What is one thing your parents did that you want to do for your kids, and what’s one thing you would like to do better?

[BarryLiverstone]

Whether you already have kids or may have them in the future, answer with two goals you have in mind to copy your parents or improve on how they raised you.

[WonderBell99]

I'm not really planning to have kids in the future at the moment, but if I do change my mind, and go on to have kids, I would make them do some light chores and help with the housework. My parents made me fold my clothes, wash my own dishes after I'd finished eating, make my own bed, and on occasion, I helped my parents with cooking on the weekends. They made sure I knew all the basics (not in cooking, lol, but in general) to take care of myself. I knew what responsibility was from a young age because of these small chores that I did.

Secondly, if I wanted them to buy me something unnecessary, say an eyeshadow palette, I had to work for it. In my schools, we had tests often. Especially, when I was in 10th, 11th and 12th grade, we had two tests every week. One cumulative test and one weekend test. I had to be in the top 5 (out of 72 people; scores were calculated by combining two schools... my school had many branches in the country, so two of those in the city were taken and combined). If I was in the top 5 in at least one of them, I would get what I asked for. If not, I'd have to work towards it and prove myself in the next test. Until I do so, I would not get the stuff I asked for.

My parents fought a lot when I was a kid, and even dragged me into their mess plenty of times. I know how much of a negative impact it could have on a child's development, so I would never fight or argue with my partner in front of my kids if I do have them in the future. I would practice "tough love". I would be stern, but also loving and compassionate and I would also let them know that I'm always there for them if they ever need to talk about anything. I would value their privacy and take their grievances into consideration.

[Apple1996]

The best thing my parents ever did was allowed me to be myself. It seems like such a simple thing but so many parents try forcing their ideas on their childern. They always allowed me to dress, eat, act however I wanted, wasn't forced into religion, to have perfect grades, to do chores. All of it was my choice. And I'm doing the same for my kids. We all deserve to be the person we want to be not the person our parents want us to be.

Only thing I plan on doing differently is talking more openly with my kids. My parents werent the best at making me feel comfortable if I needed to talk to them

[Kelly6]

im doing same

[Apple1996]

@Kelly6 good choice!. I'm sure your kiddies will appreciate it! 🙂

[Kelly6]

Thanks
Yes he already appreciates it and is much happy and feel no embarrassment to ask any questions related to it

[NathanDavis]

I don't have my own kids yet... but I already have a niece, and I am already doing that for her

my parents did raise me among other things, to be better than them, and also to be the best version of myself and they also lead by example, despite of all the struggles, challenges, their flaws and shortcomings, they still tried, they gave me understanding on that... that it did not matter much which mistakes they made or others do, they should never be a justification nor excuse for me to do the same wrongs or bads...

strive to be a better self, that is always worth...

and that's something I've been trying to do for my niece, since I am partially raising her as well, along with my parents and of course her own parents... we're all in business, we all work a lot but we NEVER leave her alone, one or the other will be always there, to show her and guide her for and through better ways, and as usual, leading with the example not just words for the sake of words

me personally... I've always told her that I'm both an example of what things to do, and what other things NOT to do, lol...

[Emiliamazing]

My folks had money set aside for my undergraduate degree. They didn't need all of it because I had a full academic scholarship, but they were very generous with my living expenses and I am very grateful for that. What we are trying to do better is have more patience. My mother is a saint, but my father has a very heated temper. We are trying to keep that out of our family life. It's a lot of work for both of us, but I think we're doing a good job.

[Gochogirl]

As much as I don't like my mom I appreciate that she didn't try to trick me into doing chores and stuff. She told me WHY things are done the way they are instead of just telling me to do it.

As for improving... literally everything else.

[Lina26]

I taught my kid family values just like my parents did.
And what I did better was to teach my child to believe in herself and her dreams and to always trust her gut.

[BlueScorpio]

Give them food, clothing, and roof over their head and plenty of love.

[curlyfirecracker]

Dinner together as a family. Weekend game/movie nights at least once a month.

[Agape93]

N/A for the first half, the other I'd do better is believe my kids

[linka_pat307]

I have nothing noe... the way ma parents do things don't impress me