How do you deal with problematic people?

[Anonymous]

My family creates drama and arguments just out the blue - how to deal with these people? They don't respect boundaries or anything..

[Saiesh30]

Actually there's nothing you can do about it coz I'm going by your description that they don't respect boundaries which entails they obviously don't have mutual respect and ofcourse they don't give a dime what the other person is saying in an argument or discussion.
You can't change them, trust me. You can only change yourself and that's to turn a blind eye to the ruckus that they create. Look for what you gotta do in life and focus on that. Your daily tasks, your short term and long term goals and keep your mind confined to it.
If it starts getting way out of hand, intervene only to keep them in their place but don't let it affect you.
That's what I've learned.

[Asker]

Been trying to cut off my family and here in a moment will be for good they are problematic and toxic

[Asker]

Never a moment of peace or positive they thrive in drama or chaos they create

[Saiesh30]

Yeah I know that environment. They've developed that lifestyle over the years and it's become their way of living. If at all, they get calm for some days it'll still follow with the chaos after that.

[Asker]

Yes I'm so tried of them

[Saiesh30]

I can imagine. It's exhausting beyond the capacity. Drains the heck out of you living in such an atmosphere.

[Asker]

Yes very tired of them and the only time I have peace is away from them

[Asker]

Boundaries aren't working- ready to cut them off

[Saiesh30]

Yeah, you know better what's the situation so if cutting yourself off is the solution then that's it.

[Asker]

Yes thank you

[Saiesh30]

No problemo. Hope you find the peace of mind you're looking for 😊✌🏻

[Asker]

Yes once I cut them off for good

[Saiesh30]

Hey.. appreciate the MHO 😇

[Asker]

Welcome

[Saiesh30]

You can DM if you ever feel like having a conversation. Hope it all gets better for you 😇

[haklısınvolkan]

Selam

[Asker]

What does that mean?

[haklısınvolkan]

to say hello

[Asker]

Oh hi 👋

[haklısınvolkan]

Turkey merhaba 😅

[haklısınvolkan]

First of all, keep some distance between you and your family, come without caring about some things and feel free, mentally and physically.

[rosemilk]

keep them at a very long distance, don't share much about your personal life, only talk to them if they contact you and if you do talk keep it very short and generic

[mandyfire98]

I block them from my life. I cut them out and ignore them. They want attention. Don't give it to them. Don't give them respect at all. Just act like they're ants. You don't even think twice about ants on a sidewalk. This is for online and in real life.

[haklısınvolkan]

Selamlar.

[slatyb]

As little as possible. If it's not pleasant, don't go.

[bobalife]

Assert boundaries and keeping healthy space

[LazerBean]

I ignore them mostly.