Questions: Family & Friends

Just like the saying ''once a cheater, always a cheater'', does the same applies to bullies? They never sincerely change don't they? I'll tell you a brief real experience.

In both 7th and 8th grade, I used to get obstracized by classmates and picked on for being somewhat overweight, wearing glasses and had facial acne issues. In other words, I was the ugly girl at school. My emotional/verbal bully (lets call him James) made my school years miserable, humiliating in front of the class many times. Every day after school, I felt horrible about myself.

Over the years I've worked on myself and grew out of the ugly duckling stage. Just 3 months ago, I get a Fb message and invitation from none other than James. He started complimenting on my change and how he's sorry for before. I wasn't convinced but wanted to test him if he had really changed. I let him pay all the dates. On the 4th date, something was funny to him. I asked him what it was and he secretly pointed out to an elder woman (she was apparently suffering from obesity issue and spots in her face) that was having a hard time sitting on a bench alone. That's when he told me ''Look at her, she looks like Porky's girlfriend, see those legs and she looks like a melted cheese. LMAO''. He excused that since it's in private and he's only saying it to me, it's no big deal.

I got upset and told him that was he was same superficial jerk from our school years, the same 13-14 year-old bully that all he cares is about appearances and not a person's values, left and blocked him. We're now 24 year-olds already. He hasn't changed. Are bullies generally like that?