Girls is it normal for my sister to be walking around our apartment half naked in front of me?

[Anonymous]

This is no joke I'm dead serious… My sister and I are in our 20's and we share an apartment. We're really close and when we go out to clubs she's like my wing woman. But lately she's been coming home from her bank teller job and just dropping her skirt and chillin on the couch with just a bra and tights on. And she walks around like that until we make dinner, go out that night, or she goes to bed. I mean she's my sister so I'm f**king grossed out. I don't know how to tell her to stop without it being super awkward. we are so close, but as you girls know you can basically see everything through pantyhose and for some reason she doesn't see a problem with it.. I don't know what to do.

[Enquirer]

I think it's normal for her to do what she's doing, she's trying to relax. Why does it gross you out? Is it because she doesn't look sexy in her bra and pantyhose? Why not just keep quiet and enjoy the view? I don't understand what's gross about seeing a woman in her 20s in her bra and tights, unless she doesn't look attractive that way.

I suppose you could always try just walking around in your underwear or maybe even naked a few times, and if she objects to you doing that, tell her you feel the same way about her just wearing bra and tights at home. That might be all it takes to get her to start covering up.

[Scarecrow13]

Have you talked to her about it? DO you both pay for rent? If so then there really isn't anything you can do aside from leaving.

[pooper89]

I talked to a guy once who told me that he lived with his sister and she let him see her boobs (because he was telling me about how she had fake boobs). He said that he didn't feel any arousal -that'd be absurd.

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with it -of course she should make herself decent if you were to have a friend over.

But I mean, if it's bothering you then there's no harm in telling her that it bothers you. You've got to communicate.

"but as you girls know you can basically see everything through pantyhose"

Well does she not wear panties underneath?

[laceyz565]

Just tell her to put some clothes on because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Like you said your both adults so you shouldn't be scared to tell your sister how it makes you feel.

[Asker]

Thanks laceyz565 have you ever just worn pantyhose around the house or is that weird in itself?

[Claireluvskaren]

A bit strange, but she isn't naked, though she is your sister, ask her to put on sweets, or walk around naked a few times she will get the hint

[Enquirer]

I wonder if his sister might be doing this on purpose, to get her brother sexually aroused. He said she's his wingman (or wingwoman), but I wonder if their going out together and being in the sqme apartment together a lot might not be making her feel some kind of sexual desire for him.

[CheeseMonster]

I want to say just frame it as a problem with casual nudity? Which is pretty common. That's why some people are seen as gross if they show their body. It's not just "not sexy", it's that all nudity is seen as bad and uncomfortable unless there's something sexual to counter-act that badness, I guess..

Definitely don't compare her to "people seen as gross" like I just did though, cause that sounds mean. Don't make any comparison actually. Just make the focus nudity in general. It's commonly understood to be a bit taboo, a bit awkward and uncomfortable. You're one of the people who agrees with that sentiment.

Be open to find a compromise, because she probably enjoys dressing how she wants in her home and won't want to just 100% stop. But you also don't want to feel uncomfortable in your home. So if you both can recognize there's a problem with the current situation, then some change should be able to be made.

[Betwyn]

Is this a new thing?

I mean, I have a friend who this was basically normal in their family..

So, I guess I'm asking, is her behaviour new? or is the way you feel about it new?

[Enquirer]

For some families it is, but I think they're in the minority. Guys are so visual that once the boys hit puberty, they can spring instant erections from seeing a naked female body, even if that body belongs to their mom or sister. Did your friend every say if her brothers got erections from seeing her or her mom naked?

[Betwyn]

They weren't naked. And from what I read, neither is his sister. Plus, he isn't 15 and just hitting puberty for things to suddenly "change"

[Enquirer]

So walking around in just pantyhose was a common thing for his sister and mother to do? I'm confused about what practice was normal in their family. The kid wouldn't have to be 15 or going through puberty to get turned on by a girl wearing see-through pantyhose.

[Betwyn]

I'm just saying that it is odd for her to just suddenly start doing this.. and if she didn't just start doing this, its odd that it is suddenly bothering him..

Something in their dynamic has changed.

[Enquirer]

OK, I think I understand. I think you're right that something in their dynamic has changed, because he said his sister had just started doing this lately, so it sounds like she didn't do it before. Seems like she would know that guys are visual that even her brother would stare at her if she's just wearing pantyhose. Maybe she's looking for validation that she looks appealing to men?

[BrunetteNYC]

someone has to teach her right from wrong. I have 3 brothers and I never ever did such a thing in front of them. It's called respect.

[523206720]

You need to tell her before she starts sitting around without the pantyhose.

[Asker]

thanks. but how should I go about it. We're both adults so I don't want to come off juvenile. I mean she obviously is comfortable with me and I don't want to ruin that by possibly embarrassing her by saying "hey sis I don't want you walking around in tights anymore" . what if she takes offense?

[Enquirer]

Well, if she's paying half the rent at their apartment, then she can dress how she chooses when she's there. What's wrong with her sitting around without the pantyhose as long as she's wearing panties?

[baldballs]

i think its fine. you can see her pussy right? is her pussy ugly? tell her if her pussy is ugly, does she shave her pussy?

[Ldykllr69]

Next time she does that duck into the bathroom and put on a bra and some pantyhose and see what her reaction is

[Anonymous]

Get her to bring over her hot friends to hang out naked.

[Kris85]

I wouldn't do that in front of my brother. Ick.

[Asker]

Kris85 have you ever worn just pantyhose around the house or is that completely weird

[Enquirer]

Well Kris85, as hot as you look in your profile pic, your brother probably wouldn't mind if you walked around the house in just pantyhose, lol.

[FeelingGroovy]

Yes..

[Kellyht01]

Yes

[Enquirer]

Yes what? That is normal for his sister to walk around their apartment half naked? Even if she's doing that in front of her brother?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she likes you.

[Enquirer]

What do you mean by maybe his sister likes him? Like in a sexual way? As if she's walking around half naked because she wants to have sex with him and she's hoping that seeing her half naked will make him put a move on her?