Having no friends anymore?

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Ah guys I’m feeling a little bit said to be honest with you.

I’ve always had a lot of friends because I’m quite outgoing, and suddenly I have no friends!

The few friends I do have are kind of depressed and so they’re not always there…and it’s kind of depressing lol.

My friends in the past didn’t really turn out to be my friends so that’s what happened there…

I guess I feel sad when I go onto social media and see everyone doing fun things and I’m just basically at home.

Hulk_kitty · Accepted Answer

First off, Your not going make friends on social media sites, or sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.

Making friends or getting partner you want is not easy, First thing you need is look at yourself and what you are doing wrong in your own life, Quote, "we don't attract what we want in life, we attract what we are"

So basically if you are a selfish person, and you want a kind guy as boyfriend, you will not be able to keep this kind guy in your life. Whatever you want to be in life, you have to become that person.

Now if you want friends, go out to social clubs, go dancing, marital arts, tennis. You will meet good people and make nice friends. but you won't make friends in clubs, work, or on social networking sites.

Good examples my parents never had friends in Ireland, they live in the middle of no where in Ireland, but they have made a lot of good friends, through playing golf tournaments, choir, walking groups, bridge group etc. But if they didn't go to these events, no one would want to know them any other way. They have met some great people.

Young lady, if you want anything in life, you have to make the effort, and put yourself out there.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

I've learned that my concept of "Friendship" evolved over time.

In my early 20s, I had lots of friends. Hell, my facebook account had 400 "Friends". What I learned however, is that human beings are inherently selfish and their friendship is never altruistic. I'd sacrifice my time and energy for my friends and receive, what I thought, was genuine companionship in return.

I also learned, albeit unfortunately, that for the same aforementioned reasons, opposite sex friendship is impossible. I've been heartbroken knowing that women I thought were my closest friends, were actually secretly in love and inwardly hated my wife.

Fast forward to my now mid 30s. I don't have a facebook account. Or do any social online networking. The number of friends who remain in my life can be counted on one hand. And the best I can describe them, they're just "there". No ulterior motive or goal. Just there.

Hard to imagine such a simple virtue is so hard to come by.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Me too, I'm sorry. I guess online is better then nothing, but it will never be the same as having them in real life. Having seen some of your other posts, maybe it's not such a bad thing, because some of your friends seem toxic as hell to be honest. Like, I think if they're being racist towards you, they aren't actually your friend. However, I think it's still possible to have a discussion about cultural differences or issues, without making it a direct attack on YOU.
Whoever this girl was, sounds extremely fake and toxic. That's definitely not how friends act towards each other

I had friends in high school and still in college a little bit. They weren't that great to be honest, but they were better than nothing. But eventually, they all moved on to the next chapter in their lives and I'm still stuck reminiscing and longing for the old days. And I feel once you reach a certain age it becomes difficult. There were some people at work I thought would be my friends, but they were just really work friends. At least where I live, everyone either knows each other from church or school, so they have their little circles that are very difficult to break into if you're an outsider. It sucks, and I really don't know what to tell you to be honest, except, keep your online ones and learn how to be happy by yourself I guess. Or try to meet people on your travelers or maybe go to singles events. What about your group of friends that you went to Spain with?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'm sure it's not about how much friends you have but it's about the quality of friends you have, sometimes 1 real friend equals 1000 fake ones 😄

You sure miss alyssa rapunzel don't want fake friends around you, better having no friends than having some who takes advantage of you, use you or are just fake... etc

The real picture is hidden the majority of times, you think that a lot of people are having fun, that's how it looks but if you get to know them well, you will realize that your problems are nothing compared to theirs, don't let the shallow things that you always see, fool you...

Life ain't always static, sometimes there are ups and sometimes there are downs, i know that your feeling sad but be sure that this won't last, you will be happy again when you least expect it 😊

RealMarek · Answer

I think you can use Bumble to find female friends. Or perhaps do some volunteer work to meet people in a non-professional setting. You will probably find that many friends come and go. They have their own problems and reasons. There are very few who will be friends forever no matter what. If you find one of these, value her.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I’m going to dedicate this song to you & hopefully it turns your frown upside down.

Sparkie460 · Answer

You don't need a lot of friends, you need true friends. It's better to have a small circle of real true friends than a lot of acquaintances. If you need to talk you can dm me. I'm not trying to be a pervert, I'm just a caring guy.

AmeerX · Answer

Oh Alyssa, I didn't know you feel this way. Good grief, don't look to others on social media. You don't need 10s of friends to be happy. Just 2-5 friends circle is enough for anyone. Even a single good friend is good enough

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

You need to make a conscious effort to get out more and do a better job at not focusing so much on social media. Then maybe things will begin to turn around for you.

MrCommodore · Answer

Remember that people only post their highlights on social media usually, so it gives the appearance of endless fun. Our pool of friends usually reduces as we get older, but the quality of friend increases.

smilelots · Answer

so sorry to hear that Saly hope you figure out what happen and then try and find good people to hang with ,, there out there just look and be yourself always.. good luck

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well im here you still have a few friends and if the friends you have left are always depressed that may maybe its better to move on from them life is to short for all of that

TallAnon · Answer

I feel like this is a common late 20s thing, I hear it a lot

exitseven · Answer

Making friends once you are out of high school or college is really hard.

Guardian45 · Answer

Make NEW friends. Those old friends were NOT friends. I have lots of friends, but I am not able to go out and so have to stick to online friends!

noohair · Answer

What you have found is that there are friends and acquaintances.

eagle1951 · Answer

i'm always alone , and I don't care what anyone thinks

Rangers · Answer

Neither do I, I haven't had friends in 6 years

es20490446e · Answer

just get into some group activity.

ilovelamp · Answer

Aging.

Anonymous · Answer

You attract what you are

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