How to make life more exciting and interesting?

[Crimsyjo]

I feel like everyone is boring!! I want fun, adventure, excitement! I work, study, look after family, do chores, do art, but it's all boring. I go club and dancing and love it but it's only good once sometimes twice a week. I want to do more! But it's like everyone is content just sitting at home Monday to Fridays! Ugh!

Even online chat is getting boring. And even when I do something super fun I'm bored again the next day!

[WhiteSteve]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/YI-JC6w_Eqc

“Adventure, excitement…. a Jedi craves not these things.”😝

You sound like you burn the candle at both ends as it is, haha. I hear ya though. I’m taking care of my old man and I’d probably go stir-crazy being home every night. Just learned to play hockey a few years ago and now I’m playing three nights a week, so I have a pretty full dance card. 3 nights out, 4 nights in is good for me. Kind of an ambivert, or maybe just an outgoing introvert. I have a lot of extrovert qualities but really I just want to be left to hang out with myself most of the time, I’m my own best friend😂

Anyway…maybe look into a new hobby? I feel like this is just a thing I’ve seen on TV, but they probably have some kind of community center classes or programs. Cooking or something? I’ve known people in coed sports leagues too: bowling, slow-pitch softball, kickball, etc. I think it’s mostly about the drinking in all cases, lmao

Either way…. get some sleep, ffs!!!😜 My naps are longer than three hours🤣

[Crimsyjo]

Awww I appreciate your comments. I look after my mum too tho she's still in her own home at the moment.
I feel we might be quite similar? Outgoing introvert lol.. love that term! I do enjoy my space too. I don't actually like a lot of friends cos I like my home. 'Thy home is thy castle" and all that.
I was looking into joining a sport. But not much around near me. I found hockey and was interested but then discovered it was a university hockey thing so not open to me. Plus like my age and that... most people get considered past it after 40 lol.
I do love my sleep too you know. 3 hours on my work days suck bit that's cos I work weekends as I have kids (teens) to see to in the week. And weekends are most social days for going out solo and not sticking out like a sore thumb!

[DryGermanGuy]

Had to give a thumbs-up for the Yoda quote. 😬

[YourExLover69]

Variety is the spice of life !!

Hiking, running, adventures, picnic, fun, excitement, cleaning home, DIY, cooking something new, travel, explore new places, try new hobby - gardening, painting etc., volunteer, plantation, learn new skills, subject, topic or language, challenge yourself by setting some goals and objectives, connect with nature, swimming, try a new restaurant or cuisine, plan a surprise or party for someone special, be open to new opportunities, have a game night or music marathon.

Try these and see what happens 😊 what draws your attention. Sometimes the above things should be done once in a while sometimes few times. With friends/partners and sometimes do it alone.

[Crimsyjo]

I was going to say... I do a lot of those things. But I'm lonely and doing them alone just makes it worse.
I do hiking with my dog, been going gym like 3 years, I used to run but stopped but thinking of starting again, I of c clean home and chores, I am studying for a degree, I do painting as a hobby, I have drink or game nights with my daughter and/or her boyfriend...
I have female friends wanting to meet up but I find it a little boring.
What I really want is a boyfriend to do things with... that's why nothing else satisfies me. I want a boyfriend to go pub with, play pool with, go on drives and adventures with, go out dancing with or movies or stay home and cuddle...

[YourExLover69]

Then you need a partner/boyfriend 😏
To do all these stuff together. Not only sex but everything you should be memorable, Wonderful and adventurous if you find someone amazing and interesting enough 😉

[Crimsyjo]

Yes but I've been looking for over a year for a boyfriend and I never meet anyone I like out (that isn't under 25 😄 or taken) and online dating apps... guys only seem to want hook ups not relationship. Doesn't matter if they 25 or 65! Sex us easy to find so I have sex with my casuals for fun. But relationship? Where!! How? It's just not happening and I'm bored waiting.

I did stay home and be "a good girl" 8 years before my current one year doing what I'm doing now.

[YourExLover69]

What's your type of guy?
Personality wise?
Race?

[IslaTheWitch]

I read, write and make myself tired...
I work in the field where I have to learn every day to stay on the top
I maintain my friendships, travel, and discover new things...
I don't focus much on things I can't change
but I look for alternatives... and solutions :D

[dustybiker2]

There is a whole wide world out there. Go and explore it.

[Crimsyjo]

I have. I've been all over the world before. But now I have kids I can't exactly go off for days or weeks at a time.

[Finchie40]

Try to break up your routine and try something different , remember life is too short so try to have as much fun as you possibly can before you can’t anymore. Life gets boring because you are allowing it to get boring , and sometimes boring is good cuz it helps you open your mind to other things that you never did before. Find a new hobby that you never really did before , meet people that enjoy doing the same thing. The world is a huge place , so there is so much to explore , we will probably be dead before we get to explore all of it lol

[exitseven]

I do not know. It is something I am working on this year.

[Crimsyjo]

Aww so you get me! Do you feel young at heart and like everyone judges you on your age? Like that means you shouldn't have fun?

[exitseven]

In my heart of hearts I am still that 17 year old kid hitchhiking all over the northeast.

[Crimsyjo]

Yeahhh! That's the spirit!
Which makes me older than you... cos I'm about 20 in my mind and heart right now lol

[exitseven]

😎😎😎😎😎

[Mrtcn01]

it is normal because your adrenalin level has already been up. and staying the same level or more than it. it is getting harder and harder... also you mentioned fro all activity is consuming not creating something usefull for others. go charity events etc. try it and try to see their eyes..

[Bklynbadboy12]

You know what you need? You need to broaden your horizons. Branch out meet some new friends that will open you up to new and exciting thing. But you have to put yourself out there and when you do meet these new friends don't be afraid to try som new things

[Crimsyjo]

How do I broaden my horizons? I go out club and bars and cafes?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Want to chat about me pulling your hair, slapping your tiddies, and spitting in your mouth?

If not, then you're not really ready for the wild side.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha if you call chatting about it wild rather than actually doing it I'm not sure you ready for the wild side?
I like cnc and bdsm so I've experienced pretty wild lol

[Lynx122]

XD You can really never get enough lol. You can go do extreme sports if you're that bored. Go buy a wingsuit and fly through that cliff with a hole in it.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha but there isn't places like that near by! I was thinking about being in one of those shark cages under the sea... but next day I'd still want something else.

Doing speed racing around a track wd be cool.

Rock climbing or paragliding...

But these things are expensive and need organising ahead of time and lol not things you can do all the time!

[HungTexan]

The best cure for boredom is a fun, exciting partner. My wife is a constant source of spontaneity, excitement, and fun— and the sex is as good or better than the first time with her.

[Crimsyjo]

Well duh.. I been looking for about 16 months now with no luck. Only weirdos, creeps and guys wanting casual sex.

[HungTexan]

Don’t give up. It will happen. Maybe look elsewhere.

[Cheerfull009]

Ha ha, you are 44 , still don't know how the make like exiting and interesting?

[Crimsyjo]

45. And haha I've done many many exciting things. It just never seems enough. I can do something cool... like last Tuesday I went to see a live band, got to meet them!! Then got pulled by police for speeding. Was drunk too but they didn't notice or let me off... whilst on the way to fuck my 18 Yr old FB... and next day spent 24 hours partying with another FB... then still feel bored and lonely two days later when I recovered!

[MikeRJ]

Volunteering can make you feel great. Go visit people in a nursing home, help at a soup kitchen, work with children at Boys and Girls Club, help someone to learn to read, coach a kid's sport, volunteer to clean up litter in a park, etc.

[Crimsyjo]

I work in a care home so I do help the elderly a lot. Not sure about the other stuff? Most things like that are when I'm working.

[DryGermanGuy]

Where the hell do you get the energy to go out seven days a week? I couldn't do that at 25!

[Crimsyjo]

I work 8.5 hour shift, go home, go club, get 3 hours sleep and still go do another 8.5 hour work shift. I have energy!! And yh I dunno where from either. I also go gym, study, look after family, do all the shopping chores and running of my house.

I would say I'm good to go 5 days a week. 2 is enough for rest!

[DryGermanGuy]

I'm sorry for the remote diagnosing, but that doesn't sound healthy at all.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha which bit? The 3 hours sleep? That's only once a week. And I'll nap or get more like 12 hours sleep another night to make up for it. Just depends on my schedule and when opportunity for fun is afoot I'm gonna take it! For instance last week I went to concert on Tuesday evening, saw an FB that night, visited my mum the next day, just jumped into bed to have a nap when another FB said hey let's hang out, and he was over for a full 24 hours. So it was like 20 hours before I got any sleep at all. And that was on/off sleep as we were making out every few hours.

[DryGermanGuy]

Yeah, I could not work on three hours of sleep, I would practically be a zombie.

[Crimsyjo]

Once was one hour sleep. Now that was a killer!! Can't do that again!

[kellytheman]

Yeah try to find something new you never do and possibly you might actually have fun a meet someone guy or girl you like to hang with that likes to have fun too. Sometimes you just got to break your routine and go to different places.

[jahaims]

Lack of satisfaction like that usually means you have inner turmoil

[Crimsyjo]

Haha yeah. Since I was like born I think. But knowing that doesn't solve my issue. Counselling has never been able to help me neither.

[Staximus]

Welcome to adult life, you're not a kid anymore. Every day is not play day.

[Crimsyjo]

Why not? Why does age mean I should have a boring life?

[Staximus]

Every day is not going to be some grand adventure

[Crimsyjo]

But isn't the fact it isn't because people don't make an effort and accept a humdrum existence? I know not everyday can be. But so many people are content with just once or twice a year? 😧

[Nightmoon23]

Do you have a husband or boyfriend I’m only asking cause if you don’t it makes it easier for you to go do fun stuff

[Crimsyjo]

Nooooo. And I wouldn't be bored if I had a husband or boyfriend! Unless they were being boring!

[Nightmoon23]

Then he have all the time you need to do anything

[Crimsyjo]

Ah but doing "anything" solo is not so much fun. And I find sex the most exciting fun thing to do.

[Nightmoon23]

It really depends what you are doing by yourself, but that’s true sex is really good and fun especially when you have multiple people

[Crimsyjo]

Well I prefer to run or hike solo. And go shopping solo. I go club solo and enjoy dancing. I like going movies solo.
But other things I'd like to do either need another person or is better with another person. Such as playing pool or going on a road trip or to the beach.

[Nightmoon23]

I get where you’re coming from and I see what you mean by it’s more exciting to do it with people. But you have to be around the people that’s want to take risks with you

[ChicoFromThe305]

You just got a slow down missy 😂

[Crimsyjo]

Aww it must be bad if a 23 Yr old is telling me to slow down lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't know if that was meant to be an insult lol

[Crimsyjo]

Noooo I just mean your 23 so you must be young and energetic lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea I guess but I'm one of those that people call the boring types ha

[Crimsyjo]

Haha well I guess you can reply your just content. And I'm discontent. So it's not a bad thing as long as u are happy!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Thanks, I hope you find your content-ness as well missy 💯

[kaucky1]

I've gotten planet almost all depopulated with rapture almost over a decade ago Ganja Fest

[AnonAndrew]

So what do you want to do?

[Crimsyjo]

Haha I want to have a party ! And go meet my FBs more often!

[AnonAndrew]

@Crimsyjo
So go ahead and do that! :)

[Crimsyjo]

They are never available as frequently as I like! Always busy with work or studies ugh
Which I am too but I can always make room for a quick fuck!

[AnonAndrew]

@Crimsyjo
So get more of them. :)

[Crimsyjo]

I got like 6 right now. And a few more that are siper occassional. But it's tricky cos if I catch something from someone new I'm gonna end up spreading it. So I never even wanted as many as I got lot. And even with so many they mostly busy Monday to Fridays when I want then! And then I end up seeing like 3 over the weekend.

[NicholasRedone]

Daydream or play The Sims lol

[Crimsyjo]

Oh i loved the Sims lol. But I don't want to waste my life living in fantasy land. Did far too much of that during my marriage.

[NicholasRedone]

@Crimsyjo why? The mall is just the same. ;)

[Jennz6]

Dancing and sex keep it interesting

[Crimsyjo]

I know Jenn. But none of my FBs have been around for 4 days! And club Saturday was a lesser good one than usual. My inner demon is climbing the walls right now wanting sex and dance!

[Jennz6]

@Crimsyjo
Sometimes we have to make the first move

[Crimsyjo]

I do sometimes. But then feel rejected when they "busy". I could get a new guy but I'm trying not to cos of std risks if I keep adding more guys to my little black book.

[Jennz6]

@Crimsyjo
Good luck honey

[krin_m]

I totally get it.

[ehatsham_hussain]

Life isn't for just fun.

[Crimsyjo]

What is it for then? If not to feel good and happy?
I do more than my share of responsible things. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, looking after the elderly, studying, working... I need fun to counter all this mundane life existence... right?
How do you feel content just sleepwalking through your life doing routine boring things day to day?

[Eros91]

By being spontaneous With some things.

[Crimsyjo]

I'm very spontaneous. I'll get up 2am to go see a FB that says hey come over. Or drive like 70 miles to see my far away one on a spur despite work in the morning. Or like last week went to watch a live band last minute.
But this week there isn't anything like that on until Sunday. And sure I cam go sit in a bar by myself but unless they got something going on it's a very lonely experience.

[Makeushiver]

I follow you

[CubaPirate]

Get out more and do new things

[Crimsyjo]

Not easy doing new things solo! But any ideas? I go cafes, bars, gym, club, classes (meditation once and sociology another time)..

[Yellovv]

Are you working at the moment?

[Crimsyjo]

Yes I work 25 hours a week and am studying for a degree. But I lack social interaction that I enjoy. Hanging out with female friends and family also leaves me feeling bored! Like it's a chore. I want a guy. But other than casual things have had no luck. But is only thing that seems to excite me.

[Yellovv]

Seem like you are looking guy who can able to please you.. Also which kind of job are you doing?

[Crimsyjo]

Yep i want a guy. But one who can also keep up with me energy wise.
And I'm a receptionist.

[RedTiefling]

Hallucinations

[seeyounexttuesday]

Get a hobby.

[Crimsyjo]

I have hobbies...
I paint, exercise, study... they just don't thrill me. Essentially I'm lonely and want a boyfriend. Everything else doesn't feel the same.