Questions: Family & Friends

Background:🎀

More specifically, If you discovered that your great grandmother left you an inheritance BUT your parents (the ones meant to protect you from harm) spent it and then tried to cover it up, what would you do?💭

He (43 M) doesn't want to admit that he really messed up greatly so I'm writing on his behalf. He had an affair lasting for nearly a year, his wife found out about it. That's not all though.

He had an affair with the wife's best friend from her college years and the woman still got pregnant at the age of 41. They only have a son that's already in his first year of college, not a minor anymore. His wife (my soon to be ex SIL) has started the divorce process. She has all the evidence of both the affair and the product of it.

He really wishes to work it out but my SIL refuses to. She wants him out. In this case, he deserves what's coming for him right?

Background: My life has done a complete 360° since God put me in time out to heal for the last three years. I have ignited new passions and rekindled old passions during my journey.

I now have the privilege of pursuing higher education or taking time off to start a family. I am undecided. I feel like the only thing I TRULY want for my life is to be a mommy but the world has sooooo much more to offer through education.

There are many opportunities that have been presented to me that makes the idea of holding off on children more appealing even if I'd prefer to have a baby now. There is also fear in becoming a first-time new mommy. It's a lot of work and I would most likely be doing all the domestic labor by myself or with a nanny.

*Sighs*

There's a lot to consider. If you are currently a parent, I really want to hear from you. All opinions are welcome of course. So should I take a break from schooling and focus on becoming a mommy or finish my Master's and Ph. D program then settle down with baby?

I've included a poll to make things easier if you don't feel like writing. I enjoy reading what you all have to say though.

If friend A told you months in advance about a special event they want you to attend (without a specified date yet) and you told them you will attend when you receive the date; for friend B to ask you recently if you’re free next weekend for dinner and you are technically free for now so you say yes… for friend A to say the event is now next weekend (the same day as the dinner with friend B), would you go with friend A or friend B? I feel like I have to be with friend A since I promised months prior I will be there but I feel bad for flaking on friend B… what would you choose?