Why did she say that with this reason?

[Anonymous]

A "friend" of mine, and I do stress the quotes, as we're "just friends" after all, right?

Anyway, she doesn't drive. I don't mind that, and I don't mind giving her a ride on the occasion, to certain places, just don't want to be expected to, right? She could have taken an uber and she was going to because I wasn't wanting to get up at 730 the other day on my day off, just to driver her to her new place she's moving to, because of an emergency move. The guy who told her about this availability, is her weed dealer, and so, the woman he give the number of, for the apartment complex, she had never met before. When we went out there that morning, it was more like 10:45 as she was able to get an 11:30 appt. to do the paper signings and stuff, she said "thanks for going with me, I wasn't really sure what I was getting into with meeting someone i had never met in person". I get it, it can often be weird to only talk to someone on the phone first, THEN meet them in person. Not that we thought the woman was dangerous or anything but, you really can't assume, right?

I'm a dude, of course, and I think she knew that, but she has other male friends too. Yes, i realize i was probably the one that was available to drive, but, im not even that intimidating. I don't own a gun (don't want to), and i wouldn't really hurt a fly, so, why me? Why did she want ME to drive her there, but then use that excuse, knowing I'm not that intimidating

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay dude, let me try to make sense of this situation:

- Your friend not having a license puts her in a vulnerable position of relying on others for rides sometimes.

- Meeting up with some random person she just spoke to on the phone for the first time to sign a lease is definitely sketchy. You never know people's intentions.

- Even though you're not intimidating personally, just having a male presence with her probably made her feel safer in case this woman turned out to be weird or something.

- She likely trusts you since you're friends, so you were a natural choice to go for safety and comfort even if you're not some big tough dude.

- The excuse about finding someone intimidating was maybe just the easiest, most socially acceptable reason for her to give rather than admitting she wanted backup in case things went south.

So in summary, I think she genuinely needed someone to go with her for protection more than anything. Asking a guy friend was the logical choice even if you're not threatening. Don't read too much into the excuse - she probably just wanted company more than anything. I'd just help her out when she asks man, no big deal.