Am I wrong for not having vegan options at my family BBQ?

[Anonymous]

So, here is the story, I had a family BBQ last weekend, we invited everyone in the family who were reasonably close by. My wife's cousin, who I hadn't seen in years, who I had no idea was vegan, showed up with his parents. He (though the idiot uses they them pronouns which I refuse to use), while I was cooking asked if I had any vegan options. I said beyond the salad, no. He threw some insults at me, and I suggested he could buy his own food and grill it him self if his attitude was going to be like that or he could sit down and stfu. He went and told my wife, who came to get my side, suffice it to say she agreed with me. So the vegan, and his parents left the BBQ and told me they would be unlikely to visit me again. I said "don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you" and returned toy grilling.

Am I wrong here? Should I have somehow been psychic and known that I had a vegan coming to my family BBQ?

[shortster]

BBQ implies meat; if you don't ask about vegan options beforehand you can't get upset with someone who didn't think to provide them. I have a milk allergy and know that if I don't ask about non dairy options beforehand that I might not have much options when I get to the event.

[Lliam]

You weren't wrong to not have vegan options at a freaking BBQ. What are you supposed to BBQ, fake meat, tofu? You did offer the douche bag salad.

And your reaction to the idiot was appropriate. Good for you.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO. :-)

[TrueConfection]

You're not wrong. If someonehas a special diet, they should bring their own food. You could have been a little more thoughtful and offered him a patch of lawn to graze on. Sounds like your future bbqs will just be all the better.

[Apple1996]

Nah I'm a vegan and wouldn't expect anyone to cook vegan for me. If I go somewhere like that it's more important to spend time with family then it is to eat

[Asker]

If I knew you were coming I'd have asked you what you would have wanted and did my best to grill it right. My two issues with him were his petulant attitude and the fact that no one told me or my wife he was vegan.

[avery58]

The last thing I would expect in at a BBQ is vegan options 😂

[Anonymous]

I mean it would have been nice if your wife had let you know who was attending and what their dietary requirements are.

[Asker]

She didn't know he was vegan either.

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps it would have been wise to send out a survey for dietary requirements before holding an event themed around organic nutrition

[Asker]

Lol the event was not centered around organic nutrition it was centered around meat, beer, beans, salad, and family interaction.

[RebelinSteel]

@ Asker, seems you are deleting answers from those not agreeing with you.
That’s a tad childish
Anon and deleting answers that you don’t like.

[Asker]

Nah I delete responses which I find insulting which is what you did. You as a mod should know that.

[Opinion Owner]

Those are all carbon based are they not? Which would make them organic

[Anonymous]

If people have peculiar dietary needs they either should bring their own sustenance or not accept an invite. Leave the attitude at home regardless. No you were not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Vegans can bring their own food.