Are you an older sibling? Have you ever been parentified?

[Anonymous]

Did you take care of your siblings?
Toke care of your parents now and then?
Being bled out economically and emotionally?
Missed to enjoy a big part of your childhood?
Being the family's judge, teacher, cook, cleaner, slave, soldier and therapist?

[ohsheeT]

When I was 10 years old, my mom and my stepdad got a divorce a 10 years old, he told me, I was the man of the family now. The man of the house protect. Take care watch over my mom , brother and sister

I moved out when I was 16 and a 1/2 but i've always been there for my family

4 and a 1/2 years ago, my mom was living with my sister. She called me up and asked me to come pick her up long story short, I did, I asked her what was wrong. She says she couldn't live there anymore. She was being mean to my mom she had altimers, dementia. She wanted me to help her find a place to live, but there's no way I could let her live on her own. So I told her she was going to move in with me. So 4 years 4, half years, I took care of her, but the last 18 months of that, I couldn't do anything I couldn't work, I could not go anyplace. And in the four and a half years

Especially in the last eighteen months of it , I was getting scared because I was going to lose everything

My dad lived in another state, he died 2 months later, my mom died. I had to go crazy and work work. Work. Work work, work, work, work work at the same time. Trying to take care of all her stuff. Yes, II thought for sure. I was going to lose my house everything, but I ended up saving it all.

I have a brother that I would have him work for me sometimes. And it was like giving him the free paycheck, because he didn't care about workmanship or anything. But yes, I know what you mean. And that happened like I said Thank god that he made everything work for me. But that's what happens when your parents get old , and there's no way I was going to put her in a home that would just mean and rude so I promised her I would never do that but if your parents are getting old , you're more likely gonna have to watch them

[Asker]

You really are a strong man and full of merits!

A great man, son ans brothers

[ohsheeT]

Thank you for your words im just me and i just look at everything thing more than one way there are always many paths we can take. And life is not always about me

[ohsheeT]

I to believe you have been through a lot of things and you are very strong and wise. You see and feel things deeper than most

[Asker]

Thank you

[abc3643]

I am older than my sister by 4 years, but we were too close in age for me to "parentify" her.