"I'm afraid that if someone gets to know the real me, they won't like me." Do you agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

Do you fear that if you let most people know the real you that they won't like you? I'll admit i used to have these thoughts myself.

i strongly agree. I am afraid people won't like me if they get to know the real me

I agree

I disagree

I strongly disagree. I'm not afraid people won't like me when they get to know the real me

[smashleyy]

Kinda. I struggle heavy with vulnerability. Sharing most details about me was a big no and if asked intimate questions I’d often lie to keep a wall up between me and a person. It wasn't until sept of last year I realized the pattern of all my relationships being surface level (family, friends, romantic). I think a part of my issue was not wanting to trigger a childhood rejection/abandonment wound. A subconscious thought of ‘it can’t hurt if they leave me cause they never really knew me’. But I also know my fear with vulnerability has to do with my upbringing. I was raised by an emotionally explosive/unavailable parent who couldn’t tell the difference between talking back and expressing myself to them so I was silenced/punished for both. I learned to keep everything bottled up to myself, It was self protection as a child but it’s no longer serving me in adulthood. I’d like to think I’m unlearning that behaviour (year ago smashley would not dare to write this out)

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Yes, but it's getting less so now. For the past couple years I've been working on building a small group of closer friendships instead of the big group of casual friends I always had growing up. It's been a lot different, and scarier ngl, but now that it's actually established its rlly nice to have friends who actually know me well & I know them well. Was kinda surprised how much in common I had with several of them, would never have known if kept at a distance.

[dynamicyandere]

When I was in my teens, there was time that I hated myself. I was hard on myself and I didn’t love myself. I would always have a smile on my face for the world to see, but behind closed doors, I’d inflict self harm.


Fast forward to today, and I’ve overcome my inner demons. I’ve learned how to love myself. I’ve developed myself and have been becoming more and more confident and proud of the man I’m shaping myself to be.


Now, it’s usually the opposite. The more someone knows me, the more that they begin to like me. I have nothing to hide anymore and I live my life authentically.


I believe I’ve come to a good place, compared to where I’ve been. But, my personal growth journey is far from over. There’s still much to learn and there always will be.

[Meropatrick]

No. I just hate high highhhh expectations. Like people would get to know me. 1st few weeks they love me to death. Then they turn on me. Bcs i am a people pleaser. I would keep agreeing with u until u end up crossing boundries then i would tell them off. So they think i am mean. Or some people will like nice things about me then they turn jealous and also leave. Sometimes i have a friend but then their partner get jealous and also ask leave them to leave me. So no i dont fear people to know the real me. I fear i know the real them. Because they mostly turn out to have a lot of insecurities

[blueonblack22]

It’s easy to disagree with this when you have lots of options. However if your options are limited you tend to agree with it more.

It’s not easy to invest yourself and take a risk only to have the other person ultimately reject you because they can’t accept the real you.

This has been done to me and vice versa. But I took my negative experience of how I was cruelly rejected to be as gentle as possible when I did the rejecting. I know how it feels. Either way it’s not fun at all in this scenario.

[thegreenyogi]

Totally disagree. I don't have enough energy to put on an act and pretend to be someone I'm not. So I be me and if someone doesn't like it that's fine. None of us are perfect but there will always be two groups of people in this world. Those who love our true nature and those who loathe it for issues of their own. That doesn't mean we are the problem. So I choose to be true to myself and show myself for who I truly am always.

[Heolurt]

People don't ever give me that chance, they tend to see my face and judge me from that. I may look like a monster but I'm not, sometimes I wish people would see passed my face and come talk to me and decide if they like me after talking to me for a bit.

[Lisia]

Yeah, I have that. I'm kinda weird, don't want to scare people away

[Still-alive]

i kinda suspected you did. i used to be the same.

[Lisia]

You really see through people 😅

[Still-alive]

lol well its easier when its people i can easily relate to y'know :P

[Lisia]

Hahah yeahh I get that

[Bricealan]

Yes, I am afraid if they see me sneaking around at night, peeking in windows, stealing women;s underwear, trying to peek in the women's dressing rooms or jerking off in the men's room at work... they won't like me LOLOLO

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't really care. I'm after the phase of my life that I wanted be someone else.

[andreasderjuengere]

My experience in life: the less I give a shit, the more acceptance I get.

Fortunately, I rest in my self. Additional friends are welcome of course. But not at the cost of selling my ''real me'' :)

[provokeesmokee]

I have friends who know and love the real me. I don't need or want everyone to love me.

If someone doesn't like the real me, that's ok. They don't need to.

[menina]

I strongly disagree. If they don't like the real me, that's because they didn't like me at all. It's great to be liked, but I can't please everybody. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[ShesRad80]

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[normalice]

I think most wouldn't but I wouldn't call it "fear." I welcome the idea of people self-filtering, leaving me alone before I have to ask them to.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I have yet to meet someone who can truly say that they dislike me after they get to know me better.

[Simslover92]

Yep which is why I'm mostly quiet around most people. The only one who knows the real me is my best friend.

[Monalisa77]

I dont really pretend to be anyone else but if they saw the way i was at home theyd probably run a mile lol

[Constatine]

They will not be able to get over it... 🤣😂 Once they do..

[lightbulb27]

no, I usd to be controlled by fear, but no more. fear is a terrible master.

[Sour-rose]

I agree, unfortunately. :c There's a reason why i exist in a sour petal rose.

[Sparkie460]

I am who I am. What people see on this site is the way I am in real life. I don't pretend to be someone im not. If they can't accept me for who I am, that's their choice.

[Unit1]

Yeah, it's also kind of why I am alone. My few friends are dispersed - as am I.

I am a ghost. This explains my username here pretty well.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No I am just afraid that people want to get close before actually getting to know me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I strongly agree about this...

[Likes2drive]

Usually it’s the opposite, once they know me they become friends

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe, but I prefer that to being liked for someone I'm not.

[Minahh]

Not at all after the shit I've been through if they don't like the real me they're not my person

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's a thought deep in my mind but not necessarily