Do you want to be a parent at some point in your life?

[Anonymous]

I'm making it a poll, I want a percentage, I wonder if more people want to be parents or vise versa.

I want to be a parent

I don't want to be a parent

[Sonorous]

I really really don't. And I'm saying this from what I've experienced. I'm always happier when I'm not around kids. My sisters both pregnant at young ages so I've witnessed everything they had to go through for years. Having kids limited them & still does limit them. It also caused & causes them more stress. Sure there are good times in there. But most is probably stress. Humans are just good at coping & our bodies release certain chemicals so that we might not feel so bad about something.

And I can say with 100% certainty that kids stress me out more than the average person since I have extreme ear sensitivity issues. Normal speaking volumes hurt my ears so you already know that a child screaming past the damage threshold of the ear would make me wanna just jump off a cliff as soon as I could. And even if I protected my ears when I'm around kids, it would create other challenges for parenting.

But even if I didn't have hyperacusis, I really don't like the idea of bringing another life into the world if it could potentially suffer & inevitably die. I wouldn't feel so bad about if if our world was different. If fundamental aspects about it were different. If people were different. I would never want my offspring to have to go through the many horrors that life allows. This is why I feel that (although not the most practical) antinatalism is what would be best for life forms like ours. If we want to reduce suffering, all we've gotta do is stop mindlessly having kids.

But even if I didn't have hyperacusis & I somehow got over the ethical implications of having them, I still have seen just how much chaos kids bring into someone's life. Constantly having to worry about them doing the right thing & staying alive. I wouldn't enjoy doing that. I'm also not a family oriented person. Who knows why. 🤷‍♂️ But because of all this & probably more, I'd be a horrible father & would always wish that I didn't have kids if I had them.

[RavVid]

You have to think about it as a guy because it is unlikely you won't be divorced unilaterally by the mother. Which means you will have child support and minimal contact with your children.

Guys are exactly 50-50 at this point.

Possibly guys should consider hiring surrogate moms because then they are the sole parent and the child cannot be taken away from them. The surrogacy fees are less than divorce costs.

[kylee2437]

I’ve been debating this subject for a long while and I think my conclusions are , I only want to be a parent if the right guy comes along and I know for a fact that he will be a great father either way and typically still wouldn’t bothered until we are either engaged/married but I am 100% content with having no kids until that point. Having kids being a single mother sounds extremely unpleasant and causes so much unnecessary stress because there’s pressures of having kids as an adult.

[kylee2437]

Wouldn’t bother*

[Asker]

Well sounds like a realistic plan, nice

[PrincessBunBuns]

Ideally no. I’ve only ever met two people I’ve wanted to have children with. So, I guess… if I meet the right person who I can envision myself having children with, then yes. It’s all about circumstances.

[Asker]

Then I think your answer is yes, you have the mindset of a yes, women that don't would just say no and most likely have a selfish reason behind it ha

It's only normal to seek for someone compatible for such responsibilities first lol

[PrincessBunBuns]

Ehhh I’d say I’m “selfish”. I wouldn’t have children just because I like the solo life. But with a partner, we’d do everything together :P Which includes raising a child.

[Asker]

Sounds to me like you just don't want to do it alone which seems normal to me, you can't really have a child alone, I believe the pregnancy struggle bonds the child and mother, without a dude you are just raising someone else's jizz

[Akothee005]

At some point in life you will just need to see how your generation will be like and you'll need people who will be closer to you than friends.

[Asker]

That's true, shit getting crazy out here

[NathanDavis]

I would be open to that, yes... and with the right person who would want it as well

[Asker]

Yep that sounds like a decent plan bro

[Drumlin2001]

I always knew i wanted to. But as I got to 35 and was still a virgin I had given up hope of it.
Having had therapy and getting into a relationship, by 40 I had 2 kids

[Unit1]

No, I don't want to ruin myself financially and not being able to get enough sleep or pull another human into here and not being able to pay for lunch.

This is not happening.

[EmmaMary]

We're already parents to two absolutely adorable and precious children... We are so lucky and blessed in having a little boy (4 in January) and a little girl who celebrated her first birthday on the 7th. November.

[Worst]

I do but I also don't lol. Think this world is just too shitty at this point to have em

[Asker]

Yep I can understand the hesitation, maybe a deaf kid wouldn't be so bad so they don't gotta hear all the bullshit

[Constatine]

I am... And I would not want to missed this for anything in the world.. 😄

[colaman94]

I'm hearted ❤️ by the fellow answers of i don't. I don't either. If I had things in a perfect world, I'd just thrive on relationship and sex and hobbies and interests 😃😁😈

[colaman94]

No offspring no pets required 😎

[exitseven]

I have 3 grown children. I liked being a parent most of the time

[jimmy2]

Should have that question of do you want to be a parent again

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[jimmy2]

Thank you

[Veles]

I have no desire to become a mother.

[Asker]

Fair enough

[colaman94]

Do you find it's easy or hard to find like minded partners? If I may ask.

[Simslover92]

Yes and I can't wait for that day to come!

[Asker]

That's good indeed

[Agape93]

Nope and thankfully no longer can

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[Anonymous]

Yep!
But currently we are just trolling the ones who often go around asking newly wed couples about kids on the 2nd day of marriage LOL

[PreciousJewel]

I'm the cool single aunt

[Asker]

Fair enough lol

[Nikki1989]

Nope.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

[jahaims]

Already am