Does my mom favour my younger sister over me?

[Anastacia1989]

my younger sis is 29 years old and lives on her own…she hasn’t been working for about 1.5 years now…. almost everyday my mom is going back n forth to my sisters place to help her out and pays for her groceries- my sister always says she’s “sick” yet she refuses to go get medical care or to do the tests that her doctor requested her to.
she needs my mom just ti go there to put food in the oven for her which I find to be ridiculous

my mom always gives in to what my sister wants and is never firm with her or sets boundaries ever…anytime I need her she’s always busy and I always feel like I need to push her into helping me out ….

she also told me that when she sells her old sports car that she will be giving the money TJ my sister and not me…. my sister never even came over to help my mom out or check up on her when she busted her arm last winter on black ice- which was very careless and disgusting- she could’ve easily taken the bus to come see my mom!!!

so does my mom favour my sister over me?

Yes favours her

No/ other - pls explain.

Updates

1 y

My sister claims that she doesn’t want to see me and I haven’t seen her in a long time…I’m personally thinking it’s because she’s guilty of the fact that my mom is paying for her and because she didn’t see my mom when she busted her arm last winter

[rosemilk]

yes she does. i'd cut contact with both your sister and your mother. you don't need them.

[Anastacia1989]

Problem is I live with my mom and I’m currently looking for a job outside my home….

[Wiredone]

It sounds like your sister is playing the " needy child " and she's doing it well. I think your mom knows that you are more independent and can take care of yourself.

[Anastacia1989]

Ya she’s doing a pretty good job playing the needy kid….. thats exactly what she is and I don’t know why my mom isn’t setting boundaries or ever saying “no” to her….. also why would she give money to my sister and not me if she sold her old sports car? I’m the one who helped her out when her arm was broken- my sister never showed up or helped

[Wiredone]

I guess she feels that your sister needs it more.

[Anastacia1989]

Why tho? That isn’t fair to me?

[Wiredone]

No it's not fair to you.

[Sevenpointfive]

how can your sister afford living on her own?

[Anastacia1989]

Good question…. she hasn’t been working for a long time now and my mom goes to her every other day…. clearly she’s being helped

[avery58]

I feel like your sister is manipulating her with the whole illness thing. So that's why your mother only seems to have time for her and giver her money.

[Anastacia1989]

Ya I feel she is exaggerating just a bit much….. I hve back pains and I still go about my business….. my sis obviously is manipulating….. she even went as far as changing her house key and my mom can no longer get into her house

[DrPepper12]

She needs to grow the fuck up and your mom needs to cut the cord.

[Anastacia1989]

I don’t know why my mom isn’t setting boundaries or ever saying “no” to her….. also why would she give money to my sister and not me if she sold her old sports car? I’m the one who helped her out when her arm was broken- my sister never showed up or helped

[DrPepper12]

Some kids get fucked. My sis got everything we older brothers got shit. Works like that sometimes 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Why are there so many adults on this site still hanging on to mommy?

[Anastacia1989]

My sister is 29 years old already and still depends on my mom even tho she lives by herself

[Staximus]

Is your sister a drug addict?

[Staximus]

Drug addicts are always "sick" but never want to go to the doctor, and they never want to work

[Anastacia1989]

Nope she doesn’t do drugs at all and she doesn’t even want to go inside my mom’s car

[Dinklex3]

Maybe.

[Anastacia1989]

Maybe what?