opinion Owner]

My point being it’ll blow over.

[Asker]

What’d u do if u were in my situation right now, regretting the decision u made for posting that go public relationship pic? What solutions would u take?

[Opinion Owner]

Shrug it off and try to watch a movie. Do something with friends like see a movie on the weekend. Eating comfort foods. Maybe cry if you need to tonight and talk to your mum. That always helps me.

[Asker]

I tried, it’s hard….
I keep having the urge to scratch and scream at myself….
Only when i’m distracted that i dont think of these issues…

[Anonymous]

You know what, we all make mistakes. Also, it's just social media, don't take it seriously.

[Asker]

But 400 people have viewed… and there’s nothing i can do to change that….

[Opinion Owner]

So why is that a big thing? Just post an update. No big thing. You really should use social media for fun only, don't make a big deal out of it.

[Asker]

Cause i’ve been faking my appearance all this time on social media…. And this one time it got exposed..